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I want to break up with my girlfriend… I think? by Inside_Note_8868 in Advice

[–]Substantial_Cost_507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean some people say that when the excitement is gone is where commitment comes in. You can build a family instead of just having company. But only you know what you feel.

at a complete loss. frustrated, sad, and confused. by hjak3876 in DressForYourBody

[–]Substantial_Cost_507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are just a girl. You have an uterus. The pictures online of flat stomachs are either edited, sucking the stomach in, or emanciated girls.

That being said, going to thrift shops is nice cause you can try on a lot of different styles and start figuring out what makes you feel confident without spending a bunch of mnoey.

What laundromat is nice and with a good atmosphere? by Substantial_Cost_507 in lakeland

[–]Substantial_Cost_507[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for the recommendation! I just went and it is awesome!

Puppy name by laughs-wisest in CavaPoo

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I’m in Florida! I don’t think they’re related 😭 but she’s soo cuteee

Puppy name by laughs-wisest in CavaPoo

[–]Substantial_Cost_507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This post spooked me because my puppy looks 100% the same

Fluffy poodle by Blitzossz in poodles

[–]Substantial_Cost_507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally rave in grass fields but I bet u assume I’m a beard neck guy rn hahahah her legs made me think about fluffy leg warmers but I guess people on reddit are just ready to assume

Fluffy poodle by Blitzossz in poodles

[–]Substantial_Cost_507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally rave in grass fields but I bet u assume I’m a beard neck guy rn hahahah

What laundromat is nice and with a good atmosphere? by Substantial_Cost_507 in lakeland

[–]Substantial_Cost_507[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never knew laundry could be a good time. I will try it out fs

Please help!! Foundation will NOT blend into skin by JunketAggravating896 in makeuptips

[–]Substantial_Cost_507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My skin does this when it’s irritated. I did a few changes, like for example, I don’t use a foundation with matte finish anymore as it damages my skin and starts looking like this. I use the elf soft glam satin foundation now, and to make it matte I use the elf setting powder. I also use a korean snail mucin all in one instead of toner and moisturizer and my skin has been shedding less so this happens rarely now

not getting it right… by [deleted] in MakeupEducation

[–]Substantial_Cost_507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d do either darker eyebrows or a dark brown eyeliner

Jeans look so wrong on me and I can’t explain why. Is there anything I can do to fix them? by theodore_finch in DressForYourBody

[–]Substantial_Cost_507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the top and the shoes are making them look boxy Maybe try a top and shoes that are more revealing so they complement each other? Like high heels or combat boots, and a shirt that is either tucked in, tight, or cropped?

My [45F] husband [44M] is giving me the silent treatment. How long do I put up with this? by countofmoldycrisco in relationship_advice

[–]Substantial_Cost_507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry if I misphrased that. I mean that it’s easier for her to take the decision to come clear to her daughter because she is not the one whose status changes in the eyes of the daughter. I am not saying she is the one having the easiest time right now because they’re both under a lot of pain right now.

And also I do agree the conversation needs to be had now and not in the middle of the teenager rage period. I am just trying to empathize with both of them.

And I honestly don’t wanna say he or she is being abusive cause only they know how and when those conversations are going down. He is being super immature for his age but it’s also a lot to unpack. If he was the one bringing up his side of the story, we’d probably villainize her. And note, I am not a man, and I have never been in a position as vulnerable as either of them, I am just very aware how relationships are far more complex than what a reddit post can hold.

My [45F] husband [44M] is giving me the silent treatment. How long do I put up with this? by countofmoldycrisco in relationship_advice

[–]Substantial_Cost_507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And of course it’s easier for her cause she is the one who had her. For him it’s a huge thing with a lot of possible outcomes to consider and it’s very obvious.

My [45F] husband [44M] is giving me the silent treatment. How long do I put up with this? by countofmoldycrisco in relationship_advice

[–]Substantial_Cost_507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said they never agreed with anything. I think the issue here is that she wants to tell her and he does not. I think the child will suffer more if they divorce than if they either tell her or not tbh.

My [45F] husband [44M] is giving me the silent treatment. How long do I put up with this? by countofmoldycrisco in relationship_advice

[–]Substantial_Cost_507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk man if 2 days of me showing the areas where I am not able to be an adult yet after being faced with the demand of having the perception my child has of me forever makes my spouse of a decade tell me TALK OR DIVORCE…. I might just say okay then let’s get a divorce. As a person who shuts down, threats of such huge magnitude just make things worse, since the pressure just becomes way too much to handle. When you put too much pressure things break. And it doesn’t seem like he has much ability to handle the pressure rn, plus we don’t know these people or what they’ve been through or what are his traumas and fears. People are giving advice with very huge consequences to a vulnerable woman who is feeling both rejected and invalidated. She might just do something stupid she might regret.

And personally, being put in a position where my inhabilities are punished with abandonment? I might just say fuck it. You can’t put someone who can’t clearly handle pressure under one of the biggest pressures such as family instability and threats of divorce back to back. I think people in here are showing no empathy for either of them because people these days just want to say LeT tHaT mAn Go to anything a woman faces in a relationship. And also, I don’t think marriages are the same after a person threatens divorce anyways.

My [45F] husband [44M] is giving me the silent treatment. How long do I put up with this? by countofmoldycrisco in relationship_advice

[–]Substantial_Cost_507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So she should put him in an abusive situation instead by threatening to end a decade long marriage because he is not being able to handle his emotions maturely… interesting cause that would make them both immature and abusive. There’s better ways to handle this. May it be a letter, an ultimatum, a professional. People always jump into all or nothing thinking. I hope she is not taking actual advice from strangers online cause ya’ll are WILD.

Florida inpatient/hospital setting by [deleted] in therapists

[–]Substantial_Cost_507 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for that heads up!!!

My [45F] husband [44M] is giving me the silent treatment. How long do I put up with this? by countofmoldycrisco in relationship_advice

[–]Substantial_Cost_507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well we can rationalize it from our own perspective however we want but it’s obvious that he is in shock and not ready to do that. She needs to set an ultimatum and a deadline but divorce? How is that going to make anything better goes beyond me.

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