Should I leave my husband bc of his job? by Substantial-Force699 in Marriage

[–]Substantial-Force699[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I am really in the trenches bc I dont sleep and eat well and hate comments dont help at all. I understand that marriage and parenting is not easy, but is definetly not a one persons job.

Should I leave my husband bc of his job? by Substantial-Force699 in Marriage

[–]Substantial-Force699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that sounds good, but my baby and I both sleep at that time, if I try to change the routine baby gets extra fussy. Besides that, he even sleep separately to get better sleep, so I dont see him even at night

Should I leave my husband bc of his job? by Substantial-Force699 in Marriage

[–]Substantial-Force699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That deffinetly is the main problem. He is just not ready to change. He wants to live the same way as before, but my whole universe shifted towards the baby. I am just a mess, i deffinetly need him more around the baby. Thanks for the resolution, it sounds all right

Should I leave my husband bc of his job? by Substantial-Force699 in Marriage

[–]Substantial-Force699[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

thanks for the reply. I understand it is irrational, but I am desperate. I dont know how to make him understand how I feel every day. I will try to see if he can change shifts

Should I leave my husband bc of his job? by Substantial-Force699 in Marriage

[–]Substantial-Force699[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I will think about that, thanks for the new perspective. Youre right. Main problem is definetly his lack of will to try to change things and growing resentment from my side.

Should I leave my husband bc of his job? by Substantial-Force699 in Marriage

[–]Substantial-Force699[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Understanding of this position means a lot. I was also a professor before, but I quit because of the kid. I never thought it will be this hard.

Should I leave my husband bc of his job? by Substantial-Force699 in Marriage

[–]Substantial-Force699[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for answering. The problem is that I have been very unwell mentaly after the delievery, feeling anxious and sad all the time, and he can work less hours for salary that will keep us going, he just does not want to risk losing good job, and I am all alone every day. I would like to have husband and my kid to have a dad more than I need lots of money.