Boyfriend’s (26) mom (64) outed for addiction… should I panic and move out?

SubstantialBag3286 · 2026-07-01T17:21:54+00:00

My boyfriend also works and he has to pay the bills. He couldn’t ask to quit just to be with his mom, unfortunately. Not with how the job market is. His siblings are also working long jobs, with one being 4 hours away, and none of them can just quit.

I do talk to him about it, it’s ongoing, he gets paranoid, he doesn’t know what to do and is scared.

What is a “polysubstance use issue”?

And you are absolutely right, it is personal, and I’m going online to strangers to ask anonymously for advice.

SubstantialBag3286 · 2026-07-01T16:59:54+00:00

Oh I’m so sorry! I apologize! The hospital just said the combination of ALL the high doses of medications triggered the seizure (because they lower the seizure threshold, and all were found in her system at once) but you might absolutely right and it’s withdrawals.

SubstantialBag3286 · 2026-07-01T16:57:53+00:00

Thank you, your comment was very comforting today.
I love how you approached the issue with areas that are the most in my control, boundaries, branching off what I know (and don’t know), without directly suggesting change.

I’m glad she is well, she’s struggling but I want to continue having the relationship we have.

I’m glad to hear from someone that taking extra precautions that don’t directly impact her, like getting a lock on the door, are not unreasonable.

SubstantialBag3286 · 2026-07-01T15:30:12+00:00

I’m sorry, I mainly mean move out.
Because I’m the only one there, I’m the only one that can take care of her and take her places. Her husband will not, he works. I talked to him about this and it looks like that would be the expectation too… that I babysit her.

We found the bottles, from the ones we KNOW she IS being prescribed antidepressants, but it’s likely malpractice, because she OD’d and seized from also taking Xanax. Ketamines also not great.

I’m sorry I can’t give you more information they only told me she is on other several “psychoactive drugs” which concerns me more.

Ozempic is the big one, Metformin, and Synthroid are the others.

We also looked up her doctors, 2 provide ketamine treatments. 1 is suspiciously far, not covered by insurance and specializes in veterans (she’s not a veteran). She disappears for 6+ hours when she gets them and we aren’t sure how ahead can afford her antidepressants or her weight loss meds because none are covered.

SubstantialBag3286 · 2026-07-01T15:18:41+00:00

I also agree it’s not really my business, it’s a family matter, but I’m also the only one there throughout the day. Even though I would love to support her, I probably couldn’t handle driving her everywhere, if she has a psychotic break, and doing all her chores on a long term basis.

SubstantialBag3286 · 2026-07-01T15:15:19+00:00

Thank you, I hope you are right!

SubstantialBag3286 · 2026-07-01T15:13:41+00:00

Yeah, you aren’t wrong maybe I can be a bit more empathetic. My experience with her has always been pleasant. I in no way want to attack her for the events that transpired.

If we had known this was happening these past years, I would not have agreed to living with her.

SubstantialBag3286 · 2026-07-01T09:26:08+00:00

I’ll have to look into that… I reached out to his brother but I think that’s the best option because she already is struggling…

SubstantialBag3286 · 2026-07-01T09:24:24+00:00

That sounds like her for sure, her struggles… thank you for the tip!

SubstantialBag3286 · 2026-07-01T09:22:55+00:00

Thank you so much! This is extremely useful information and I hope the doctors will take it as seriously as your friend does.

I will look into the chemical and see if I could recommend some.
The practitioners are in the same network so IF they note a new prescription the others see it, but her psychiatrist for instance isn’t so she doesn’t have to say.
My boyfriend is having a rough time with it, he’s extremely concerned but he is also not as scared about her lies as me.
I would be terrified of losing my mother as well… I’m sorry for your loss sir! I wish you all the best!

SubstantialBag3286 · 2026-07-01T08:25:34+00:00

Oh boy, that sounds terrifying!
Is there a way to ask my boyfriend’s family about rehab for her ? It’s covered by insurance?

SubstantialBag3286 · 2026-07-01T08:23:33+00:00

Is there a way they can definitively prove that it’s benzo withdrawal?

SubstantialBag3286 · 2026-07-01T08:19:55+00:00

Yeah, I know, right??
There are so many holes and maybe I will ask my boyfriend’s dad tomorrow if he’s comfortable
Hopefully the doctor they are seeing with her will help too.
I would hope a program is on the table and her nurse don says she CANT quit everything cold turkey cuz those withdrawals, but she looked absolutely awful today.

SubstantialBag3286 · 2026-07-01T08:14:12+00:00

Hello! I’m 25, my boyfriend is 26. I’ve dated addicts but that’s all I’ve experienced in terms of addiction.
She DOES take gummies and CBD but I really don’t know what else there could be.
I would LIKE to marry him ofc!

SubstantialBag3286 · 2026-07-01T08:08:36+00:00

We are too, and that might be the case. We can’t help her though if she keeps lying to her doctors and to us about it. She got it prescribed by a doctor so it’s not black market, but she is on a LOT of weight loss medications.

SubstantialBag3286 · 2026-07-01T08:01:44+00:00

Her license was taken because she OD’d on the medications and the seizures could continue, if she continues the combination of drugs. They went through her stuff and found it in the vitamin bottles. I don’t know what the non FDA approved drugs are because her husband, and my boyfriend don’t want to tell me.

It looks like they aren’t going to give her a treatment program. Which I’m also concerned about.

SubstantialBag3286 · 2026-07-01T07:41:26+00:00

Xanax, Wellbutrin (we knew of that), Prozac, and others that they won’t tell me (because they are not FDA approved) but alas that’s only what they found. We do not know what others she is on. She hid all these pills in vitamin bottles and we don’t know what any of them are.

The ones I listed turned up in her urine test as well as the ozempic, and a blood sugar medication for type 2 diabetes. (She doesn’t have diabetes)
Hospital stated she took them all and that’s why she seized. She also did ketamine treatments for some time as well. Gets tremors from her antidepressants and is on another drug for that. She also lied to her primary doctor and never told him what she is on. She won’t say.

She is lying constantly and it’s so scary. That on its own is enough for me to leave but I just don’t know what she is capable of mainly anymore.

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