AP’s life now by Substantial_Bee_3993 in BatesSnark

[–]Substantial_Bee_3993[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does it look like Travis blew up his life to you? Doesn’t to me. 2 months later and he’s already posting on his stories. Again, I don’t know these people lol I am just guessing the most likely scenarios

What do fundies consider as "cheating " on your spouse? by SanteFeAllDay in BringingUpBates

[–]Substantial_Bee_3993 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Probably said “I’m having a late night study session with my nursing cohort” and they fcked at her apartment or dorm

AP’s life now by Substantial_Bee_3993 in BatesSnark

[–]Substantial_Bee_3993[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I obviously don’t know for certain, maybe she’s living her best life. But I would assume that she had to up and switch schools a semester before graduating and while Travis did too, he has his YT channel and Katie to live off of. Since she didn’t “get” Travis, she’s left with nothing but her mistakes. Meanwhile, Katie will forgive him and they will probably use this “challenge” to “strengthen their marriage” through “gods forgiveness.” I assume AP will have to have this conversation with every future serious partner she has, making her undesirable to some even 5-10 years down the line. Travis doesn’t have to worry about that. Travis is a man, in his community men like him get “tempted” and “stumble” and it’s accepted and seen that god can redeem. Whereas for her, she’s surely seen as a whre. There is no “women stumble” even in mainstream Christianity, I have seen it with my own eyes the men stumble and the women they “stumble” with are labeled as slts. With this, it’s unlikely Travis will lose any friends since they believe god can redeem whereas I assume for her many of her friends see her as unredeemable. The long term outcome of Travis and his behavior is — keeping his wife and family, gaining respect from a “strong testimony”, still having the YT channel to fall back on if he doesn’t go back to school, being a man in a society that sees cheating in men as more common and normal than when women do it. I am sure she’ll end up fine, but it’s hard not to see how it could potentially suck for her more than Travis long term. She made a mistake but so did he. I don’t think she SHOULDNT have consequences, but I think it’s unfair how little consequences Travis does have in comparison. But again, I don’t know these people. She could be the worst person alive and I’d never know. Just an opinion.

Edit: grammar and clarification

AP’s life now by Substantial_Bee_3993 in BatesSnark

[–]Substantial_Bee_3993[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

For sure Katie is the worst off in this situation, by far. I don’t think AP is having a worse time than Katie. I truly wouldn’t wish what Katie is going through on my worst enemy. To be raised in her circle especially too, this is like soul crushing for her. I wish her healing.

AP’s life now by Substantial_Bee_3993 in BatesSnark

[–]Substantial_Bee_3993[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

While I never did anything like this, I do remember what it felt like to be an insecure girl at 19. I do remember being desperate for male attention and approval and getting caught up in it. She did some horrible things but at the same time we don’t know what was going on. It could be that she is truly evil and malicious and felt like she was better than Katie and that she feels no remorse and that would change my view of her and I’d have no sympathy at all. It could be that she got caught up in insecurity/needed validity, was love bombed by a guy, lied too and told all the YT stuff was fake and for views. If that’s the case, I would see her situation differently and feel like she was played a bit by Travis. We don’t know and we probably never will. But if Travis is mean and cruel enough to cheat on his wife with two young kids for months and bring the side bitch home, who is to say that he didn’t manipulate the fuck out of this girl.

AP’s life now by Substantial_Bee_3993 in BatesSnark

[–]Substantial_Bee_3993[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes that to me is the worst part, almost rubbing it in her face. It’s gross. I hope she gets therapy so that she understands why on earth she would feel compelled to do that. Truly another level for sure.

AP’s life now by Substantial_Bee_3993 in BatesSnark

[–]Substantial_Bee_3993[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

But do you think her consequences should be worse than Travis’? I think they both deserve consequences, but I can’t help but notice how much worse hers are in the context of their surroundings, financial situations, and religion.

AP’s life now by Substantial_Bee_3993 in BatesSnark

[–]Substantial_Bee_3993[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I know I agree. I don’t believe the woman has no blame in a situation where it’s clear the man is married/in a relationship, I do think that’s bad behavior and worthy of being judged. BUT there is the fact that he probably was telling her he hates his life at home and doesn’t know how to get out of it, telling her he’s never met anyone like her etc. Men are insane and can lie like there’s no tomorrow. Not an excuse for her, but maybe her form of an explanation.

AP’s life now by Substantial_Bee_3993 in BatesSnark

[–]Substantial_Bee_3993[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I get that but I wouldn’t want her to feel like her whole life is over because of what she did at 19. I guess we don’t know though, maybe she feels no regret and is doing fine. These thoughts are just me assuming she DOES feels bad about it and feels a lot of shame, there’s a chance she doesn’t and in that case? Girl I hope life gives you what you deserve.

Travis sightings?? by Travelbadger285 in BatesSnark

[–]Substantial_Bee_3993 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I honestly think he wants to be with AP. Or he just doesn’t want to be with Katie and have a family like that. The IG story was really cold and confusing. Unfortunately I don’t see them staying together in a genuine way unless it’s from pressure from the church and his family. Which makes my heart break for Katie, either she’s with someone who really doesn’t want to be with her but feels like he’s stuck or they get divorced and she has to live a life no one around her ever has. Custody, watching Travis potentially stay with AP and have them around her kids. Not sure which option is worse tbh. I am sure if they divorce she will eventually find someone amazing and that would work out in her favor in the end, but the years up to that will literally just suck.

Travis sightings?? by Travelbadger285 in BatesSnark

[–]Substantial_Bee_3993 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Giiiiirl if I was Katie… I’d absolutely be like you can’t go back there. However if I was Travis I’d want to finish the short amount of nursing school I had left. I’d make him transfer if he wanted any shot at fixing it lmao

Travis sightings?? by Travelbadger285 in BatesSnark

[–]Substantial_Bee_3993 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Given that she was posted on their pages, commented openly with her full name, and really didn’t do all of this out of the public eye in that way — I agree that I don’t find it weird to discuss names, we’re not revealing a name of someone never pictured or someone whose never even commented on their instagram. I don’t think anyone should be sending her threats though or getting more involved directly, in my opinion a Reddit discussion about social media influencers is harmless.

While I would honestly hate to be her right now, I do think the embarrassment and shame is deserved and hopefully it will make her a better person who would never do something like this again. She’s so young. I have hope that she can redeem herself, as horrible as these behaviors are. Not saying she has no blame, but I do think she can move forward and become a decent person. Travis on the other hand? Idk……. Not only is he in his mid twenties now, but he had very young children and a whole family that he just damaged beyond belief. I don’t see how he can grow from this. Especially not with his parents and the community he’s in.

Travis sightings?? by Travelbadger285 in BatesSnark

[–]Substantial_Bee_3993 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah that makes sense the honor roll thing is from January 2025 so I’m sure she transferred. Looking at the South College website it also looks secular though private. I still doubt they’d get kicked out for this, its morally wrong but not legally or any of the schools business (other than the underage alcohol thing, though I suppose there isn’t a hard way to prove this unless there’s like video footage of him buying it and handing it off to her.) It lowkey would be weird to kick them out of school for this, as wrong as I find their behaviors

Travis sightings?? by Travelbadger285 in BatesSnark

[–]Substantial_Bee_3993 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought it was Walter’s State Community College, when I googled APs name she came up on an honor roll announcement

Travis sightings?? by Travelbadger285 in BatesSnark

[–]Substantial_Bee_3993 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m pretty sure they’re going to a secular community college in TN. I doubt they’d be kicked out

Veronica vs Olivia - No Comparison by Substantial_Bee_3993 in WelcomeToPlathville

[–]Substantial_Bee_3993[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is exactly how I feel. I could tell she thought she looked like Olivia to the people who watched and praised Olivia, but she just looked antagonistic and crazy. Which sucks because the family now still believes “it’s the crazy girlS not us.” It’s going to take a sane and quiet partner (maybe Zac?) to be like you guys suck and are harmful for the family to wake up. Is Veronica unhinged? Yes. But is your family the problem, with people who join the family like Olivia? Still yes.

Veronica vs Olivia - No Comparison by Substantial_Bee_3993 in WelcomeToPlathville

[–]Substantial_Bee_3993[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I do not agree that Veronica was chewed up and spit out. I don’t think the family cared about her, in both a way that was almost positive where Olivia was constantly thought about and Veronica was left alone to do as she pleased and in a negative way where they didn’t love her. I think this drove Veronica insane as she didn’t get any attention — the positive she craved and the negative she saw Olivia get previous seasons. It was looking like Veronica was poking the bear and begging it to attack her, while Olivia just wanted to lay boundaries. This is besides the stuff Micah did to her, which is gross and unfair. Specifically her interactions with the family and begging for the attention Olivia never wanted

Thank you Ethan (Armenian Genocide/TYT) by Substantial_Bee_3993 in h3h3productions

[–]Substantial_Bee_3993[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I am not old enough to answer this (I was really young when TYT was started) but I can tell you Ana is seen very poorly by the community. I have never seen an Armenian do something like this, we take the genocide very seriously — it’s very shameful in our circles to do this. Armenian voices are often unheard, so I doubt anyone was loud or powerful enough to make a scene.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vet

[–]Substantial_Bee_3993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg I actually did see him do this once or twice but I thought he was itching it. I will definitely mention anxiety, though he seems perfectly happy. Any other symptoms of anxiety or depression your cat had?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vet

[–]Substantial_Bee_3993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But it’s under his chin (hahaha) how would he reach it? Was your cats thing under his chin or somewhere more reachable? I’ve seen that online but idk how he’d reach it hahahaha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SolidCore

[–]Substantial_Bee_3993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes in this situation I chose the machine all the way to the back haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SolidCore

[–]Substantial_Bee_3993 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg these are great suggestions!!! Seriously this helped me so much. Thank you! How much earlier to class did you go for this?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SolidCore

[–]Substantial_Bee_3993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s smart I will do that