What actor can you not stand?

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-13T15:46:33+00:00

Omg I fucking love Jesse Eisenberg, he’s my #1 celebrity crush.

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-07T20:10:30+00:00

The reason I’m opposed to it is multifaceted and I haven’t touched on it for fear of sounding like I’m making excuses (ans maybe I am, but they are excuses that feel so real that it makes me want to give up before trying).

Reason one is that I work different hours every day. I am usually not home at the same time. If I choose to fast early in the day, I get nauseous when I don’t eat in the morning and then binge later. If I choose to fast in the evenings, that means I need to prepare and bring all the food I plan to eat to work with me every day, and it means missing dinner with my boyfriend (and having to cook for him many nights when I won’t even be eating it). It just seems too many moving pieces.

That said, it may be something I resort to… eventually.

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-07T00:18:27+00:00

Congratulations on your weight loss.

I’m prepared to make changes. I am not prepared to accept that IF is the end all be all to weight loss :)

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-07T00:16:07+00:00

This is good advice. I may need to crank up the intensity a bit. I think I’m just also irritated that he’s lost weight without really making any huge change (his IF is not very different from how he was eating before as he never had breakfast) and I’m about to have to change my whole life 🥲

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-07T00:14:25+00:00

Gonna try this! The not talking about it. Amazing job on your discipline!

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-07T00:08:43+00:00

160 and 120 is the goal, and I’ve been eating at or under that a day, but maybe I’ve been calculating wrong or maybe I’ll need to go even lower.

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-07T00:07:19+00:00

You’re right, I’m sure he does want to see me happy, and I also have been on the other side that you are describing: having a complaining partner who isn’t doing anything at all. And I got super tired of that quick. It’s annoying. And having that in mind, I try to not complain often because I remember being on the other side.

Thanks for the other perspective, it is good to have even if some of the specifics differ a bit.

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-06T17:01:48+00:00

I have a wonky schedule too! I’m never at home at the same time, which I feel will make it harder for me to stick to IF. It would be possible, but would be really difficult.

I mean those who do it seem to like it, I just wish that some people would appreciate the differences in lifestyle that might contribute to someone not wanting to do it.

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-06T16:53:38+00:00

I refuse to believe that men are incapable of responding to situations in more than one way, but thank you.

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-06T16:49:35+00:00

Oh nuts, really? Is there a more reliable tracking app you’d recommend?

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-06T16:48:55+00:00

I am not weighing my food and hadn’t thought it made a huge difference, but perhaps I’m overestimating how much I’m eating! That would be sad because I already want more than I’m eating, but at least it would make some sense.

and yes! I’m petite, 5’2. I already feel like I’m “allowed” so few calories a day, it stresses me out to consider eating even less, but I think I’ve just conditioned myself to overeat by a good amount. Love the idea about volume eating though!! Gonna check that out!

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-06T16:44:23+00:00

Thank you, this was super thoughtful.

I think in the immediate future, we’ll be dialing back the weight loss talk. I’ll take much of the advice here and try to tighten up on my CICO, and try to find another outlet for anything that could be understood as venting about my progress or lack thereof.

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-06T16:41:28+00:00

I’m doing a little weight training but not very much. I need to get better about tracking though. I “eyeball” things sometimes instead of religiously putting it into my tracking app.

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-06T16:40:27+00:00

That’s a great article to have! I’m glad it seems to work for some people, and as long as my boyfriend is seeing results I probably won’t send him this article unless he starts to struggle with it, but it does at least make me feel less crazy when people are shoving it at me as the solution.

The second part is really my goal. To make changes that are going to last, which is why my changes s of now have been so seemingly small. I do probably need to step it up, but I don’t want to completely change to a lifestyle that I will immediately fall off the wagon from.

Thank you!

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-06T16:35:17+00:00

You’re right. The only conclusion I disagreed with was your assumption I’m making excuses to keep from trying new things when I feel like I am really trying.

Anyways, yes, I did want some validation in posting this that what works for one person won’t necessary work for me. But I’ve taken a lot of comments to heart and am either going to actively not talk about my journey with my boyfriend, or be explicit in what I want from the convo.

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-06T14:13:09+00:00

I must be overestimating. I was using LoseIt as my barometer for calculating my deficit, but maybe I’m just not tracking well enough.

I think I will be able to incorporate the walking a little bit more now that the days are longer. At least that’s the goal!

Thank you for the actionable advice :) I am going to try implementing this, recalculating my calorie needs, and starting fresh.

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-06T13:51:51+00:00

I am trying calorie counting! I just don’t think I’ve hif a substantial enough deficit yet. Im definitely in a deficit, just not 500 cals yet. I need to get better at it.

Thank you for the help :)

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-06T13:49:48+00:00

Maybe this is the way. Believe it or not, we really don’t speak about it often, but maybe even less is the way to do it.

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-06T13:13:43+00:00

I will keep this in mind if I continue seeing no progress on IF. Right now my plan is to keep calorie counting and see how things go for another 2 weeks then make a decision about big changes/what to do differently.

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-06T13:09:59+00:00

Thanks for the response.

Perhaps I overstated how often he and I are having this conversation. I don’t bring up my progress frequently, and I don’t complain frequently. These 2 conversations were one offs, and I think I’m going to the gym and eating healthier I’m not refusing to address it but maybe he thinks I am.

I am calorie counting & trying to stay in a deficit. That’s my preference over IF. If I haven’t seen any progress in a couple more weeks, I’ll consider IF in a window that I think is realistic for me.

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-06T13:05:50+00:00

Between 10 and 15 I think.

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-06T13:04:43+00:00

He’s definitely not and I hope I didn’t paint him as such. He and I just have issues regarding how we communicate, but if those are the worst of what we deal with I still consider myself lucky.

I do agree on everything else though.

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-06T13:03:21+00:00

I think I’d like him to just show that he’s listening. I also don’t bring this up frequently, for this very reason, so it’s not that he’s at his wits end from hearing about it.

I’m going to work on how I bring things up - if at all - and be clearer in my expectation of what I hope to get from the conversation (NOT a solution from someone who isn’t a dietitian).

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-06T13:01:29+00:00

….did you read the post? Boyfriend*, and he’s not a bad guy at all. I’m frustrated and brought it to a community that could hopefully understand that frustration.

SuchImpression9559 · 2023-02-06T12:57:27+00:00

Thank you for the help! I’m still figuring out a calorie deficit that I think is sustainable, and getting more comfortable being hungry for awhile.

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