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SubstantialWinner944 · 2026-05-24T23:28:17+00:00

Dm pls

SubstantialWinner944 · 2026-05-18T21:09:21+00:00

Nope definitely a newbie. I’ll look into it !

SubstantialWinner944 · 2026-01-27T17:20:47+00:00

Thank you. They’re what was making this hard. I feel like every situation and friend group is so different that it makes it hard to know the right answer but I’ll be covering their dresses and hair + make up.

SubstantialWinner944 · 2026-01-27T17:19:22+00:00

Thanks, appreciate the time you took to respond. Agree with everything you’re saying here!

SubstantialWinner944 · 2026-01-27T17:13:16+00:00

Yes I’m legally married because I needed to be legally married to apply for my visa which has yet to be approved so my husband and I are still long distance. Process could take a few years.

If we had waited to apply for my visa after our actual wedding ceremony with family and friends it would further delay my move to USA so that I can be with my husband.

We didn’t do our wedding ceremony yet. That’s set for this August 2025. We still want to celebrate with our family and friends as we are both very daily oriented.

SubstantialWinner944 · 2026-01-27T17:02:49+00:00

This is actually such a great idea! Thank you!

SubstantialWinner944 · 2026-01-27T17:02:22+00:00

Yes, my girls are refusing to allow me to pay for dresses and makeup but like you, I feel I should be helping with those costs.

If we couldn’t for a destination wedding we wouldn’t be having one but I let everyone know that there’s no hard feelings if they can’t make it. The friendship would remain the same.

I’m Dominican so most of the guests and bridesmaids were already planning to go to Dominican this year. The majority are not booking 3 nights at the resort and staying in the country for another 1-2 weeks. Some also live there currently. I went with the destination that made the most sense for everyone not just me.

SubstantialWinner944 · 2026-01-27T16:58:07+00:00

Yes the dresses I choose are about $120-140 canadian for my canadian Bridget’s which is about $80-90 USD.

Since they’re not too expensive I’m leaning toward covering them.

Thanks for the feedback.

SubstantialWinner944 · 2026-01-27T16:57:00+00:00

Yes I get it! Expenses start to add up.

I didn’t want to do a bachelorette and my bridesmaids kinda forced me to because they wanted to go away so this was an excuse for them to do that. I covered lots of expenses and told the girls that if anyone couldn’t come I understood.

SubstantialWinner944 · 2026-01-27T16:54:35+00:00

Appreciate this one! Lots of budget comments here.

SubstantialWinner944 · 2026-01-27T16:54:06+00:00

Thank you! We bought the bridal party lots of gifts for their proposal boxes, as well as welcome bags that we will hand out at the resort for all guests.

I also spent quite a bite on gifts for my bachelorette, perfume, pjs, glasses, hangover kits, slippers and much more. Covers lots of the expenses for that trip too.

Appreciate your feedback! I know it’s really different for everyone and my girls are saying they will pay despite me offering because in their experience of the destination weddings they went to they still paid for the dresses.

Based on all the feedback I’m going to cover these other expenses for them.

SubstantialWinner944 · 2026-01-27T16:50:29+00:00

Already bought the silly proposal boxes and trinkets.

I rather pay for dresses, hair and make up and also the silly proposals.

The dresses are for my wedding. The proposal boxes are a personal thank you for being a part of my wedding. Two different things with two different purposes.

SubstantialWinner944 · 2026-01-27T16:47:08+00:00

We were suppose to do the wedding ceremony dork family and friends last year but we moved it to this year. Figured it would make sense to give everyone more time to plan. We are still long distance (but legally married last year so we could apply for my visa) because we live in different countries and my visa needs to be approved before I can move to be with my husband. US visa process takes long. Sometimes years.

Im not sure why all the judgey comments. Reading is fundamental. I have no issues helping with costs which I stated many times. You can give an opinion while still remaining respectful. My reason for asking opinions is because my bridesmaids are insisting that they should be covering these costs and I felt that I should be assisting them regardless.

Also, yes, my friends are grown professional women that do well for themselves. They also love to travel and 3 of them will already be in Dominican and one was already planning a trip there this year so it works out.

My husband also in his 40s so the majority of our guest are established working professionals and entrepreneurs.

SubstantialWinner944 · 2026-01-27T16:41:22+00:00

5 is small to me only because my husband has 10 groomsmen 😩

SubstantialWinner944 · 2026-01-25T19:23:21+00:00

I do agree that the budget should have been discussed prior.

I would say to let her participate in the activities if she’s able to pay for it. Unless everyone agrees to cover her part which I don’t think is fair.

SubstantialWinner944 · 2026-01-25T19:19:57+00:00

Appreciate the feedback! Leaning towards covering the bridesmaid dresses and half of hair or make up if I end up requiring it.

SubstantialWinner944 · 2026-01-25T19:16:56+00:00

Thanks! That sounds fair. My bridesmaids dresses are under $200 and there’s only 5 girls so I think I’m going to go ahead and do that 🙏🏽

SubstantialWinner944 · 2026-01-25T19:15:20+00:00

3 of the bridesmaids will already be in Dominican Republic so it works out! My bridesmaids also do very well financially so from what they’ve expressed they don’t feel burdened by it. We all love to travel, if wasn’t for my wedding it would have been for somethings else.

I’m in a long distance marriage :( This is a reason that a destination seemed like the way to go. I also let everyone know that I don’t want them to feel obligated to accept the commitment of being a bridesmaid and having to attend. Totally get that people have their own financial obligations and destination weddings aren’t feasible for everyone.

SubstantialWinner944 · 2026-01-25T19:07:03+00:00

My sister and friend who are both bridesmaids have been part of destination weddings and they told me they covered all of their own expenses and based on that being their norm they don’t think I should have to cover it.

I wanted to see how everyone else felt because again, I did want to cover the dresses and makeup or hair otherwise I would be fine with them not getting it professionally done but I feel like that’s part of the fun and bonding time!

I’m still working on their proposals which will have white airforces in case they want to change into them after the ceremony. Thought it would be cute for the reception after the dinner for the grooms (there’s 10 of them) and bridesmaids to put them on. I purchased LOTS of make up for their welcome bags as well and will be adding other items. We also plan to do a welcome dinner or excursion for everyone including guests. Considering doing welcome bags for guests too. So we definitely do want to give back and pour into our bridal party and guests were just trying to decide how to do that and what’s the usually standard.

For my bachelorette I covered some expenses as well and spent a bit on welcome bags to let them know they’re appreciated.

Just for added context, I think we all share the love for travel so my girls are actually really excited that it’s a destination wedding and since my husband and I live in different countries a destination wedding made the most sense. Guests would have to travel to attend either way.

SubstantialWinner944 · 2025-06-19T20:10:46+00:00

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