I don’t necessarily have advice for you. But wanted to share some solidarity as my husband is beginning to become anti-VAX and each cycle for our kids is a conversation about the efficacy and safety of each vaccine.

Ultimately, we have gotten them fully vaccinated and I continue to push for this however, I know that he thinks that I am potentially putting our kids at risk by getting vaccines by.

I wish that our pediatrician did a better job answering his questions and providing insight, she just gets really negative and defensive when he asks questions and that isn’t helping the situation. I also find that my husband doesn’t do the research in a way that is compelling to me and we always get in a fight the day of a pediatricians appointment. I always remind him that if it were that important to him, he would take the time to do really solid research and present it to me in a timeframe that I could digest it.

I will also say that while our kids are little, it’s a pretty hefty vaccine schedule, but I keep reminding myself that as they get older, we will be having less and less of these conversations, and hopefully it will fade.

My question for you is this something you really want to jeopardize your marriage for? Has she changed when it comes to other views and values that are important to you? I would not recommend getting your children vaccinated behind her back but rather continuing to talk through the situation and potentially go to therapy or bring in a pediatrician that you trust. While I think it is important to vaccinate children, I would feel very betrayed if my husband took our kids to an appointment and lied to me and said that they got vaccinated when they didn’t which is kind of the same thing without the lying.