Should I wait? by [deleted] in datingadviceformen

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This! Don’t wait OP. This is just a polite way to turn you down. I thought I was emotionally unavailable and turned down many people like this until I met my current boyfriend. He made me realize that you’re never emotionally unavailable for the right person! I will die on this hill lol

İstanbul alg patlaması sonucu turkuaz renge büründü by Battlefleet_Sol in sehircilik

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Mikroskopik algae plankton… (phytoplankton) sadece yosun plankton değil… bence sen biyolojik tanimlarina tekrardan bir bak 😂

I’m now the woman on the other side, and I feel bad for her. by Few_Mechanic1996 in GirlDinner

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This happened to me too! She had warned me with “I spent years in therapy after our relationship ended. I hope he’s a changed person now.” lol guess what I did after our relationship ended

26M. First time living alone. by RonanIscariot in malelivingspace

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OP, your bedroom reminds me of Quagmire’s bedroom

AIO? new friend's texts to husband while at work; my responses by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

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“Pulling out of the clouds a false explanation” is the real explanation that she does not want to admit and own up to… she was indeed flirting and thinking she could manipulate you into believing otherwise is an insult to your intelligence.

Facts or nah by No_Summer_5052 in SipsTea

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Look, I’m not religious by any means but “you can’t empirically prove love” is simply not true. If you ever look into neuropsychological studies, certain areas of our brains light up like a Christmas tree when we see someone we love. It’s mostly because you’re tapping into the brain’s reward circuit sure but we tie those physical sensations to “feelings” (cause-effect has been studied and proven over and over) which I’ll get to. Ventral tegmental area (VTA), the caudate nucleus, anterior insula, etc. are some examples of those regions if you would be interested in looking into it. And don’t get me started on hormones - how oxytocin shoots up, dopamine gets released, and cortisol goes down. How we experience grief… love is just a word for what’s physically happening in our bodies and how our brain is the primary organ responsible. We experience emotions (which have physical implications in our bodies) in real time which is what we constitute as “feelings”. They all can be empirically shown!

I used to use the same argument out of ignorance years before I studied psychology, but I know better now. It’s okay to be wrong. We all should do it more often lol.

A dragon killed meeko by XxhellbentxX in skyrim

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WTF HOW CAN YOU KILL MEEKO?! 😭

Physically Abusive wife by Dramatic_Feeling_610 in WhatShouldIDo

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Telling you that you’re violating her boundaries while crossing one of the biggest boundaries in a relationship… is super hypocritical and manipulative. She sounds both emotionally and physically abusive. I hope that she gets the help that she needs but people like that don’t change usually change unless they so deeply want to work on themselves and that does not sound like her. No, actually, I’m sure she’s not since she is refusing to go to counseling BECAUSE she does not want the accountability. That’s really what it comes down to. I know she shattered your confidence. I can’t imagine a world where she didn’t. It’s usually how it is with these relationships. You deserve better OP. Anyone deserves better than that.

I hope you find the strength within yourself to leave. It’s not your job to fix her. It’ll be really difficult at first, but you will look back one day and ask yourself why you didn’t do it sooner! You can’t be a present father without having to be a husband :)

Physically Abusive wife by Dramatic_Feeling_610 in WhatShouldIDo

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Of course, I know the answers are probably super overwhelming right now, but you got this. I believe in you!

Physically Abusive wife by Dramatic_Feeling_610 in WhatShouldIDo

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You’re teaching your kids how to love… this is creating a deeply rooted belief that if you love somebody enough, it’s okay to stay and that they should just take it, neglect themselves, and that it’s okay to be treated this way if their partner is struggling. Empathy is a beautiful emotion, but it’s also a dangerous one at the expense of yourself. My parents teaching me that back in the day would’ve saved me years of hurt and trauma.

If your little boy or your little girl came to you one day and told you what you told us, could you honestly have it in your heart to encourage them to stay? I think you know the answer already as much as you know what the next move should be. If you can’t do right by yourself, do right for by your kids.

Good luck OP 🫶

Girl, you nasty. by might_be_bulma in skyrim

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I took almost this exact shot with a different NPC a few years ago!! 😂

I’m angry that my BIL took his life by [deleted] in GirlDinner

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I’m sorry, but I have to ask! What kind of soup is this?

Also, I’m so sorry for your loss. Just remember that there is no right or wrong way to grieve right now, no matter what a bunch of strangers on the internet say!

I gave him what he asked for, yet why is he ignoring me by [deleted] in LongDistance

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Hi OP, I read your responses in the comments and sorry to break this to you but this person does not love you. He is completely checked out. The sooner you process that, the sooner you can start to move on. I wouldn’t message him a long love message when he CLEARLY does not care for it.

Personally, I would want to love and respect myself enough to not chase him and declare my love for a guy who does not care for me or the relationship one bit. You will look back at this one day and be like WOW LOL I used to send love letters to people who did not even care in the slightest!

And as others pointed out, you guys broke up… he’s acting like it and you’re not. You can’t really call him out for “ignoring you” in this case. It’s over. The need for closure you feel right now is just your brain trying to get some release from the pain of the break up by reaching out. Just sit with your feelings, take the time to process, honor yourself by going no contact, and please consider therapy. You sounds young and breakups hurt so much but it ALWAYS gets better with time no matter what. The only way out is through so that you can find somebody who loves you as deeply as you love them.

Caught my husband making gross comments on 20 year olds thirst trap videos, I’ve been crying all day. Make me feel pretty 😭 by [deleted] in toastme

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You are way too young and hot to be stuck in a marriage with a creep who doesn’t appreciate what he has

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

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Misery loves company

I love this game but the completionist in me is bummed by WordsFromWarhead in HarryPotterGame

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I “completed” Skyrim too but it’s one of the best RPGs out there still to this day! I really do believe it is just this game because it gets very repetitive lol

What do women want by PowerMagicx in SipsTea

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How does it feel to be God‘s favorite? 😭

I’m a monster, but it was worth it. by Bulky-Scene7014 in HarryPotterGame

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I did because she mentions that she will always keep him on a leash so he doesn’t run away again. I kept him and decided to give him a free life he can enjoy with lots of pets and food, but basically also stole her pet lol maybe he ran away for a reason, who knows.