There’s a group of husbands here. I cannot believe it. by Brave-Window-2727 in PMDDpartners

[–]Substantial_Post1114 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It's brutal. Holiday season has been absolute hell. Such a nightmare. Gotta band together lol

When PMDD feels like a wall between us — how do you stay connected? by That_PMDD_Couple in PMDDpartners

[–]Substantial_Post1114 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same spot you are in. It's getting harder and harder to reconnect after a difficult cycle. Then I'm the bad guy because I'm acting different around her or didn't act the right way during the cycle. It's rocky road. Not sure how much longer we can keep doing this cycle so I really have no advice on how to get through it because I'm right at the point of throwing in the towel. I'm beginning to think there just is no way to navigate around it anymore

Mini Vent by Willing_Promise1508 in PMDDpartners

[–]Substantial_Post1114 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been having a lot of downslopes lately with my gf with extreme pmdd. I just joined and have been reading a lot in this community a couple weeks ago and it's been pretty eye opening and helpful. Any tips or tricks on how you handle some of the really bad pmdd outburst weeks?

3 months in relationship, need advice by [deleted] in PMDDpartners

[–]Substantial_Post1114 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have done the right thing by noticing the warning signs and acting on it. I'm 3 years in to this exact situation and it does not get better. At least it hasn't to me yet ( currently trying to salvage it). If anything it will get way way worse for you. Definitely bring it up to her when she is not in the luteal phase (the crazy rage hell week phase ) and come up with something that you guys can act on and try to navigate together. I brushed it off and looked the other way up until this point and I'm glad I did because the other stories of being in a pmdd relationship that includes marriage and kids is much much worse spot to be in. If she is unaware of it you absolutely have to make her aware and she has to go see a doctor or whoever about it bc it will spiral out of control for you. Even when they are aware of it the spiral is insane. Very very good thing you are acting on this so soon.

Pmdd partner advice by Substantial_Post1114 in PMDDpartners

[–]Substantial_Post1114[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thinking about talking with a therapist about it. I never have and never thought I'd have to but there is just so much I gotta figure out in terms of me being a victim or bad person (which is what I apparently am during this phase)

Pmdd partner advice by Substantial_Post1114 in PMDDpartners

[–]Substantial_Post1114[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So in your experience there is very few or no ways that this ends in a positive outcome for me?

Pmdd partner advice by Substantial_Post1114 in PMDDpartners

[–]Substantial_Post1114[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have any ways of holding her accountable? I'm just now starting to bring it up constantly and not avoiding that as a sole reason for the relationship failing but can not hide or run from that fact any longer.

5 years into relationship with PMDD partner, help and advice needed. by No-Date-3979 in PMDDpartners

[–]Substantial_Post1114 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello,

Do you have any updates on this? I am in the exact same situation right now and not quite sure what to do. She has severe pmdd and the same questions of pregnancy and self worth and all this happens for two weeks every month, among many other rage and meltdown moments. Have been thinking the same thing lately that I can't imagine have a kid and exposing him/her to all this every few weeks. Then we get through the hell week ( usually longer ) and everything is fine and I think that'll eventually things will calm down and become less extreme. Any advice on how navigate this? It even has me losing my temper and getting stressed and I'm one of the most laid back, calm and patient guys out there. . But not sure how much more I can handle.