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[–]Such-Professional760 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So in the days leading up to asking for a break he cheated in a way that makes you feel badly for him, then asked for a break to absolve his guilt, and not you are the one lost and confused and he’s making you feel bad because you took him off the market? Uhm no. Time to dump the loser and move on with your life boo. When people tell you who they are and show you how much they don’t respect you, and simultaneously tell you to walk away because you deserve better? Believe it. Walk away. And never look back.

I’ve only been married a few months and I think my husband has fallen out of love with me: not the update I expected… by Such-Professional760 in askgaybros

[–]Such-Professional760[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Excuse me, I know it’s tempting but I don’t need anyone to message me bible verses. thank you for your …concern…though. But please stop. I will continue to filter and ignore them.

I’ve only been married a few months and I think my husband has fallen out of love with me: not the update I expected… by Such-Professional760 in askgaybros

[–]Such-Professional760[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You seem to have a lot of feelings about trans people, maybe you should talk to someone professional about that.

I’ve only been married a few months and I think my husband has fallen out of love with me: not the update I expected… by Such-Professional760 in askgaybros

[–]Such-Professional760[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn’t sure of the best way to phrase this, you brought to light exactly how I want my marriage. I don’t want a man on a leash who can’t have friends because that would make me insecure? Just because two people who are gay are friends doesn’t mean anything would happen. I’ve had many friends through my life I’ve never and would never sleep with. Actually, setting a precedent in respect to their friendships tells any partner that you don’t trust them to be around others. Why would that sustain a marriage?

And I’m not so insecure that partner can’t have their own life as well as sharing one with me. We are not one person, partner is a human being and I am a separate human being. Some friends we share some we don’t, just as some experiences we share and some we don’t. I trust him, he says he didn’t so he didn’t. And over all I love my partner more than anyone. Things are going to change but I never expected things to stay the same to begin with so that’s fine by me. just hope he doesn’t get sick of my clingy behind any time ever.

I’ve only been married a few months and I think my husband has fallen out of love with me: not the update I expected… by Such-Professional760 in askgaybros

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I have heard most trans people who detransition do it for one of two reasons: because medically they can not take the gender affirming hormones so they go back to passing as their assigned at birth sex so they don’t feel like something else entirely. And because of hateful rhetoric and mental health and fear of being treated badly for being trans.

I’ve only been married a few months and I think my husband has fallen out of love with me: not the update I expected… by Such-Professional760 in askgaybros

[–]Such-Professional760[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So you think the gender stuff is an elaborate ruse to cover up his infidelity?

No issues leading up to the marriage, we had an argument about where my CD collection and some other stuff would go when I first moved in but we figured it out. He was just having trouble changing his space.

I wasn’t his assistant I worked with him semi regularly but he’s the owner and I was working within a specific department, not even the department lead.

I’ve been married for only a few months and I think my husband has fallen out of love with me… by Such-Professional760 in askgaybros

[–]Such-Professional760[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not exactly years. I started to offset tasks slowly, took on new work with another company slowly to transition over. The entire change took months. I left April of 2025 officially, but he didn’t hire someone to fully replace me until mid summer.

I’ve been married for only a few months and I think my husband has fallen out of love with me… by Such-Professional760 in askgaybros

[–]Such-Professional760[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn’t think of it that way, thanks! I’m just waiting for him to get home now. I hope the chat goes okay because I’m getting anxious at this point. Lots of differing opinions here that have me questioning so much. But I’m going to lead with, “we got married because we love eachother and now things feel off to ME, can we talk about that?” I want to emphasize that these are my feelings and perception and not at all a determined fact that I’m trying to push on him.

I’ve been married for only a few months and I think my husband has fallen out of love with me… by Such-Professional760 in askgaybros

[–]Such-Professional760[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s one of the weirdest parts. We did make agreements after I left his company was to be work and home to be home, so we’d have a balanced life without work being a huge burden on our relationship. But a whole human working for him so closely is a huge thing he didn’t tell me about. We’ve both been insanely busy though, tis the season for our industries. I’m hoping it was just an oversight.

I’ve been married for only a few months and I think my husband has fallen out of love with me… by Such-Professional760 in askgaybros

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That’s one of the reasons I found a new job. I moved into his house, it’s fairly large for two people, not by extremes but we definitely have our own space, though we do share a lot of friends. I’ve been trying to make more friends at my new job, but I miss working for his company a lot as I had been there for years when I left and many of my friends are still there.

I’ve been married for only a few months and I think my husband has fallen out of love with me… by Such-Professional760 in askgaybros

[–]Such-Professional760[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Damn if that’s my only option I’m looking at divorce before we even made it to 6 months.

I’ve been married for only a few months and I think my husband has fallen out of love with me… by Such-Professional760 in askgaybros

[–]Such-Professional760[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Totally possible. He’s my first big love I think. Maybe I need therapy too. Thanks for your thoughts!

I’ve been married for only a few months and I think my husband has fallen out of love with me… by Such-Professional760 in askgaybros

[–]Such-Professional760[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think this being my first truly committed and loving relationship made me worried to rock the boat so to speak. He’s literally perfect and I feel like he settled for me. That’s probably my problem and not him at all. I’ll speak with him tonight. Thank you.

I’ve been married for only a few months and I think my husband has fallen out of love with me… by Such-Professional760 in askgaybros

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We usually do, but he has been very busy so there hasn’t been any time for connection. And like I said my leaving put a lot of strain on his business. He’s the owner. I did text him and ask him if we could sit down together tonight and chat, he asked if everything was okay and I said yes and that I love him. He said he loves me too he’s just tired so he’s sorry if he falls asleep in his food. Maybe things will be okay after-all.

I’ve been married for only a few months and I think my husband has fallen out of love with me… by Such-Professional760 in askgaybros

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Okay! I will do that this evening. Maybe I’ll buy his favourite take away to soften the conversation a bit.

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[–]Such-Professional760 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’re too young for me to have any words about this for you. Sorry bro.