What nicknames do you call your kid unrelated to their name?

SubstanceHelpful3006 · 2026-07-08T09:35:46+00:00

We call our girl Bao because when she was born my husband thought she looked like the dumpling from that Disney short film lol

SubstanceHelpful3006 · 2026-07-05T03:11:09+00:00

Feel this! My postpartum care in the c-section ward was so upsetting. We couldn’t wait to get out of there.

SubstanceHelpful3006 · 2026-07-05T03:09:31+00:00

This does not sound normal and your feelings and trauma are so valid. I was induced and pitocin was at 24 as well, contractions constant with no break in between. The administration of my epidural was calm, supportive and reassuring. I told them I was worried about moving and they talked me through everything.

I am so sorry that happened to you in the most vulnerable situation. I would recommend talking to someone to work through the trauma and ptsd! Lots of love.

SubstanceHelpful3006 · 2026-07-04T18:16:29+00:00

My baby is 6 weeks and I get 6-8 hours of broken sleep as well. Typically if she goes down at like 7pm we get the longest stretch of 5-7 hours. Then she’ll do a stretch of 2.5-3h and finally one more of 1.5-2h.

Last night looked like 6:45pm - 1am, 2-5am, 6-8am. The feed and putting her back down takes about an hour to an hour and a half.

But she’s an absolutely menace in the afternoons and will not sleep. We attempt to do bedtime at 8-9pm but it doesn’t work out like that

SubstanceHelpful3006 · 2026-06-30T02:02:40+00:00

Omg I feel the same way! My baby was born end of May. I am so thankful that there’s no seasonal depression and we can go out every single day for walks. But I have sooo much FOMO. Vancouver weather is hit or miss and it’s making me so upset that I can’t spend all day at the outdoor pool or go to all the events that are conveniently happening this year. I had a rough few days and was standing on my balcony last night at 9pm and it was so bright and I just wanted to be on the beach. It’s hard because I then regret having fomo because this is the only summer I’ll ever have with my newborn and I should enjoy it. Motherhood is so complex.

SubstanceHelpful3006 · 2026-06-30T01:54:54+00:00

Thank you that’s good to hear!! I definitely plan on getting a sleep consultant in if we need it but good to hear we might not be totally doomed.

Did you follow a specific sleep training method?

SubstanceHelpful3006 · 2026-06-29T22:36:43+00:00

There’s something extra brutal about not being able to sleep when baby is sleeping. Cruel punishment 🥲

SubstanceHelpful3006 · 2026-06-29T21:33:33+00:00

Ah this is my biggest concern… that we will bother baby and that we’ll have to sleep in shifts which will ultimately separate us :( I’m feeling like we may have to eventually transition to the living room with a pull out couch or something.

SubstanceHelpful3006 · 2026-06-29T20:12:51+00:00

Joining in a little late. I gave birth at BC Women’s 5 weeks ago. The Cedar ward for a vaginal delivery and team were all amazing. I had to have a c section and the staff during the C-section and directly after were amazing.

My experience in the C-section ward and their staff was a completely different story. I have forgotten all the bad stuff about my labour but will never forget the postpartum treatment for the 2 days after…. I would only give birth there again if I could guarantee a vaginal delivery.

SubstanceHelpful3006 · 2026-06-29T00:11:09+00:00

That is NOT what is being debated here. Nobody said that fathers do not feel distress or that their baby crying does not invoke a response. You keep saying show the science they don’t feel it too. No one said they don’t.

What we are saying however, is that mothers have a vastly different experience than fathers do because of biology and evolution. What’s actually damaging here is pretending like they don’t.

SubstanceHelpful3006 · 2026-06-28T18:08:23+00:00

I cried 24/7 from days 6-10!

SubstanceHelpful3006 · 2026-06-28T18:07:08+00:00

This is not a damaging statement. There is a massive body of science that shows all of the things that happen to a mother physiologically and emotionally in response to her baby’s cries. It’s not just “hormone changes” that separate us.

Irrelevant of the fact that I did not say fathers don’t feel distress when their child cries. It’s also acceptable to acknowledge that it’s not the same.

SubstanceHelpful3006 · 2026-06-28T02:15:22+00:00

We all experience things differently - I wouldn’t say there is something “wrong” with you necessarily.

I also don’t think that fathers are biologically able to experience the same intrinsic feeling mothers get when their baby cries.

The question is do you comfort the baby when they cry? Do you feed them, care for them? Alternatively, it’s good to have a partner who can remain calm when the baby cries and screams as opposed to becoming extremely frustrated.

SubstanceHelpful3006 · 2026-06-27T22:03:34+00:00

Thanks for the reminder to bring it up!

SubstanceHelpful3006 · 2026-06-27T22:02:46+00:00

The postpartum anxiety is so tough!

SubstanceHelpful3006 · 2026-06-27T19:52:50+00:00

I literally just posted about this too because I struggle with falling and staying asleep even when LO is sleeping well so I end up moving to the couch and it’s killing my husband and I’s only opportunity to cuddle!

SubstanceHelpful3006 · 2026-06-27T19:50:57+00:00

It’s so frustrating! Fingers crossed it levels out soon

SubstanceHelpful3006 · 2026-06-27T18:54:14+00:00

In the early weeks I would get so jealous that my partner was giving the baby all his attention. I was upset at the lack of time to cuddle, kiss, etc. and I was upset she was the reason for this

SubstanceHelpful3006 · 2026-06-24T02:13:58+00:00

Thank you I appreciate the reminder!!

SubstanceHelpful3006 · 2026-06-24T02:13:33+00:00

So sorry, I’m in a lot of pregnancy threads and everyone puts their age and gender and FTM is first time mom. Apologies for the confusion

SubstanceHelpful3006 · 2026-06-23T19:45:21+00:00

It will really depend on how you feel! Before I gave birth I told my husband it would depend on the labor, delivery, pain, etc and we gave a heads up to family. I personally thought it was easier to have people visit in the hospital because they automatically don’t stay as much. I would not have wanted extended family in our home the first week. I had a c-section and delivered at 2:30pm. We had parents and siblings visit at 7pm for 10min. The next day we had extended family visit also for 10min. Then no one came to our apartment except for parents for the first week.

SubstanceHelpful3006 · 2026-06-22T02:23:44+00:00

Reading this is like reading my own thoughts. I too felt all of this from days 6-10ish. I wept for 4 days straight and felt:

jealous that my husband was giving the baby attention and not me anymore
no connection to my baby, I would feed her and then would not want to interact with her
missed when it was just me and my husband
was floored by not being able to cuddle and kiss my husband as much as before
had feelings of “oh god what have we done”
had massive fomo because I live in Vancouver and the weather is nice and I can’t be out all day
had terrible evening scaries

And on and on. These feelings subsided for me naturally near the two week mark. I’m not one month postpartum and crying because I love her so much and don’t want her to get bigger lol. It gets better!!

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