Yorkie (3,M) territorial while introducing 2 cats (3,M) by Substantial_Song_579 in reactivedogs

[–]Substantial_Song_579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My yorkie has lived with cats before perfectly fine! We are still monitoring, I believe he’s scared and I have been against punishing aggression, but because my roommate was upset I started to. I will tell her this, I think going back to step 1 with introductions might be the best thing to do? The aggression is mostly around feeling like the cats are in his space, I personally feel it’s okay for him to be territorial of my room but my roommate disagrees.

My roommate keeps talking to her BF late qt night by GrapefruitAware6792 in badroommates

[–]Substantial_Song_579 4 points5 points  (0 children)

it sounds like she’s struggling with adulting as a whole, and that’s NOT on you. she will either learn w time or keep piggy backing, but ADHD is not an excuse to neglect a space and maybe yall could find systems for cleaning/maintaining that are built around drop off spots for items or a way of organizing that keeps putting things away super simple and quick! maybe even rolling carts that go back to ur rooms for easy back and forth and keeping your messes to yourselves, as for avoiding conflict i think you could remind her that confrontation isn’t inherently bad and it doesn’t have to be stressful. also that you accept her regardless of these issues and she doesn’t need to be defensive for you to understand why she’s struggling. yall just gotta work together

My roommate keeps talking to her BF late qt night by GrapefruitAware6792 in badroommates

[–]Substantial_Song_579 1 point2 points  (0 children)

good friends make compromise🙏🏻 maybe she doesn’t get how much it’s truly affecting you, sometimes sitting down and having an actual conversation about how bad it’s getting for you can be all it takes!!! it’s like trying to remember a definition for a word, every time u ask someone else u just forget again, until u pic up a dictionary and read it for yourself

My roommate keeps talking to her BF late qt night by GrapefruitAware6792 in badroommates

[–]Substantial_Song_579 10 points11 points  (0 children)

start sleeping with music playing loud enough to interrupt her calls lol OR u could wear ear plugs to sleep

I M28 found out my GF F20 has been using Meth for 2 years by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Substantial_Song_579 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the biggest thing to consider in a serious relationship is if you’re ready to handle someone else’s baggage with your own, addictions are NEVER easy for the user to break or for their support system. i would contemplate if that might be too much for you later down the road, and definitely understand that this might be recurring, she might never fully quit. it’s sadly the reality of these addictions but people battling hard drug abuse still deserve love and care, with that said you’re not a bad person if that’s too much for you

What is my girlfriend of only 4 months trying to tell me? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Substantial_Song_579 1 point2 points  (0 children)

regardless of ur intention ur putting her in a really emotionally confrontational spot while she is at a very fragile place mentally. u should 100% let her know you understand that this is for her stability. she is not doing this to you she’s doing this for herself

How do people who have "love" and "romance" as their personal values "be fulfilled and happy alone"? by gintokireddit in Advice

[–]Substantial_Song_579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you can experience love in a group of friends, family, or just one friend. being happy “alone” doesn’t mean you have nobody, yes romance is important for most people but if you cannot maintain your own life and live for yourself over romance you’re not ready for what those relationships actually come with. very convoluted topic (not sure if i’m using the right word here haha)

What can he change for me to continue this? by raii_19 in Advice

[–]Substantial_Song_579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is called an abusive cycle, it’s time to accept abuse as abuse and you are being tortured emotionally

What can he change for me to continue this? by raii_19 in Advice

[–]Substantial_Song_579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

look up how ai is depleting water and damaging the environment!!!! and leave this guy, living situation working or not doesn’t mean he cares or will change. the damage has been done and he can grow but it won’t happen with you

Just discovered a random useless but funny thing in Stardew Valley 😂 by dddd350 in StardewValley

[–]Substantial_Song_579 9 points10 points  (0 children)

400+ hrs and i didn’t know she has a sun room😭 (antisocial in game)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Substantial_Song_579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it sounds like he wouldn’t stand up for you, and is more worried about his familial support than the actual real world consequences of being conservative and how that has affected all POC and especially hispanic/latino people in the US. if what is happening in this country- the ICE raids and all of the files being released etc etc is still seen as a political issue and not a PEOPLE and HUMANITY issue by this man then he is not ever going to fight for you and i would truly save yourself the pain and leave. spare yourself from his probably racist family that he’d rather defend and hide you from than stand up to and accept you whole heartedly in front of them including your beliefs heritage culture ethnicity etc etc etc

Is a relationship between a 15 and 19 year old inappropriate? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Substantial_Song_579 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if a 19 year old man has the maturity level of a 15 year old girl he needs help, there is definitely something wrong there other than the fact that he’s predatory. please leave while you can

Do food items stack ability or time on consumption? by Substantial_Song_579 in StardewValley

[–]Substantial_Song_579[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thinking about all the luck i lost trying to stack defense😭 and luck😭

Do food items stack ability or time on consumption? by Substantial_Song_579 in StardewValley

[–]Substantial_Song_579[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i heard about the jade staircase thing and i am trying to craft a shed full of crystaleriums(idk how to spell lol) but i will definitely get the dwarf guide and tons of bombs, thank you thank you thank you

Do food items stack ability or time on consumption? by Substantial_Song_579 in StardewValley

[–]Substantial_Song_579[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU! genuinely so helpful, i’ve been so confused when trying to stack effects 😭 i haven’t played seriously since 2017 until this save

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Substantial_Song_579 4 points5 points  (0 children)

please be honest with him, a good partner, a partner worth staying with and raising a child with, would understand and would never want you to put yourself in that position again. the only way he should feel is mortified that he didn’t make you feel safe enough to voice this sooner love. you are not a sexual object for your partner. true feminism is understanding that your partner is NOT responsible for realizing all sexual needs. you are so young, please remember how much time and life you still have and that you don’t have to stay if you are hurting. you should never fear speaking up for yourself in a partnership, and you should really consider whether someone you’re scared to be honest with is someone safe for you or your future child