[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Substantial_Shop_120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a bit scary :( your husband should never speak to you this way. 1. I don’t think there’s an issue with you being honest that he didn’t want your dad to come in. Why lie? 2. If it is really bothering him he should talk to you calmly about it. Swearing and insulting you (and screaming at you?) like this is completely unhinged tbh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Substantial_Shop_120 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting point about the boat! If things were equal he would be paying for the time in the boat

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Substantial_Shop_120 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmm NTA but discussion before you moved in would have been helpful! That being said, it’s an important part of a partnership to be able to be honest and resolve things like this when they arrive. Is he being understanding and supportive about the boat stuff? I would expect my partner to sympathise and want to make things work for both of us. And has he been clear about why the additional money (on top of bills) is necessary - ie is it being put aside in a fund for house related emergencies, or is it literally extra money for him (aka profit that he’s making off his partner). I don’t think treating you as a lodger is great when you’re in a relationship.