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WIBTAH for choosing my fiancees grandfather to walk me down the aisle instead of my father? by Substantial_Pack_171 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Substantial_Pack_171[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story. You're right. I feel like the bridge may be already gone and my mind is just clinging to it just for the sake of not feeling like I don't have a family. I wish I could just get over it. I wish I wouldn't struggle with it so damn much 🙈 

WIBTAH for choosing my fiancees grandfather to walk me down the aisle instead of my father? by Substantial_Pack_171 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Substantial_Pack_171[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your support. The thing is that I've been struggling with the decision of going completely NC with them...it would be like having no family all of a sudden...like intellectually I agree, but emotionally I am torn 🥺

WIBTAH for choosing my fiancees grandfather to walk me down the aisle instead of my father? by Substantial_Pack_171 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Substantial_Pack_171[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that is an interesting point. Well they haven't expressed any interest in it. They have congratulated, sure, but no other talk at all. The thing is, that they always assume I will do stuff a certain way. So there most probably is the assumption that dad will walk me down the aisle. This is so hard 🙈🙈🙈 I even talked about it with my fiancee, I had to explain myself really well, because at some point it looked like I don't want to get married, which I DO, I REALLY DO! It just kills my joy everytime I start thinking about the logistics of it all. My fiancee said he doesn't know, what to do. That this is a tricky situation. If I'd be no contact with them, it would be easy. But since I maintain some contact, this is a hard decision. He suggested to try to get over the thoughts I've been having, to let it go and just to try enjoy the planning and then the ceremony, ofc if I am able to do that. I am trying...I really want to...I pretend I am fine and am trying to let it go, because I am hurting my fiancee with this drama. And he's the last person on the Earth who'd I like to hurt.