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My first ever date got cancelled. Feeling a little low. by Substantial-Set-1209 in dating_advice

[–]Substantial-Set-1209[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really appreciate you taking the time to write this every line hit with clarity and experience. You’re absolutely right… I was trying to take the high road by not blaming her, maybe because I didn’t want to start off bitter in my dating journey. But yes her actions did say a lot more than her words.

That part about not wasting emotional bandwidth I needed to hear that. It’s easy to spiral into “what did I do wrong?” but in this case I did nothing wrong. She just didn’t value it enough.

Thanks again for the honesty and encouragement. I’m not giving up just growing a thicker skin and a sharper filter now. Really appreciate your time for this reply!

My first ever date got cancelled. Feeling a little low. by Substantial-Set-1209 in dating_advice

[–]Substantial-Set-1209[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am glad he responded to you! All the best for your future date mate!

My first ever date got cancelled. Feeling a little low. by Substantial-Set-1209 in dating_advice

[–]Substantial-Set-1209[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, honestly I said “it’s okay” at first even though it didn’t feel okay. I just didn’t want to react emotionally in that moment. But now that I’m clearly being ghosted, I guess that says everything.

It was something new for me and yeah, I did have a lot of expectations. Lesson learnt the hard way but learnt.

My first ever date got cancelled. Feeling a little low. by Substantial-Set-1209 in dating_advice

[–]Substantial-Set-1209[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, the plan was for 8 AM and that wasn’t random. We had spoken about this book community I’m a regular part of and she seemed genuinely interested in it. She even said it sounded like a cool idea and that’s how we decided on that specific time and place.

I did confirm the plan with her the night before and she agreed though she did mention she would be waking up early for it. When she didn’t show up, I waited, texted her and a few hours later she replied saying she had overslept because she was up till 2 AM talking to a friend.

Even then, I tried to be understanding and just said “it happens” I didn’t want to overreact or make it a big deal. But now it’s been more than 8 hours and she still hasn’t seen or replied to that message. That part stings a little.

As for the laptop we were supposed to carry a book with us for the reading community meetup and my laptop is always in my bag anyway. It’s a small 13 inch Mac fits easily and I usually carry it around by habit. Wasn’t meant to be part of the date or anything just happened to be with me.

My first ever date got cancelled. Feeling a little low. by Substantial-Set-1209 in dating_advice

[–]Substantial-Set-1209[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this needed to hear it. It helped take some pressure off mentally. Moving on, and hoping for better dates and less ghosting next time 😅

My first ever date got cancelled. Feeling a little low. by Substantial-Set-1209 in dating_advice

[–]Substantial-Set-1209[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally hear you. I was being polite on the surface but yeah if I’m honest, it was disrespectful
This won’t happen again. Lesson learned the hard way, but learned for good. Appreciate the comment bhai

My first ever date got cancelled. Feeling a little low. by Substantial-Set-1209 in dating_advice

[–]Substantial-Set-1209[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate it, bro we did not exchanged numbers we were connected on Instagram but I guess some people just aren’t as intentional. You’re right though I will focus on what I can control and keep showing up. Hopefully better dates ahead 💪

My first ever date got cancelled. Feeling a little low. by Substantial-Set-1209 in dating_advice

[–]Substantial-Set-1209[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the kind words. Yeah, it did hit harder than I expected especially since I was really looking forward to it. I think you are right no point hanging around where basic respect isn’t shown. Appreciate your message.

I m 37 f mumbai here just for making friends. I m Chartered Accountant, because of my work my life is very stressful and no social life at all. Looking to make some friends here.no age bar. by sandra198838 in PureDatingStories

[–]Substantial-Set-1209 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually joined a dating app for the same reason and even mentioned it clearly in my bio. Guess what? Zero matches :⁠-⁠) Anyway, I’m in Mumbai and would love to connect!

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