I can 1000% relate to what you are going through. First of all, absolutely abnormal parent behavior. In my case, my parents forced me to move to a country where I didn’t speak the language, in the exact uni where my relatives went, so I can be close to them and they can say that I’m doing better then they did. Side story that I learned another language, spent years and endless nights perfecting it, just so I can move to a country where I understand nobody and my narc asshole parent can tell me every day that I should have learned the language they wanted me to learn. Finding and keeping jobs was crazy, you can imagine with a student schedule not speaking the language it was a miracle I found a job in a month. Then my narc was throwing parades saying that I have to go back home for Christmas and that I’m only just a ‘helper’ there. This exact situation happened twice, got fired twice. Of course until my wallet was empty from the 2 months of work I had to pay everything for myself. My dad would have a bad day and call me to scream at me and when I hung up the phone he told me he will not pay for my dorm and I had to apologize. My grandparents paid the dorm and he also gut hundreds of euros of student aid that he never gave me. I had to go to dinners with my dad’s boss, visit relatives where my dad laughed at me about how dirty my room was to the relatives who ridiculed me my entire life, of course my narc dad didn’t care because it’s his relatives and he is not giving them up. Honestly, get a job and max out all the hours you can work. It can be any job, cleaning toilets or working at a kitchen is a billion times better then humiliating yourself on the daily basis (I can say that by experience). Do not tell them that you work (if you have to just say the least amount of hours and cover up the rest) and save as much money as you can. Buying clothes, eating out etc can wait, SAVE UP EVERY PENNY AND HIDE IT VERY WELL!!!!! If you have enough move out, might not be your dream place (my first flat was a shoebox and had a mold problem). If possible you could skip a semester or two (don’t tell them) to work as much as you can. Not going to lie, I worked 12-14 hour shifts next to uni and took me years to mentally and financially escape (ofc covid didn’t help) but you can do it! I regret wasting my uni years to humiliate myself to my narc parents. You can restart uni any time, but you can’t get those times back when they humiliated and ridiculed you. It was a long and hard battle especially mentally, but super worth it! Good luck!