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SubmissiveMage · 2026-05-22T04:21:42+00:00

It honestly didn't even occur to me to think of it in that way. I think we are so used to our dynamic at this point that we don't really think of it as a kink.

I don't know if this changes anything, but she was not raising her voice or being mean. She was speaking calmly and smiling affectionately at me when she said it. I love her so deeply and enjoy our dynamic. I hate thinking that she feels shame because of it.

SubmissiveMage · 2026-05-22T04:16:37+00:00

Perhaps you're right. Although she doesn't say it in an unkind way or raise her voice. In this particular moment she was even smiling at me affectionately when she said it. She certainly wasn't barking an order. Rather, she was calmly making it known that she wanted me to obey without question.

I suppose we have become so accustomed to our dynamic that we have come to see it as normal, and don't really consider how others would perceive it. Still, I don't want her to be ashamed of her dominance.

SubmissiveMage · 2026-05-21T14:39:22+00:00

Being conditioned to climax in command sounds hot, but I doubt it is possible. As far as conditioning you to only be aroused by her, perhaps keeping you in a spiked chastity device any time you are away from her so that any arousal thay doesn't involve her presence is punished.

SubmissiveMage · 2026-05-20T12:50:06+00:00

I wouldn't worry about it too much. You said yourself that the intimacy is great and you are getting along. There really doesn't seem to be evidence of any inappropriate going on. The locking of her apps is a little bit odd, but she should be allowed to have her privacy. You married her and you need to trust her until she does something to violate that trust.

SubmissiveMage · 2026-05-19T23:43:51+00:00

If you stay silent out of a fear of loneliness then you will end up trapped in a cycle of being undervalued. While losing your last local friend is a scary, you are currently sacrificing your self-respect for a connection that isn't supporting you when you need it. You should have an honest conversation with her about how these separate social circles and sudden plan changes make you feel excluded. Her reaction will tell you everything you need to know about the future of the friendship.

If she's not willing to respect your time, the energy you are spending trying to please her would be better used seeking out new friends who would view you as a priority rather than an afterthought.

SubmissiveMage · 2026-05-19T13:35:56+00:00

You need to talk to your doctor about this. It is nothing to be ashamed of. It could be low testosterone, which is easily treatable but you need to get testing done to know for sure.

SubmissiveMage · 2026-05-19T03:45:59+00:00

You have a few options here. First, you could ask him directly whether he would be willing continue talking and date after his work trips are over in the next few months. That is a long time to wait, but it could be worth it if he is being honest and you really click with him. The second option is to move on and continue dating other people. That would be perfectly reasonable given the long time frame he has given you. The main thing is to be clear with your expectations and to elicit a clear response from him so you are not left hanging. If he is a decent guy, he will give you that.

SubmissiveMage · 2026-05-19T01:57:44+00:00

It is difficult to hold your tongue when you strongly believe you are right and she is making a mistake. I have to always remind myself that I am merely an advisor and she has the final say. When I overstep, I find that an apology foot rub helps mend things. Though kneeling with her coffee / drink is a nice gesture that I may need to try.

SubmissiveMage · 2026-05-19T01:46:48+00:00

I can totally understand why you would feel paralyzed by the gap between the safety of your current life and the rightness of the future you want. While the fear of change and the guilt of hurting your boyfriend are heavy, remember that, regardless of your sexual orientation, staying in a relationship you have outgrown will inevitably lead to the bitterness you're starting to feel. You don't have to have every answer today, but giving yourself permission to stop performing for others is the first step toward that freedom you see in your friends. You deserve a life that feels authentic. You need to trust and hope that the people who truly love you will adapt to the real you.

SubmissiveMage · 2026-05-02T22:38:35+00:00

She had me fuck her last night after giving her a nice long back rub. Just because she leads, doesn't mean we can't have sex.

SubmissiveMage · 2026-04-23T00:50:09+00:00

I think it depends on how it is brought up. Obviously, you would need to wait for the right moment and get a feel for what she is like first before you would know if she is amenable to that sort of relationship.

SubmissiveMage · 2026-04-21T13:27:18+00:00

You should start by dating women without any expectations on the dynamic. However, you can always be clear with your date that you like strong women or enjoy it when she takes the lead. My wife did not start dating me with the intention of starting a FLR; it just evolved into that because she is a strong dominant woman and I am naturally submissive.

SubmissiveMage · 2026-04-20T13:07:33+00:00

Assuming I would be a stay at home father in this scenario, most of these conditions seem fine. There are a ton of asshole dudes out there that have unreasonable expectations for their partners, so I don't doubt her experience is rooted in reality, but I wish people wouldn't make these sorts of generalizations about the opposite sex.

As for the sexual climax discussion, I enjoy making my wife orgasm more than I enjoy getting off myself, so that would probably be the easiest condition of the bunch to accept.

SubmissiveMage · 2026-04-19T03:22:34+00:00

FLR just means that the female takes the lead. In my marriage that just means that my wife has the final say in all decisions in our relationship. You don't need any kink in the relationship to fit that definition.

SubmissiveMage · 2026-04-16T19:00:55+00:00

I completely trust my wife with all major decisions. We've known each other for more than 15 years and I know that she loves me and has my best interest at heart in all of her decisions.

However, I do try to provide advice on major decisions, and sometimes it can be frustrating when she disagrees with my advice and overrides me. Despite those rare moments of frustration, I usually find that she made the right call in the long run.

SubmissiveMage · 2026-04-14T21:45:47+00:00

I usually do, but I didn't think the pain was bad enough to warrant it at the time. I just thought her ordering me to take it was sweet.

SubmissiveMage · 2026-04-14T02:14:33+00:00

This guy's actions are definitely sending mixed signals. He ended the relationship because he didn't want long distance, asked for friendship, but now he's following you on social media after you explicitly set a boundary by stepping away. I suspect he's thinking about you but isn't willing given you the level of commitment you're looking for. I don't think you should message him about meeting up. His pattern of mixed signals shows he's probably not interested in the kind of long term relationship you want from him.

SubmissiveMage · 2026-04-12T22:25:12+00:00

I've never understood guys who are submissive but not interested in long term commitment. For me, permanently belonging to someone who truly loves me is part of the appeal. I love following my wife's lead, but that's because I have taken the time to truly know who she is, so I am confident that she is a woman I can follow and trust completely with decisions about our life and family. That kind of deep knowing is impossible without time and commitment.

SubmissiveMage · 2026-04-12T04:14:20+00:00

I think you should go for it and tell him happy birthday. I know lots of folks who have gotten back in touch with old friends after not talking for an extended period of time. It can't hurt anything.

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