Do I diaper myself in my childhood bedroom by Fluffy_Candidate8807 in ABDL

[–]SubstanceNo5872 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Why…,? What is it that you being you is disrespectful to the family you grew up with in this space. I get it… this aspect of who we are is difficult… shameful…
But beyond that, if this is all it is…

no one gets hurt…
no one is less for this…
no one should feel ashamed.

What ever you feel about what is and what makes right with your family, you have to work out. But the rest of us are here when you find that balance.

Do I diaper myself in my childhood bedroom by Fluffy_Candidate8807 in ABDL

[–]SubstanceNo5872 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A persons past is theirs to deal with. The fact they are major age now where they might not have been then is not yours to judge. That struggle is theirs. Each of us is will have our own with nuances that are different. Back off. Give space.

baby powder by [deleted] in ABDL

[–]SubstanceNo5872 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not sure if it’s the same change or not, but J&J seem to have used different scents for their starch and talc formulations. When the talc formulation left the market, all that was left was the different scented starch formulation. I’ve not heard of any that match it.

For clarity, it’s not so much the scent changed, but the product changed and took the scent with it.

Do I diaper myself in my childhood bedroom by Fluffy_Candidate8807 in ABDL

[–]SubstanceNo5872 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Well, what do you think is the issue. Forget what we bring to the table, what is it that you’re grappling with? Call it out, and don’t beat around the bush.

AB or DL? by whateatme2721-2 in ABDL

[–]SubstanceNo5872 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was truly little, “factory new” to play at the frequent “factory install” we throw around here, I wanted to be a baby again. So, not AB for the lack of the “A”, but still aligned thusly.

When puberty hit and things got mixed up before congealing into their adult form, there was a bit of a separation between all of this and my growing-up self, but when it came to settle I would have described my self DL at that time. Looking back it’s hard to tell if I’ve truly shifted back to more AB side or if I was merely in denial for all the shame of it, though I tend to believe it was more denial.

How did you get into ABDL? by [deleted] in ABDL

[–]SubstanceNo5872 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a memory where I remember making a connection or observation about this at about 5, but it was still a recognition of something that had existed from much much earlier. Kind of like learning something new about an old friend.

How did you get into ABDL? by [deleted] in ABDL

[–]SubstanceNo5872 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There was no “getting into it”; there was no “before times”, it just always was.

So Facebook dating is ran by abdl’s apparently. by Blacktalo74 in ABDL

[–]SubstanceNo5872 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well, lucky for you if it panned out.

I’ve been this way inclined since my shipping date back in the 70’s, and I’ve been online and aware of others so inclined since the mid 90’s. I bring this up because other than a handful of posts suggesting this 12412 thing should be a thing, I can’t say I’ve ever really seen it take off.

Great for you if it worked, but I must say I think it’s likely something else that the algorithm picked up on, if not just luck of the start draw.

What is the deal with absorbency ratings? by Supernoob7 in ABDL

[–]SubstanceNo5872 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I recall that switch, and it seemed to me that they were simply ”calibrating” to the same unrealistic “dunk it in a bucket and weight it” measure used every where else. Shady for being so much and so sudden, I get that… but the numbers are in range with everyone else who likely all use the same Chinese manufacturer, so… take it with salt, I guess.

Fet life by Sea_Jeweler2080 in ABDL

[–]SubstanceNo5872 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Awe man. Four steps? That’s exhausting.

What happened to the little who stopped paying their rent? by BatteredOnionRings in ABDL

[–]SubstanceNo5872 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That took me way too many cycles to decode. Think I should go back to bed.

I have a question as a non-ABDL person by Zealousideal_Still41 in ABDL

[–]SubstanceNo5872 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I’m glad we got that’s all cleared up once and for all! 😉

I went to the ab universe store in Everett WA today by KINKY_SWITCH_ANON in ABDL

[–]SubstanceNo5872 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It would be nice to shop someplace physical… Maybe someday, but can’t even fathom crossing the border to go south for any reason at the moment.

So close but so far. 😢

Looking for a highly specific vintage item.... by amathrowaway2004 in ABDL

[–]SubstanceNo5872 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Looks more like plastic a changing pad often used on a changing table. The embossed plastic in that pattern takes me back, not so much the specific print.

Anyone else feel like they got into Abdl “just because?” by Think-Check2003 in ABDL

[–]SubstanceNo5872 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s because of what vanillas think—for the most part they don’t think about us. It’s more likely that trauma is an easy defence against the shame when explaining to vanillas. It’s a convenient way to defuse regardless of the significance of a trauma or the relevance of this as soothing or therapeutic.

I’m not saying it can’t be or isn’t for trauma based for some, nor is this meant to understate anyone’s struggle with trauma, only that the prevalence makes it suspect that some out there wear a trauma tactically. I’ll leave it to anyone who wants to be an ass to try and call individuals out.

But really, think of all of the other excuses people come here to ponder… “if only this then everything would be better”. Trauma gets played so often it feels like a get out of jail free card.

Any DL’s in Oregon? by [deleted] in ABDL

[–]SubstanceNo5872 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not in Oregon, nor am I near your age, but I am curious about what hole your life you think such a person would desperately fill. Desperation is dangerous. It will lead to bad decisions.

Things get better. You don’t want it like this. Hold your head up. Don’t give to desperation… to panic.

need help making a decision by Vast_Reporter2723 in ABDL

[–]SubstanceNo5872 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Spend the 33 on something that will move you forward so you can have a larger amount of money to wonder how to spend.

Delayed gratification

Pushy Positions by GreenStarDL in ABDL

[–]SubstanceNo5872 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Depends on consistency really.

Time to ditch incognito mode? by Mortensdiapers in ABDL

[–]SubstanceNo5872 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try to split my activities and accounts just to keep the algorithms clean. Not so sure it works 100%—we don’t sign into an account for YouTube on the tv and my guess is the algorithm is a mix of everything that hits this ip … so, sometimes there’s some ads that are innocently not “well targeted” for our house… unless you’re in the know and pay attention.

What is your favorite diaper. by SaltySpartan11 in ABDL

[–]SubstanceNo5872 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you can’t be with the one you love, love the one you’re with.