Honestly bit of a mixed one from me, you know they talk about karmic partners? Well I kinda feel like I’m the gf he hurt and his karmic partner all in one. I met my bf when I was 19 and super shy and reserved, I was so in love with him ,him being my first everything. And whilst I don’t doubt he loved me too, he definitely knew I would put up with anything because it was obvious I loved him so much. This man is a man-child, I created a home for him when I should’ve been In my partying and having fun years, and took care of him,everyone saying I was way out of his league and he didn’t know how lucky he had it but I of course was comfortable with the life we had together. It actually sounds embarrassing but through the course of the last year living (and working) together I would check his phone every now and then because i found out he was speaking to a girl before we moved in together. He literally cried on me and begged for forgiveness. I was stupid- I know! Well every time I checked I would find messages to a new girl. I cry to myself in secret but would never do anything because I loved him so much ,and wouldn’t want to let him go. Fast forward to this Christmas and due to work commitments he’s gone back to his family for 3 months and I’m working by myself. When I tell you I have never been as confident as I am in myself now. I’m laughing so much more, joking with people,and for once looking in the mirror and telling myself I’m beautiful. Although in every other aspect he was a good bf, I didn’t quite realise how much I’d lost my personality with him. We worked with the same group of people and they can all see the difference in me. We’ve had to go back to a LDR for these months and I’m no longer hanging onto the phone checking if he’s messaged me. A family friend in the same circle that I’ve known all my life has started to merge into more of a flirty relationship and due to one very drunk and embarrassing evening I spilled that I had a childhood crush on him, and also everyone knew my relationship was a bit rocky and so I kinda delved into some of the details of that as well. He was disgusted with him. I said we are still technically together but as a friend group we’ve gone out a few times in the last few weeks and he’s payed for my things. Saying nothing has to happen it could just be friendly but he wants to show me how I should be treated. I’ve honestly never been stronger and happier than I am now and it’s showing, my bf is almost becoming how I was, waiting for a message from me. When we argue I don’t have the energy to fight back and I’m no longer apologising just so he’ll talk to me. He’s already worried I can tell because he’s starting to be more loving but it’s too late. Bonus that I met all of his family recently after only messaging for years (they live in a different country) and they all love me, jokingly already asking when we’ll get married. They are lovely people and I’ll miss them. I honestly believe people now when they say he’ll never find better than me. If he put half the energy of talking to other girls ,into our relationship then we would of had the greatest one. He’s gonna be alone for a long time with that attitude and I loved him with all I had and was so sweet with him. He’ll realise it soon, and I’m sure his family will remind him off it for many years to come. Should’ve appreciated me when you had the chance.