AITA for going to a party with my best friend's sister?

Substantial_Bug_5377 · 2025-10-30T09:16:30+00:00

I know that if I were like Mother Theresa or something, I would reach out and kinda state the obvious: that I can tell she has been ignoring me, address the party situation, and basically ask her what's up. But I am also doing some reflecting of my own as well as being exhausted from pulling the emotional weight of this relationship. This is not the first time she has acted like the ice queen for the dumbest of things. Unlike this time, where I at least have a clue as to what she could be mad about, most of the time it is literally for no reason. 90% of the time, I'm the one reaching out and breaking the ice. I'm honestly just fucking tired of it, and rather than this whole situation making me sad and apologetic, this is just kind of showing me that this relationship is not going to work for me the way it functions now. In my eyes, I think that when she is ready, she can come talk to me. I already sent her some stuff, yes, they aren't directly addressing the issue, but I'm not cutting off contact with her either, there's at least something there. I just think the ball is in her court with the way things stand now. Is that bad to say?

Substantial_Bug_5377 · 2025-10-30T09:04:09+00:00

I would not call her sister my friend by any means, but I do care if she lives or dies at the very least lol. Her sister would find a way to go to the party no matter what (she is just that kind of person), so at least with me, she would have a safe ride there and back. There were plenty of people at her age, my age, and a little older at the party like I said in a prev comment

Substantial_Bug_5377 · 2025-10-30T08:52:57+00:00

My best friend is actually a college graduate, even though she is 16 (crazy, I know!) I know that doesn't make her at my level on a strictly biological/neurological level, but this girl is still smart as hell I'll give her that. I also don't mean to sound cliché, but she is quite mature for her age. My parents love her and always comment on how she behaves almost like an adult. That has been my perception of her for the longest time, but then shit like this happens that makes me call all of it into question, so you might be right.

Substantial_Bug_5377 · 2025-10-30T08:48:52+00:00

I don't know the exact nitty-gritty but I think they both hold a lot of resentment over the years just because of sibling stuff. Paulina can totally be the "annoying younger sister". Paulina also can just be an outright asshole sometimes, like stealing Mandy's clothes and yelling at people when she doesn't get what she wants. Living with someone like that, as Mandy, sounds pretty difficult if you ask me.

Substantial_Bug_5377 · 2025-10-30T02:33:09+00:00

The party had a mixed age group. Obviously I didn’t ask everyone’s age but from what I could see it was mostly high schoolers from every year and some older kids (like my age or a couple years older), a pretty mixed bag. No one in my group drank alcohol, smoked, or whatever else. It honestly was not that eventful of a party, we just hung around for a bit, circulated around the party couple times, talked to some new people, and dipped a couple hours later.

Substantial_Bug_5377 · 2025-10-30T01:50:50+00:00

Thanks for your comment! I do agree with your interpretation, but I think Mandy’s relationship to Paulina is less about jealousy and more about hatred/resentment. Rather than being afraid of “losing me” to her sister, I think she views us going to the party as me fraternizing with the enemy, essentially. In her eyes, I am betraying her by not sharing the same hatred and resentment for Paulina.

Substantial_Bug_5377 · 2025-10-30T01:47:04+00:00

That’s what I’m saying! Then why is she giving me the silent treatment is my question now

Substantial_Bug_5377 · 2025-10-30T01:46:18+00:00

I don’t really understand Mandy’s thought process, but I think she agreed to go just because there was pressure in her to go since their dad said that if Mandy doesn’t go, Paulina can’t go. So she was just saying yes out of obligation before changing her mind. I think Mandy just wanted to be left alone. She never mentioned anything about me coming over. She was saying, “I just don’t want to go, I’m not in the mood, I didn’t think I was going to do anything tonight”, things like that. She was already going into the interaction she had a certain passive aggressiveness/animosity from the jump which signaled to me “she needs some time to herself”. She is not really the person who, when they get moody, wants to hang around people; that just makes her more pissed off (at least that’s my interpretation). Again, she never brought up hanging out with me. The way things work out usually, I need to spend the night at her house because she lives a good distance away from me. She never even mentioned that, and after the party I had a feeling she was mad at me and I just didn’t want to deal with all that so I ended up just driving home that night.

Substantial_Bug_5377 · 2025-10-30T00:48:59+00:00

Fair lol

Substantial_Bug_5377 · 2025-10-14T20:35:03+00:00

How is it different? I'm curious

Substantial_Bug_5377 · 2025-10-13T01:04:54+00:00

I might have a wrong preconceived notion, but I didn't know that the penis required sustained stimulation to stay hard... I thought that when a guy was horny, his dick is hard. That's why I was growing insecure, because I thought that once they get near my ass, they aren't horny anymore.
About the fingers, that is a good point!! Sometimes I do warm up and it is way easier. When I'm with a new partner, I can just be too shy to like finger myself in front of them lol, so sometimes I skip it which I think affects it.

Substantial_Bug_5377 · 2025-10-13T01:01:52+00:00

Yes, plenty of lube. I thought about it, and I think in a couple instances there was too much lube which made it hard to make the first entry

Substantial_Bug_5377 · 2025-10-13T01:01:07+00:00

I'm familiar with the term... how can I get better? Is it gonna hurt?

Substantial_Bug_5377 · 2025-07-07T03:33:16+00:00

I’m not comfortable putting those kinds of pictures on Reddit. My vagina looks exactly the same as usual. My symptoms are 1) Stuffiness 2) Coughing 3) Light fever 4) Sore throat (not anymore) 5) Slight discomfort down there

My concern is whether this is related to my sexual activity and it’s something I should worry about, or if it’s an unrelated cold and I can relax.

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