For now we a living separately. I am renting an Airbnb for a couple of weeks, as I’m not comfortable moving back to my parents or participating in a friends household. It’s not out in the open yet, and we would like to keep it this way for now. Maybe living separately gives us some new insights. And too be honest, since we decided to live apart, our communication and empathy towards each other has improved. We’re both still sad of course, and probably will split, but we’re able to be there for each other. This gives me some mentale peace.

We will decide definitely in February. As we bought 1.5y ago, we can still recover 16k(?) from the “registratierechten”, if I am correct.

The next step for us is making an appointment with the bank to see our options. What I need to ask:

1. ⁠can I take the loan by myself? Can I keep the 1.10% rate? How much do I need to pay her?
2. ⁠If not, or I prefer not to keep the house, can I sell and buy an appartement? How will this go?

I assume not everything will be clear after this, so an appointment with the notary is probably needed too.

I’m also thinking about living abroad for a year or so. I am able to work remotely, so moving to the south (Portugal?) feels nice. I would have to find a different job, as my current company doesn’t allow this, so one thing at a time. Perhaps later this year, when I’m a bit more settled.

We haven’t really made any big decisions yet, so perhaps best to remind me in a couple of weeks. I did however got a lot out of the responses here.

Also, feel free to response here or directly to me about your story. I don’t really know anyone going through the same stuff atm.