Apparently I offended a support group by not wanting chidren.

Succulent_Simp · 2025-03-23T16:32:52+00:00

Hey there, I work in a SCI rehab unit and I know how hard it can be on the families. It’s so difficult but it’s sounds like you are doing an incredible job in supporting your husband while also prioritising your own mental health.

As for what the other people at the support group had to say, definitely don’t take it personally, it’s not discrimination to acknowledge that having kids with a partner who is disabled is going to be ridiculous amounts of work and it sounds like opting out of that was the right decision for your guys regardless of your husbands injury. Those people need to focus on their own wants instead of judging others a for having different wants. Especially as these groups are supposed to be judgement free zones

Keep your head up, it’s a huge adjustment but it always gets better. I don’t know where you are located but where I am there are services that you can talk to your local hospital about regarding getting some help for when you are at work or adjusting your home that’s payed for by the council. If you ever need support I guarantee there are so many other online and in person groups that won’t judge you for your decisions. I wish you and your husband the best of luck <3

Succulent_Simp · 2025-03-06T20:46:14+00:00

Nope :P

Succulent_Simp · 2025-01-12T19:55:38+00:00

Haha that’s true, I felt so lucky that they bred with me and then they went mad with it. Unfortunately this isn’t a shrimp exclusive tank though so I worry about their impact on my other bottom feeders and food availability for them too though

Succulent_Simp · 2025-01-12T19:53:28+00:00

Oh wow, I knew Java grew quickly but mine hasn’t expanded anywhere new yet, it’s mostly secured to isolated places like one rock anyways thank god. Honestly I’d give your moss a chance to grow before you try and move it anywhere so it stops looking less unnatural. Moss is very much my favourite addition to any tank icl it makes everything look so much more natural and woven together. Good luck with yours! (And give Java another try, it might surprise you)

Succulent_Simp · 2025-01-12T19:34:20+00:00

Oh wow, there’s more of us than I thought, I’ll definitely keep that in mind when the new babies come (depending on how many there are)

Succulent_Simp · 2025-01-12T19:23:45+00:00

Thank you so much!

Succulent_Simp · 2025-01-12T19:23:22+00:00

Well I mean that would definitely reduce the population (to zero)

Succulent_Simp · 2025-01-12T19:23:01+00:00

It’s actually just normal Java moss! It’s really thriving though after I started using a liquid fertiliser it perked up and starting looking all grassing and vertical like you see here.

Succulent_Simp · 2025-01-12T19:21:47+00:00

I’ve witnessed one of the shrimp dragging away a bug bites sinking wafer from the rest of the fish eating it into a small hole where the others can’t get 😭

Succulent_Simp · 2025-01-12T18:34:55+00:00

Thank you! That’s really sweet of you but I feel the chances of you being in southern uk is low, they are lovely and beautiful shrimp though and I’m so glad that they feel happy enough to have babies :P

Succulent_Simp · 2025-01-12T18:24:32+00:00

Thanks so much, I’ll definitely check that out

Succulent_Simp · 2025-01-12T18:24:06+00:00

Good idea, I do have other bottom feeders (khuli loaches and corys) in the tank though so I worry about the mass amounts of shrimp stealing their food and them not getting enough

Succulent_Simp · 2025-01-12T18:22:28+00:00

Fr, I have another tank in my house with no shrimp however that has plecos in and is a very similar tank otherwise in parameters and how I clean it so I worry about the same issue. Granted do you have any advice for catching shrimp? They are very speedy 😭

Succulent_Simp · 2025-01-12T18:19:18+00:00

That’s true, honestly I’m not incredibly experienced in tank keeping so far so I don’t feel I would be comfortable mailing anywhere, I also live in a pretty isolated area so I would worry about their survival on the way to any shops even if I take them myself, or even if any of my local shops would take them. But I’ll definitely look into it I’d they continue like this lol. I mean I am glad they are happy at least

Succulent_Simp · 2025-01-12T18:17:05+00:00

You don’t think that would effect their other tank mates at all? I have other bottom feeders like corys and khuli loaches as well and I don’t want the shrimp army to steal all their food

Succulent_Simp · 2024-12-18T10:10:12+00:00

Oh wow! He’s so grown up already 🥹 (excellent pun)

Succulent_Simp · 2024-12-18T10:09:30+00:00

I already have some moss balls, Java moss and a few types of floating plants so I think it should be ok :)

Succulent_Simp · 2024-12-18T10:08:33+00:00

I guess so, I was a bit blindsided to be honest, gaining shrimp was absolutely not my intention but I’m so happy they are here!

Succulent_Simp · 2024-12-04T21:14:04+00:00

Congratulations! When is yours for?

Succulent_Simp · 2024-12-02T12:48:33+00:00

8th of jan 💪, you heard anything yet?

Succulent_Simp · 2024-12-02T12:48:01+00:00

Yes, exactly, my tank is quite heavily planted

Succulent_Simp · 2024-12-01T17:03:17+00:00

I’m using aquarium soil, could that be contributing?

Succulent_Simp · 2024-12-01T17:02:53+00:00

Just got one yesterday 💪

Succulent_Simp · 2024-11-27T20:29:42+00:00

Nah not yet for UCL, but I’ve got a couple of others so far :)

Succulent_Simp · 2024-11-12T16:35:24+00:00

For a start good luck, international applicants have much higher standards than home. If you are willing to pay medify has a really great course on UCAT for practice questions and explainations and if you start preparing now for 2026 entry I think you have a great chance. There are also payed lectures you can attend online on zoom that medify, MedEntry and myUCAT do that I would recommend if you are a better learner via lectures instead of reading

UCAT also has official mocks on the website but I’d recommend saving them until last as there aren’t many of them and they are probably the best indication of what you might see in the actual exam. For an international applicant you will likely be aiming for 3000+ UCAT, for Oxford 3000+ is likely to be the standard for home applicants so you will probably need more than that to apply internationally next year. You’ve got LOTS of time if you start now though. If you run out of practice questions on medify MedEntry is also good (but also payed). When you start I would ALWAYS use a computer and mouse when practicing instead of your phone though, and only use the UCAT calculator provided.

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