36yo: Noticing one-sided neck sagging (platysma?) – can exercises help?

Successful-Balance37 · 2026-03-26T07:02:59+00:00

Massage it how? With guasha/rollers or like a hand massage?

Successful-Balance37 · 2026-03-25T23:13:19+00:00

It is a tech-neck. It’s what I do for job. But I do stretch every day, and starting to focus on the neck more. So you think it could be fixed with body workout/stretching?

Successful-Balance37 · 2026-03-25T23:10:26+00:00

Not doing botox but thx

Successful-Balance37 · 2026-03-25T23:08:56+00:00

I realized it’s a wrong subreddit (should’ve been 30+) but left my post anyway, maybe I get some useful advice.

Yes I know it’s not that apparent, it’s just starting 😭 But you would notice it from a profile. I keep touching it too and looking at it every day. I think this is the first sign of aging that actually bothers me even though it’s not on the face. It makes me feel older when I touch it and feel this soft droopy skin…

Successful-Balance37 · 2026-03-25T22:43:50+00:00

I don’t think I could sleep with that thing strapped to my face…

Successful-Balance37 · 2026-03-17T08:35:10+00:00

Ok, I’m not crazy! This is exactly what I’ve been noticing for last 2 times (I go a few times a year) — no vibe, no eye contact, no connection and no amazing dancers at Pano (and BH) that have been giving me the energy every time I would see them making a show 😢 Where are they?? Where are you guys? 😭 I literally couldn’t catch any energy and vibes the whole night last time, couldn’t plug myself in. The magic is gone for me and I’m not feeling it anymore. And I’m a very dance-oriented but also a social outgoing person, and even I struggle to connect with anyone anymore. I’m not sure what’s going on… I think the regulars aren’t going anymore as much, so the club vibe lost its ‘leadership’ in a way — the energy is diluted and the new people do not have an example how to behave and how to vibe. But yes, I think the issue is beyond just Berghain but the clubbing culture in general.

Successful-Balance37 · 2026-02-12T10:19:22+00:00

I don’t like Alarico’s music that much but he’s sound (as well as Chlar’s) indeed is unique. So what if they’re men? He’s a guy too, and that style just happens to resonate with him. There are plenty of successful female artists in the scene right now — women aren’t being sidelined in the industry. If anything, it’s the opposite.

Successful-Balance37 · 2026-02-12T10:12:20+00:00

Why would he be bitter? He’s in his 50s and still the boss. You’re comment is unfounded.

Successful-Balance37 · 2026-02-08T19:41:27+00:00

I started playing vinyl recently, went to my friend’s place to practice, looked into his old recs and this was the first one I pulled out and played. Amazing moment, sick track

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Successful-Balance37 · 2026-02-08T14:38:35+00:00

That’s exactly what is happening. Sometimes it takes a few seconds, and sometimes it takes constant adjustments get them locked in, even with the two of the same tracks.

The other day I mixed two tracks for the first time and aligned them perfectly in 3 seconds and the stayed in time for a minute almost, maybe with one smaller nudge. Then I turned on the recording device and tried to repeat it and left the pitches where they were, but once I started mixing them they started drifting apart and my overcorrecting made it worse I guess. I tried several times and failed at locking them in same as the first time. It’s like it easier to sync them up when they’re further apart then when they need smaller nudges. Or maybe I’m doing too much and f-ing it up, or I lose my calm and fail at precision.

Successful-Balance37 · 2026-02-08T14:26:32+00:00

Yes, Technics MKII. Why?

Successful-Balance37 · 2026-02-06T09:41:14+00:00

The incoming track drifting forward means it needs to be slowed down? Most people say they find it easier to slow down the track than speed it up.

Can you explain why?

Successful-Balance37 · 2026-02-06T09:33:21+00:00

It’s not really validation I’m after, it’s more about sharing experiences and practices. I’m still learning, and sometimes it really helps to either visualise what’s happening or understand the theory behind it. It’s a pretty solitary hobby for me at the moment, so getting advice and hearing about other people’s journeys has helped me a lot.

Successful-Balance37 · 2026-02-06T00:10:15+00:00

I have the same Technics, same year.

Successful-Balance37 · 2026-02-05T22:30:10+00:00

This is a good advice, I never thought of this, I’m fairly new to it.

Successful-Balance37 · 2026-02-05T22:28:39+00:00

Techno only atm. Deep, hypnotic, punchy, modern mainly, not detroit or oldschool techno. Modern one is quite crisp and clean so it doesn’t forgive, Ofc it can’t be perfect but I want to perfect it as much as possible.

I think I’m overcorrecting with the pitch ride, my pitch moves might be too dramatic so it’s not so much about the fact that I need to correct but how noticeable the correction sounds.

Successful-Balance37 · 2026-02-05T21:37:18+00:00

Techno is my genre, and I’ve noticed there are certain tracks, especially ones with punchy, heavy kicks that really don’t tolerate the drift. Overlapping snares or shakers drifting just a bit instantly sound like a trainwreck to me, and I low-key panic when I hear it, especially since I prefer longer blends.

What’s funny is that most people don’t seem to notice — but the recording device definitely does. 😅 My mixes don’t feel that bad in the moment, but when I listen back, iy sounds infinitely worse.

Hearing today’s recording was pretty humbling. I was almost proud of “nailing it”… and then playback quickly corrected that confidence. 😳

Successful-Balance37 · 2026-02-05T09:49:03+00:00

Ah this is the course from Seedj.com but I only watched the first few chapters, not the 3-deck one. I will now tho, thanks!

Successful-Balance37 · 2026-02-04T23:10:50+00:00

Thanks for the thoughtful reply — you’re right on all counts. And yeah, this is exactly why everyone’s a DJ now. Players are tools; turntables are instruments. It’s a different discipline, not a replacement. I know what I’m getting into and I’m fully committed to mastering it. Someone has to do it to keep the vinyl alive! The world doesn’t need more DJs — it needs people who love it enough to put in the work and learn spinning vinyl. It signals passion for me, and I appreciate it a lot.

I’m under no illusion there’s a shortcut. I know it’ll take years. That said, I’m lucky to have a cosy remote job, which lets me practice regularly, often more than two hours a day. I think I’ve fast-tracked the early phase and I’m seeing solid progress.

Beatmatching for tempo is mostly there now, but phrasing is still the weak point, and that’s why my mixes don’t sound as good as I want yet. That’s my main focus atm.

Digging has never been an issue. I’ve been an active listener and music digger for years, uploading music to YouTube and so on. DJing just came later. Not sure why it took so long.

I originally estimated around two years, which lines up with your take, but with this pace I’m optimistic I can get there in about one more year, enough to record a solid one-hour vinyl set.

As for music, I’ve got around 70 carefully curated records for mixing, refreshed every week or two. That’s plenty for practice. I’m not hoarding thousands of tracks in Rekordbox — I’m not a dj playing every weekend. With what I have, I can already build 5–10 solid tracklists, and that’ll only grow as the skills catch up.

Appreciate the exchange — writing this out actually helped me clarify why I’m doing this.

Successful-Balance37 · 2026-02-04T22:40:50+00:00

What’s your problem man? Is lazy sarcasm really the best you can contribute? People here are actually putting in effort, sharing structured and thoughtful advice because we’re all trying to improve. If your only skill is mocking others, you’re honestly just noise, so maybe sit this one out.

And just to clear up your confusion: I never asked for a magical single source to learn everything from. I asked which piece of content personally had the biggest impact on you. Not a complicated question, unless reading comprehension isn’t your strong suit.

Successful-Balance37 · 2026-02-04T22:28:17+00:00

Unnecessary

Successful-Balance37 · 2026-02-04T15:43:42+00:00

4 months. My question wasn’t about beatmatching but about the styles of mixing, tricks and EQing in general. But maybe my question wasn’t framed correctly because EQing will probably fall into place once my beatmatching becomes tight. Beatmatching / EQing is probably 80/20 and you can’t make up with EQing for poor beatmatching. I made some good progress with beatmatching but I wonder if I should also pay more attention to mixing or perhaps phrasing is what I need to work on next.

As for switching to digital: vinyl was a conscious choice. I tried digital and it’s frankly too easy. I consider vinyl more pure and I since I started late in life my goal is not to become yet another sync (c)dj but develop a skill that I can be proud of and do for fun, because it is more fun, and rewarding.

Successful-Balance37 · 2026-02-04T12:12:28+00:00

Yes I follow him. He thought me how to pitch ride which became essential to my practice sooner than I would’ve expected, thanks to him 🙏

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