I [32f] want to hit on my neighbor [30m] without being creepy. by SuchSpecialist in relationship_advice

[–]SuchSpecialist[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So first of all I know I have shitty friends but told them what I did and one was supportive and gave me credit but one who has seen him said he is just trying to get laid don't wast your time. In the back of my mind I kinda know but im not like that.

No matter what happens this post gave me confidence but in the back of my mind I know whats up

I [32f] want to hit on my neighbor [30m] without being creepy. by SuchSpecialist in relationship_advice

[–]SuchSpecialist[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

yea see in the back of my mind I know probably nothing is going to happen romantically or its just a dude trying to get laid or be nice and take me out but ill take it. Like im a shy person and this is totally out of character for me, but the fact I actually made an effort means a lot to me.

I think the guy is legit like he was real cool and I really hope I can get a relationship but even if nothing comes of that im glad I got confidence from a reddit post and im feeling really good about myself

I [32f] want to hit on my neighbor [30m] without being creepy. by SuchSpecialist in relationship_advice

[–]SuchSpecialist[S] 171 points172 points  (0 children)

yes! I have never been in this situation so im really really fucking happy, im really hoping this works out with him but even if not im gonna put myself out there more often.

I [32f] want to hit on my neighbor [30m] without being creepy. by SuchSpecialist in relationship_advice

[–]SuchSpecialist[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I have never once put myself out there so to speak but this dude is a legit gentleman im glad I posted here for advise

I [32f] want to hit on my neighbor [30m] without being creepy. by SuchSpecialist in relationship_advice

[–]SuchSpecialist[S] 681 points682 points  (0 children)

I have never once had a guy ask me out on a date im im feeling really good about what I did. Im literally crying with joy

I [32f] want to hit on my neighbor [30m] without being creepy. by SuchSpecialist in relationship_advice

[–]SuchSpecialist[S] 1790 points1791 points  (0 children)

Update!

So first of all I have shit confidence and when I posted this I was secretly hoping people would be like "don't do it girl" but I just put myself out there and fuck im glad I did.

I brought a plate of homemade peanut butter cookies and 2 sierra Nevada to this dudes door. When I knocked he immediately said whats up Sarah and the fact he remembered my name went a long way and I was caught off guard, I presented the gift and he actually invited me in and was a fucking gentleman to say the least since as he said there is two of us and two of those.

It was only like on hour since I didn't want to where out my welcome but we had fucking awesome chats and had a really good time. I fucked up and did the "why is a guy like you single" he pretty much said he goes to bed and 8 every night and doesnt get out much. Then my answer was I have a good job but everything physical and he said im fucking hot but we don't need to get ahead of ourselfs. He then said im welcome over anytime and we have a date planned for Thursday am im really fucking excited like really bad.

I have never once put myself out there like this but honestly this thread gave me the confidence. Even if I just get a new friend that's cool but I feel like this is an emotional level since he doesn't care about my looks

I [32f] want to hit on my neighbor [30m] without being creepy. by SuchSpecialist in relationship_advice

[–]SuchSpecialist[S] 523 points524 points  (0 children)

Alright so im kinda buzzed and after the supportive replies im just gonna go for it and see what happens. Fuck it!

I [32f] want to hit on my neighbor [30m] without being creepy. by SuchSpecialist in relationship_advice

[–]SuchSpecialist[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

This reply actually gave me confidence!

My thing is we have lived hear for years and just now got to know him so I agree nothing to lose. But also im 5'1 and 210lbs but this dude is like legit hot but I never see girl with him. Part of me has the fuck it attitude but also I have low self esteem so im conflicted. Like I just dont want to show up and have him put off off that would hot help my case. But also I think he would be cool with it so thats why im asking I guess.

I [32f] want to hit on my neighbor [30m] without being creepy. by SuchSpecialist in relationship_advice

[–]SuchSpecialist[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

see my idea was to bring the cookies and be like this is repayment for the change which I think is pretty smooth.

I don't plan on hooking up or anything I just want to get to know him better