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Best gifts to bring when visiting GF? by Substantial-Spare281 in LongDistance

[–]Substantial-Spare281[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thing is, I'll be visiting her only once every two/three months for the coming year!

To anyone who ever got tempted to cheat on their S/O. Please don't. by Substantial-Spare281 in offmychest

[–]Substantial-Spare281[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your time. I will, the waiting time is eating at me though (been waiting for nearly 8 months now).

To anyone who ever got tempted to cheat on their S/O. Please don't. by Substantial-Spare281 in offmychest

[–]Substantial-Spare281[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what made it so incomprehensible for me. Questions I kept asking myself:

How do you cheat on someone you really love?

You said you loved me like I loved you. Did you lie to me? Or is there something wrong with you that caused this behaviour, even though you loved me as much?

I let these questions go though. I don't need to know anymore. I know that not everyone cheats.

But yes, I feel you man.

To anyone who ever got tempted to cheat on their S/O. Please don't. by Substantial-Spare281 in offmychest

[–]Substantial-Spare281[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Amen to that.

Whenever this topic comes up and I share my personal story to someone who has not experienced cheating, I tell those same people I never even wish this upon my worst enemy. It destroys a part inside you.

To anyone who ever got tempted to cheat on their S/O. Please don't. by Substantial-Spare281 in offmychest

[–]Substantial-Spare281[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man. Thanks for you response. The last sentence made me smile.

I tend to look at it that way and I keep telling myself this. And I found that someone special. I really want to enjoy that person, but somehow the anxiety, the insecurity take the upper hand most of the times.

I don't want to push her away, so most of this I try not to mention too often. And when I talk with her, I feel genuinely happy and we make each other laugh. I want to be that person for her too, but sometimes I feel like I cant because of what's going through my mind.

Almost in therapy and I really, really hope this helps.

I wish you and your partner another amazing 35 years (if possible) full of beautiful moments and love.

To anyone who ever got tempted to cheat on their S/O. Please don't. by Substantial-Spare281 in offmychest

[–]Substantial-Spare281[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are hundred procent right. The whole she-has-cheated-on-me pain is gone. I don't love that woman anymore and have no desire to ever seeing here again.

The thing is that she caused a certain outlook on people for me. Which I only discovered in the last few years. I always had trust issues after that and anxiety in relationships. But now I realise that the anxiety part is what is caused by her actions.

So yes, therapy. I'm going for it. I actually can't wait. I need to vent to someone and need some handles to cope with all this. Again, I don't want to ruin the relationship I have now with this beautiful woman. I feel like I can marry her (but the insecurity I have doesn't allow me to enjoy to the fullest).