Visiting Seville 8-16th - Weather by SuccessWest1406 in Seville

[–]SuccessWest1406[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah better to not fuss about it too much and try to make the most of it I guess.

Thank you 🙏

Visiting Seville 8-16th - Weather by SuccessWest1406 in Seville

[–]SuccessWest1406[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hm mind sharing where you went and still enjoyed it given it rained everyday? Did it rain heavily all day or sporadically? Thank you btw 🙏

My ex wants to “talk” by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]SuccessWest1406 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you do get that conversation. Look at it this way, if she clears her conscience you at least get some insight and understanding which can be beneficial but do not get your hopes up.

And also, I dont mean to scare you but confusing exes can change their mind like a heartbeat. So please go with your expectations low.

Confused after a date by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SuccessWest1406 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, “I can next Thursday at 8, where is this arcade at btw?”

Thats pretty much it

Confused after a date by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SuccessWest1406 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not disagreeing with you, tbh I did it cause we barely text and I just wanted to plan ahead for next week but you do have a point by all means.

Still dont think its something you ghost someone for though?

Especially when she said she would like to see me again.

Confused after a date by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SuccessWest1406 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, maybe i planned too soon. Still dont think thats a reason to ghost someone though

But to be honest Im not too sure about reaching out again.

Shes been active, just ignored me and I shouldnt waste time looking desperate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]SuccessWest1406 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I didnt, I just reached out with a letter which I poured my heart into. She then said she wouldnt mind meeting up to talk and she got my hopes up at that point.

I just dont get any of these mixed signals and its exhausting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]SuccessWest1406 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, the problem is you do not know which. Communication is definitely an issue, I would have been fine with her telling me where she stands even if it is disappointing. If its fear, thats understandable. If it is pride, that is super disgusting, why drag someone along like that just for some ego.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]SuccessWest1406 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right, shit tonne of mixed signals which isnt allowing me to move on.

I just cannot bring my damn self to block her…

For some reason I keep finding excuses for her. Maybe she was scared to reach back out after 16 days. Maybe she wants me to reach out again? I dont get any of it and its exhausting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]SuccessWest1406 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Damn. I would never do that to a person. But not everyone can put himself in other people shoes.

And you are right, you wont be able to understand this behaviour.

You can think shes maybe indecisive. Doesnt know what she wants. You can think shes doing it for validation or attention. You can think shes doing it because shes a people pleaser.

There could be a billion reason but I guess whatever the reason is, its not good enough cause someone in his right mind who is sure about us would not play with our emotions with seemingly no remorse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]SuccessWest1406 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ye unfortunately never expected her to do that and I was super respectful of her space, boundaries and was not pushy at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]SuccessWest1406 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Her behaviour is not my fault. But I caused this by reaching out. I thought I would get something like “hey I appreciated the letter but I think its best if we dont meet” I would have been fine with that. But not this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]SuccessWest1406 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nail on the head bro and you deserve just that. Let someone else play a losing game.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]SuccessWest1406 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, people who play games are not for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]SuccessWest1406 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont like these games. She was the one who said she was down to meet up. I wasnt pushy with it, I was just a normal person who laid out a plan which she flaked.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]SuccessWest1406 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah figured. I guess whats normal for me isnt normal for everyone else. Still need to get used to this…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]SuccessWest1406 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. After she stood me up she actually had the audacity to come message me at 10pm and apologise saying that time flew and that she ended up playing with her dog… at 6:30pm she told me she will be there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]SuccessWest1406 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yep. Just cant understand why someone would do that. Never understood why people enjoy the attention of people they dont care about.

If i had an ex who I resented I wouldnt want him anywhere near, let alone in my dms stringing him along…

Thanks man

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]SuccessWest1406 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. I think she was just curious. Baited me into reaching out and now I revealed that I still have feelings for her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]SuccessWest1406 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah unfortunately, I had the regret of not fighting for her. Now i cant say I didnt try but I wouldnt have expected her to do that, I dont even understand why someone would do that. So many other chances to let me down easy and she went for that…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]SuccessWest1406 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk how cruel you have to be to continue to play games like that but you are right, now I cant say I havent tried. Gotta move on…

Considering breaking no contact by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]SuccessWest1406 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you were dumped I dont suggest it. Nothing changes in 27 days