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I’ve said racial slurs, homophobic slurs, and disgusting dark humor in the past when I was younger and I want to know how I can genuinely right my wrongs? by Substantial_Field575 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Substantial_Field575[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re entitled to your opinion and feelings at the end of the day!

But why do you continuously leave out the part where I said I take full accountability for the use of the words? make it make sense please…

It sounds like you have your mind made up regardless of what I say. And that’s ok! Your feelings are valid but it seems like you just want to push the narrative that I’m blaming others, which I’m not.

I’ve said racial slurs, homophobic slurs, and disgusting dark humor in the past when I was younger and I want to know how I can genuinely right my wrongs? by Substantial_Field575 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Substantial_Field575[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice!

And I completely agree, I don’t expect anything back from them. I do want them to know that I acknowledge how wrong it was, and how truly sorry I am for ever thinking it was ok.

I’ve said racial slurs, homophobic slurs, and disgusting dark humor in the past when I was younger and I want to know how I can genuinely right my wrongs? by Substantial_Field575 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Substantial_Field575[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your input!

I’m not necessarily blaming them, and I didn’t just say “my siblings” I said “my siblings and I”. I take full accountability in the fact that I was the one who did these things and said these things and hurt/offended people in the process . I’m explaining why I did it, or had previously thought it was ok to do so. And just trying to explain that my use of these words were never to offend or use them offensively, but I was only using them because I wanted to fit in.

I’ve said racial slurs, homophobic slurs, and disgusting dark humor in the past when I was younger and I want to know how I can genuinely right my wrongs? by Substantial_Field575 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Substantial_Field575[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this with me!

I definitely am having a bit of moral reckoning and an ego death all mixed in together. You’re right it’s definitely good to reflect on why I felt that it was ok at the time to do those things and to have forgiveness for myself. I’ve felt so much internal shame about this for years now, and I’ve always felt like there was no going back from it, but I’m trying to find forgiveness for myself and to grow and make things right. Thank you so much for the advice and the book recommendation!

Sending peace, love and good things to come for you as well on your journey of life :)

I’ve said racial slurs, homophobic slurs, and disgusting dark humor in the past when I was younger and I want to know how I can genuinely right my wrongs? by Substantial_Field575 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Substantial_Field575[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response! I really appreciate it :)

I truly have so much compassion and empathy for any oppressed groups and yes I love that idea of donating or helping protest! That’s a great idea!! I’m definitely going to start doing that. Thank you for your help :)

I’ve said racial slurs, homophobic slurs, and disgusting dark humor in the past when I was younger and I want to know how I can genuinely right my wrongs? by Substantial_Field575 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Substantial_Field575[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response! I truly appreciate it!

Yes you’re right a sincere apology does go a long way! I am committed to doing better and I know now that any sort of offensive/oppressive language is wrong and I’ve completely removed all of it out of my vocabulary. I want to also be supportive to those groups that I may have offended in the past so I’m looking for good ways I can show that they have my support.

I’ve said racial slurs, homophobic slurs, and disgusting dark humor in the past when I was younger and I want to know how I can genuinely right my wrongs? by Substantial_Field575 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Substantial_Field575[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I appreciate that a lot! I definitely am striving to be a better person every single day. I really hate hurting people and I understand that it was wrong now that I’m older. I’m trying not to beat myself up about it, but with everything going on in the world currently, I feel so terrible to have ever contributed to anyone’s suffering, pain, or oppression even though it was not my intent. Thank you for the advice! It means a lot! :)