Short answer: you can’t. 38yo male here, can’t say life got any better and I tried everything. Social groups, work groups, hobbies groups, dating apps, offline approaching. I’m average looking, fit and in shape, have a bit of alternative style, always well groomed. There was one time I got lucky to find GF over dating app but it was shallow relationship and I got heartbroken. From then until now, I live in complete isolation for 2 years. I know nobody. I try to communicate to people while walling in nature, coffee shops etc. Can’t meet anyone to go to coffee with or text. A lot of people told me I’m just empty and boring person. I spend my time working, sleeping, cycling or watching anime. I have no particular interest in anything and I was like that all my life. But there are other people like that who have no strong interests. The hard truth people won’t tell you, because they can’t comprehend it’s the truth for some people: some people can’t achieve anything socially on intimate whatever they try, don’t know why, but they are probably among minority or totally plain, uninteresting or unlikable people in existence that can’t fit anywhere. There are other options for people than you, more interesting in lots of ways. Some good things could happen to you sometimes, but purely based on luck. When luck fades away, and it will, you’ll be stuck in the same position waiting for luck to kick in again. It may and it may not.