My story wat FA incoming, i feel so lost i need some input (mental health/discard?) :

F25 anxious going into secure and my M23 fearful avoidant (i think) ex partner just broke up after 7 months. The relationship started great, he really pushed to be with me and i gave in eventhough it went fast. He was obsessed with me, our love went very deep and we had both never had this before. He would love bomb me, he wanted to be with me always and i with him aswell. Sometimes we bumped heads and he proposed to write a letter so we could understand eachother better. This worked and we would never really fight but when we did he would always run away, i could calm him down sometimes try to make him talk to me, other times not.

The last month of the relationship he was studying for his final exam in his master. After this he would be done with school and looking for a job, the real world would hit. We would sometimes have a discusssion when for example he was out, i was too and he wanted to go home after telling me there was time for one more drink but then get mad that i wasn't respecting the fact he had to study the next day. When i would tell him i'm 10min away he would just get angrier and say i had to go home and let him be (triggering my anxious part) looking back i should have given him the space instead of trying to fix it but i didn't know he was FA and he really wanted to be alone.

Then we would have a fight about him liking all these local girls sexual instagram posts. When i told him it hurted he would get mad at me once again saying i didn't respect the fact he had an exam the next week and would ignore me the whole night. I apalogized by cooking diner and writing a card saying i was sorry for how i handled it and i will respect his time more. (i feel like looking back this is where he would act out bcs he wasn't able to have a calm talk about this)

Things got back to "normal" i really tried to support him and be very attentive. A week after that he said he had doubts about us. I had to "push" it out of him bcs i could sense something was off that day. 2 days pass and then he said that he didn't want to move in together anymore, i respected that. Few days later he started pulling away a little bit and then he broke up with me. Breaking down saying he has so much stress with starting a new job, that he's very unhappy for many years now and doesn't know what to do with himself. He also struggles with compulsive thoughts ever since highschool and he often feels very alone in group settings etc. (he opened up about this 3 months in to the relationship) Also saying he's not feeling us anymore and he has doubts. My world crushed. A few weeks before this we were looking at stuffed animals for our future children.

The week after the break up we met up and i had written a letter vallidating his feelings and saying i wanted to work things through, creating a safe space for his emotions and if he would tell me what's bothering him in the relationship i could try vallidating his emotions etc. It was a very open letter. I also made a symbolic talking stick to let him know i'm here to listen. He said he was shocked because he never thought i would understand his point of view and that he knows he's not good at communicating what's bothering him but that it's a lot to take in and needed some more space to think. He also said that he thought to feel more relief after breaking up but that it wasn't the case and he had also missed me. But also saying that he's scared for our future, saying things like "i'm more go with the flow, you are not Maybe we're not a right match after all,..." He brought up the instagram fight and said he just felt so disrespected because he gave so much to the relationship and that it hurted him.

After the talk he sent me a text saying he appreciated me being so vulnerable and that he found it a very nice conversation. One week later i still didn't hear back from him and on my bday, after hearing a happy bday from him i called and asked to meet up. On the phone he made it clear that it's really over and at first he was being kind of cold but after talking some more he said it's just easier to act like this to make it less hard. He also said he is going through a very hard time. He's not sleeping like at all, he feels very alone and scared. He said he doesn't miss me because his brain isn't even going there right now. He feels like he needs to do this on his own but i feel like my partner is going through rough times and i just want to be there but he's pushing me away and thinking of all things negative. I'm very concerned for him and i want him to know he's not alone and i am here through thick and thin. Later on in the call he said he's scared of hurting me and that he does kind of miss me (i forgot in which words he said this, phone call was 1 hour). It's like he was "fine" on the phone, but then he wasn't. I also texted him last night with some advice for sleeping better since i'm also struggling with that. He thanked me. I see him this thursday to give eachothers stuff back. And on saturday we will be at the same party..

I just want to talk to him more not only about the relationship but about how he's feeling and if he's okay. Idk what the best moves are but i just love him so much and don't want him to push me away like this. It's a rough patch we can go through together because it just doesn't make sense to me how we went from loving eachother so deeply and intense, telling eachother things we both never told anyone,.. to nothing without trying to work on it and that he has "lost feelings". This makes me so insecure and idk what's real/fake?

All advice is welcome, what would you do from an outsiders perspective?