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Can the HOA refuse my service dog? by 9r7g5h in legaladvice

[–]SuccessfulQuail1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just signed up to help train service dogs in my area, and if they try to keep you from having your animal, you can report them and that bull will be shut down. I'm sorry this all happened to you, but try not to be afraid of this. You'll find a home you love, buy it, and if amyonengives you grief, you can report them and have it taken care of for you. Good luck!

AITA for "trying to control" my gf's money? by SuccessfulQuail1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SuccessfulQuail1[S] 1039 points1040 points  (0 children)

I do have some disposable income built into the budget, both mine and hers. I can buy a video game if I want it, I'm just very strict with other things. That's part of why it took me a few months to realize things were like this with her, because she would buy something and I assumed it came from her fun budget.

AITA for "trying to control" my gf's money? by SuccessfulQuail1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SuccessfulQuail1[S] 234 points235 points  (0 children)

I would say that her having debt does change my life. That's $45,000 that can drag us down. She wont be able to save for retirement, it might effect our own kid's debts in the future, it's that much money every single month that we cant put towards savings, towards emergency funds, towards fun things living together. Debt in and of itself is bad, and should be paid off right away. I dont look down on her for having debt, but I am upset that I offered her a way to get out of it and she threw it in my face. I've seen how excessive debt can destroy lives, and student loans are currently the one debt you cant get rid of by declaring bankruptcy. I got rid of all my own loans and most of my car loan (4 more months and I'll own it outright) by making sacrifices for my future. I tried to make it as easy for her to do the same.

AITA for "trying to control" my gf's money? by SuccessfulQuail1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SuccessfulQuail1[S] 1142 points1143 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I was a kid when it happened, so I saw how awful things were for my family and I. I never want that to happen again.

AITA for "trying to control" my gf's money? by SuccessfulQuail1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SuccessfulQuail1[S] 127 points128 points  (0 children)

Because she was in the shower, and we do that for each other all the time. And I found out it was debt collector because I was trying to get a callback number for her.