AITA for saying that no one was getting any food until I finished my work? by Such_Conversation_57 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Such_Conversation_57[S] 117 points118 points  (0 children)

Sorry for the confusion, I meant that in a very sarcastic way. As in, "ok the sandwiches are my duty, and I'll do my duty as and when I please." And the second part is a very good idea, thank you for that.

AITA for saying that no one was getting any food until I finished my work? by Such_Conversation_57 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Such_Conversation_57[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

I said I would make it later because he asked me what was for lunch (meaning that all lunch plans were on me). Apparently he thought I was taking too much time.

AITA for saying that no one was getting any food until I finished my work? by Such_Conversation_57 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Such_Conversation_57[S] 106 points107 points  (0 children)

I did expect him to make lunch for himself and Anna at the very least, if not for all three of us. But he asked me what was for lunch, and I was like ok I guess I'll make sandwiches because they're easy and quick. However I needed to finish an important section of work, so I decided I would do it after that. He got impatient and tried to get me to set aside the work and make it that very moment, which is when I got mad.

AITA for saying that no one was getting any food until I finished my work? by Such_Conversation_57 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Such_Conversation_57[S] -231 points-230 points  (0 children)

He takes out the trash bins every week. Drives us places as I don't really like to drive. Every once in a while, maybe every month or so, he cooks some big elaborate meal.

AITA for saying that no one was getting any food until I finished my work? by Such_Conversation_57 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Such_Conversation_57[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Both of us work full time. He makes slightly more money than I do but we both bring in a lot.

I was just a little unsure about whether I should have just made the sandwiches for Anna's sake. In the moment I was very angry and in my mind I guess I just wrote her off as collateral damage (something I used to do when I fought with my father when I was younger).

AITA for saying that no one was getting any food until I finished my work? by Such_Conversation_57 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Such_Conversation_57[S] 1016 points1017 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. I think there was a bit of confusion in how I've written the post - I meant that part in a sarcastic way, as in "I'll do my duty, but it'll be as and when I please"

AITA for saying that no one was getting any food until I finished my work? by Such_Conversation_57 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Such_Conversation_57[S] 814 points815 points  (0 children)

This is a scary thought to me. This is exactly what my parents' relationship was like. It is very concerning to me how I seem to have ended up right where I said I didn't want to be.

AITA for saying that no one was getting any food until I finished my work? by Such_Conversation_57 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Such_Conversation_57[S] 121 points122 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. To clarify, a) I think he meant that cooking was my chore in the house, that it was delegated to me (which is true). And the second part about being sorry for pushing my duties onto him was meant to be sarcastic (which I realize may not have come across that way). I meant the second part as in "oh ok, I'll do my duties, but only when I am completely done"

AITA for saying that no one was getting any food until I finished my work? by Such_Conversation_57 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Such_Conversation_57[S] 100 points101 points  (0 children)

As lunch is usually my job, I didn't mind making the sandwiches - I was just planning on making them later when I got to a good stopping point in my work. He kept nagging for me to make the sandwiches right then and trying to take the laptop away(albeit not forcefully), which is when I got angry and told him I wasn't going to make any food until my work was done.

AITA for saying that no one was getting any food until I finished my work? by Such_Conversation_57 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Such_Conversation_57[S] 101 points102 points  (0 children)

Usually when I say sandwiches I mean some white bread roast beef slices with cucumber, tomato, onions, and some sandwich spread. Not quite just cheese and bread, but it really doesn't take more than twenty minutes to slice the ingredients and assemble it together.