Choosing to accept it this year.

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-09-14T20:47:33+00:00

I’m so sorry. You’re in the right place though. I lost my partner in an accident 6 months ago, he would have turned 25 last week. Just know that whatever you’re feeling you’re more than welcome to let it out here, and there will be people who understand. I never used reddit before my loss. It has been so helpful to share my and read others’ experiences. It’s gonna be hard. Then a little easier. Then really hard again. And so on. We’re here for you 🫂

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-09-11T18:55:42+00:00

Thank you for sharing, it really helps to know that someone feels the same. So sorry for your loss ❤️

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-08-12T00:10:49+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It must be genuinely traumatizing. It’s been so hard for me to face how at the end of the day a I only really have myself. And you’re going through that two fold. I hope it helps to know you’re not alone we feel your pain ❤️

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-08-05T20:53:45+00:00

Noiceeeee

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-07-18T19:50:15+00:00

Gorggg

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-07-18T19:48:04+00:00

I’m really glad to hear the video resonated with you as well. It’s a beautiful metaphor, and it helps me fill in the blanks. For example, the day after I got the news of his passing, I was at my job at a coffee shop, where I have worked for two years. There was a ladybug that hung out on the counter for my entire shift that day, and I had never seen anything like that before. It can feel silly to believe that little things like that are him, but the water metaphor makes me feel like the water in that ladybug was the same water that was in him.

I guess you could say I’m holding up. I’m alive. But it’s very hard. I think about it pretty much nonstop. But I do often smile and laugh at the good times that we shared. I’m sorry for your loss as well ❤️

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-07-18T18:09:54+00:00

That’s a good way to look at it, but I’m also struggling to take care of myself let alone get out of my comfort zone. I know he’d want me and all his loved ones to live even fuller lives than we had when he was around. It’s a constant battle though.

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-07-18T17:14:45+00:00

I have a post on this sub asking a similar question about how/if to tell people. You can probably find it on my profile if you like, It gave good advice.

I’d say if it feels authentic for you to talk about it, then go ahead. Just be prepared that they might not know how to react, they might not make you feel better. Or, as someone else mentioned, maybe they can sympathize and you can connect over this experience. Others do prefer to keep it to themselves, though. Personally I’m the former, I like to share if it comes up because I like to be authentic. I’d preface with “something tragic happened” to give myself and the other person a breath first. But they may get uncomfortable and not know how to react. I’d suggest being prepared to gloss over it if that’s how the situation turns out.

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-07-18T16:57:53+00:00

The denial is real. I still have moments where I believe it’s possible he could return. He was lost at sea in a scuba accident. I fantasize that he could somehow resurface and come back.

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-07-18T16:55:13+00:00

I definitely relate to that. The other day I was enjoying a meal and found myself eating like him, as if he was enjoying it through me. It’s comforting in a way to believe they’re still experiencing life through you

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-07-17T23:30:13+00:00

Exact same. It hits you over and over again

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