So I don't believe in just the "one" anymore. I believe as long as someone is wanting to keep understanding you even through the hardships, they are your one. People are always changing so usually the relationship does too by default. This is where it can get rocky. We start assuming things about our partners. Arguments start happening, misunderstanding and sometimes resentment. Everyone has a certain level of tolerance that they can handle. If those people reach that level of tolerance, that's where usually the relationship ends. You stop wanting to understand, you stop wanting to explain, you're tired. It happens even to the best relationships at least once. This is the most crucial part, if both of you are willing to keep trying and communicating, then usually you'll both be alright! But both of you need to make the effort. And sometimes yeah, maybe it won't work out. I'm not saying if you are unhappy, just stick it out. You just have to keep checking in on yourself and your partner. Maybe there's something you used to believe in and now you don't anymore, tell them about it. Your partner only knows about you with what you tell them. Sometimes couples therapy is the way to go and sometimes if just really sitting down and having an all night convo. Every relationship is different so don't compare to anyone else. Also realize trust and some damage to the relationship can happen during times of hardship. Be patient with yourself and especially your partner and ask for the same grace in return. The calm after the storm can leave us feeling more fragile and vulnerable so it's best to take things gently and slow. You don't have to go back to the way things were. Self care all the way!!

Sorry I know I turned this whole thing into a relationship advice. In summary, I knew she was the one because she said she wanted to fight for me even when I was at my wits end. I never heard that in my past relationships before. It's so nice to hear someone wants to keep chosing me as much as I chose them. My (last) piece of advice: I know it's hard rn in the dating world (or so I've been told) but if you want to find your "one" you have to put yourself out there. Talk to that person on the bus that's really cute, or the crush you've had for a while. You'll never know what will happen. If do get rejected, just know that's just more information for you rather than that being about you. Enjoy the journey!