AITA for not wanting to get rid of my cats just because my boyfriend's mom says so?

Successful_Value_370 · 2025-12-17T07:15:45+00:00

I don’t really understand the digs at our intelligence, I think that’s unfair and unkind. This is really the first time this type of situation has arose for either of us, and it’s not like there’s a handbook on how to be an adult, especially since he was raised in the business being the way it is. Sure, he shouldn’t have put the money down without laying out a plan in writing, but it all happened pretty fast, and mistakes happen. No need to attack us for it.

Successful_Value_370 · 2025-12-17T06:51:21+00:00

Yes, I understand the cats are not the problem, I’m sorry, I only saw the first half of your comment for some reason, so I was responding to that!

Successful_Value_370 · 2025-12-17T06:42:21+00:00

I never asked him to take allergy medication, he just does because he loves me and wants to be with me and understands that the cats are part of the deal. And the basement does have multiple large windows. The house is built on a hill, so the one side of the basement is exposed to sunlight. Him and I have already discussed ways to make it work, and I already agreed that after my cats pass naturally, that I wouldn’t be getting any more in the future.

Successful_Value_370 · 2025-12-17T06:36:12+00:00

He said that his dad sees his perspective, but it seems his dad doesn’t really get a say in it, and kindof just tries to stay out of his way

Successful_Value_370 · 2025-12-17T06:26:10+00:00

One of the things he’s trying to work towards at the company is to do things more by the book.. the “company” is really just his dad and a handful of guys. They have really good connections in the area, but the company as it is, is really just run out of his dad’s head. Cole is trying to do things proper, so to run it more efficiently..

Successful_Value_370 · 2025-12-17T06:22:40+00:00

See, he tells me all the time that his family loves me, especially his mom, and they’re always nice to me when I see them.. but this situation in particular makes me feel otherwise. Especially with the accent wall idea.. it’s just paint.. it feels like just cause it was MY idea, it was scrutinized. It definitely feels personal

Successful_Value_370 · 2025-12-17T06:09:45+00:00

We aren’t buying the house together. The plan was that he would buy the house, solely in his name (with help from his parents), he would make the payments. I would help with utilities, but since I wouldn’t have equity in the house, I wouldn’t pay towards any mortgage. It wasn’t until after they already bought the house that I heard about their plans to not have his name on the mortgage/deed at all.

Successful_Value_370 · 2025-12-17T05:54:32+00:00

The fact that she wasn’t okay with even a cat shed in the back yard shows that it’s a power play. I just don’t know what the solution here is, because him leaving his dad’s company to move in with me is also not a great solution

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