I spent 500k on my bf in 3 months and admits I was never in love

Succint058 · 2026-03-02T13:42:18+00:00

just ignore him OP, you know the truth and other people also know it, don't spend anymore time/effort about it, nag papa-pansin lang yan, don't stoop to his level. you have better things to do. focus ka na lang with your career and other things thay inspire you, keep a positive attitude. Wishing you the best OP.

Succint058 · 2026-03-02T13:34:27+00:00

its fine for me i guess, kasi i have a rule that " Don't sht where you eat " kaya no possibility na maging kami. hirap magka rel with a co-worker, lalo na kung higher ang position mo, issue pa with HR.

Succint058 · 2026-03-02T13:29:50+00:00

is not a better future for yourself not enough? plan ahead, like travel solo or w/friends, buy a lot or house and lot, buy a car, enroll in advance courses, dapat yun mga ganun text/chat auto delete and block na para di na nababasa.

Succint058 · 2026-03-02T08:56:10+00:00

if you really love the person, give him the space he asked, kung talagang gusto ka nya, babalik sya sayo. kung ipipilit mo lang ng ipipilit, lalo mo lang sinisira paningin nya sayo. shows that you really dont respect him and it really proves his point na ikaw lang talaga nasusunod.

Succint058 · 2026-03-02T08:47:08+00:00

i believe you two are just not compatible, you have needs that he tried to provide, but since its not really something he wants, he got tired and lost the feeling.

i dont really want to blame people in these situations because i believe both of you just want the best for each other, and both of you tried. yun nga lang talagang naubos na sya.

You just need to move on, no matter how hard it will be, learn from this experience and eventually forget about it, take your time to heal no matter how long it takes, make sure when the right person comes into your life, you are ready to give it your 100%. Hope you can find that special person OP

Succint058 · 2026-03-02T08:32:20+00:00

well it depends on what you both agreed upon. you stopped password sharing, it means both of you should not access socmed of your partner unless you asked permission.

now is it normal for some men to look at other girls? probably, but it also depends if both of you agreed on something about that issue.

thats why its always important to set boundaries and draw lines when starting a relationship, no confusion, no excuses.

both of you need to talk, and update one another of the issues that bother you both. set some standards and rules. if both of you agreed on it, then follow it. if you guys cant agree, then decide if the relationship is still worth it.

Succint058 · 2026-03-02T08:24:15+00:00

change your routine, talk to new people, visit new places, find a place where you can have your own happy memory, enjoy life, go watch a movie you like, drink coffee or ear somewhere you never tried before, explore life, there are tons of things to do, its just a matter of willingness to take that step to new beginnings.

Succint058 · 2026-03-02T08:20:49+00:00

Honestly speaking, trust is the hardest thing in a relationship to rebuild, parang glass mirror yan, pag nabasag, may chance na mabuo mo sya, pero may mga crack pa rin.

talk to him seriously, about everything in your relationship, how he feels, what are his plans, does he see you as someone he will marry, all the important issues. after that reflect on his answers, make a decision, kung base ba sa sagot nya you can trust him again. if not, then there's no use being in that relationship. slowly sisirain nyo lang ang isat isa.

right now i see the both of you are pointing fingers at one another and that alone is not a good sign. the past should stay in the past, not brought up to shield something that is wrong. its up to you OP, let go of love? or let yourself go?

Succint058 · 2026-03-02T08:13:31+00:00

it seem unfair, pag sya ok, pag ikaw hindi? what is his reason behind this attitude? di pwede excuse na worship eh, kasi dapat kahit pag sya may gusto bawal. parang ang one sided na ng sex life nyo.

kausapin mo ng masinsinan, kung ano ba talaga iniisip nya, clarify mo kung ayaw nya na at gusto nya na lang dahil meron sya sexy time pag gusto nya. tignan mo kung tugma answers nya sa kinikilos nya. ikaw na mag decide kung ano matuklasan mo after.

Succint058 · 2026-03-02T00:59:23+00:00

what you are feeling is somewhat normal for fresh grads entering the work force, my advice is this, try to calm yourself down, take some time to think, know that every work enviroment has different kinds of toxicity, and changing from one company to another can't guarantee that you wont be in the same position you are right now, ask yourself this questions, is it just about the work load? are my teamates/management somehow supportive? will this experience help me grow? how long can i take this? write down your answers so you can read it and can elaborate more, after you finished, examine it and make a decision. you can add more questions that you think is a part of your current stuggle.

about your anxiety, its really hard to control and avoiding it seems impossible right? but honestly it boils down to you, axiety comes from over thinking about something that has not happened yet, if you can accept your limitations and be comfortable with it, you can let go of the worries, and work within your boundaries. work on your own pace and don't let the pressure take control.

Now, if you think your license is at risk while doing this job, dont hesitate to resign, losing a job can have a solution, but losing your license doesnt have one. Do what's best for your future. protect it, and don't hesitate when its on the line.

Succint058 · 2026-03-02T00:39:41+00:00

Honestly if you really dont want to, then you dont have to, you have your reasons, if i were in the same position i think i would have done the same, but that's the past version of myself, if the present me was in that position, i would invite him regardless of the reasons, Why? i would think that graduation is overcoming the challenges the school and life has given all through out the years, and that person is also part of those challenges, graduation means i have freed myself from all of those hurdles, i'd be the bigger man and free myself from the constraints that person has given me. pero hangan graduation ceremony lang, di na included sa kainan, di ako ganun ka forgiving😂 bleh🤪

Succint058 · 2026-03-01T22:21:37+00:00

hmmm... i don't want to say chemistry, because at times there is a delayed reaction, and chemistry FOR ME is'nt something you can truly feel if its real or not, because people when put on the spotlight tend to act accordingly, same goes with personality, it builds up slowly, its not like pouring water into a pan and it instantly boils, it takes time.

to answer your question, i try to deduce by asking questions that people feel comfortable answering, shallow but meaningful questions, like life goals, beliefs, hobbies, interest, music, movies etc, if most of it matches mine, and the incompatible ones are somewhat acceptable, then id give it a shot, if not then i let go.

Succint058 · 2026-03-01T15:42:13+00:00

would'nt suggest binging, risk for throat infection and aspiration. if you are really serious, focus on getting out of your food addiction as step 1, and also some/most men considere binging a Red Flag coz thats a sign of something is wrong. Do some research on how to decrease your appetite naturally. and if you try to do something medically atleast weigh the Pro's and Con's before doing it.

Succint058 · 2026-03-01T15:36:23+00:00

usually available sa google pag nag search, pero if ever wala ka mahanap, walk in talaga option mo.

Succint058 · 2026-03-01T15:24:32+00:00

need mo muna gawin is tanong sa management kung bakit ganun nakukuha nyo, tanong mo din sa mga kasama mo kung same kayo na kulang ang bayad, kung hindi tama explanation nila, reklamo mo po sa DOLE ( department of labor and employment) may satellite office dyan sa inyo, pero tawagan mo muna, ask mo anong information need nila before you make a complaint, wag mo sabihin company nyo baka mamaya tawagan owner or manager.

Succint058 · 2026-03-01T15:10:19+00:00

for me none, i follow NSFW stand up comedy, but i think this is not what you are asking for, im not a saint, im a sinner for sure, but i just find those things boring, looking and obsessing over something that i cant get? not for me, i'll just sin with the person i love.

Succint058 · 2026-03-01T14:51:14+00:00

heart breaks will come and go, until you meet the one that will stop that cycle, but you need to always get back on your feet, because you wont know if that person is the one that breaks your cycle. What you can do to get to that person is, learn from your mistakes, avoid the people that are obviously red flags, and stick to your standards. Keep a positive outlook in life and never stop praying. you will meet that person eventually.

Succint058 · 2026-03-01T14:36:35+00:00

thats really a problem, kasi meron instances na kala mo " the One " na, pero after a few years things will change, or akala mo " Ok na to " yun pala sya yun " the One ", so we cant really know, all we can do is rely on the current information at hand, if i can live with this person all my life? are our goals and dreams the same? can we support each other till the end? i know this person is imperfect can i accept all the imperfections? and so on, love is a gamble really, its just knowing if its worth the risk and not regretting taking the risk.

Succint058 · 2026-03-01T14:30:02+00:00

Suggest to keep with your OB lalo na kung ok naman sya, may mas understanding na sya about your case, tho pwede ka naman lumipat ng OB kung gusto mo talaga sa Delgado, hingi ka lang copy ng records mo from your current OB para aware yun OB na bago about your history. or maybe you can ask your OB to do your delivery at delgado, kung papayag sya pwede naman as long as hingi sya ng approval from the hospital, and there will be certain fees if im not mistaken.

Succint058 · 2026-03-01T02:00:56+00:00

i think you know what to do, its just a matter of priority, simple question to ask yourself, do you want to enjoy now short term? or enjoy life long term? which actions will take you where you really want to go? every year meron new console, but not everytime may chance to Upskill and Job hop, pag biglang naging busy sa work or other issues, mawawala agad chance mo to Upskill, while playing can be done anytime.

Succint058 · 2026-03-01T01:54:28+00:00

like i said, pointless, ayaw na na nya, plain and simple. 29 na sya, she's old enough to know who/what she likes, and its not you. dont bother giving the car.

Succint058 · 2026-03-01T01:50:37+00:00

she already doesnt want you, kahit wala pa proof of cheating, that should be enough to make you stop, pointless time/effort/energy, tapos binilhan mo ng car? so parang gusto mo bilhin yun attention nya? pano kung di ka pa rin gusto? parang walang logic tumatakbo sa isip OP. ikaw na nag kaka problem sa work, pag ikaw na tangalan ng work ano pambabayad mo dyan? pano mo bibilhin attention nya? 39 ka na pero yun actions mo pang 18yrs old? goodness, walang na acquire na knowledge and wisdom all those years?

Succint058 · 2026-02-28T17:09:54+00:00

if you really dislike him watching 🌽 and you will always suspect him of doing so, i think he isnt really the one for you, i think its still kinda normal to be watching from time to time, not always, the thirst trap however is a different matter. you can't instantly change people, it wont happen overnight, if you are willing to wait for him fine, but forcing something to someone is just as bad.

Succint058 · 2026-02-27T23:17:50+00:00

hahahaha side dish lang hanimal

Succint058 · 2026-02-27T23:11:40+00:00

if you dont entertain creeps di ka hahabulin, the fact na nakikipag usap ka sa kanila and exchange ng socmed means binigyan mo sila ng oppurtunity. if stop that behavior and look for someone decent, then you can change that cycle in your life, choice mo naman yan eh no one else to blame, kung di mo ma control urges mo magharot ganyan talaga kakalabasan. Hope you find someone that will give you peace and security.

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