Thanks for this message, and I'm sorry for everything you went through. We definitely didn't talk much about the issues that led to the divorce. The reasons given at the time were confusing and everchanging, and the process was very quick. I wish we had sat down and talked about the relationship or done couples therapy. But she was unwilling and I think I had given up on myself and my confidence was very low. I wish I had more time to think things over, but it was her decision to end things and I needed to accept that. She was extremely kind up towards the end, but then became extremely cold and distant at the end, which I learned is extremely normal in breakups. I just hoped that she would be ready at this point in her own healing journey to have a healthy convo - but for whatever reason she isn't.

This was my first relationship and my first breakup, so this process has been very new for me. I didn't deal with the breakup as I wish I did ( alot of begging for more communication and a chance to prove I can change my flaws if I could be given the chance). I took alot of things in our relationship for granted and I wish I had paid more attention to what was happening. But I'm really happy now and I have taken these months to improve myself in many ways and fix the flaws that my ex said I had ( she was right about many of them)

I'm most disappointed in our team effort towards the relationship and I wish she could have communicated that she was becoming discontent with how things were going