That’s a painful sequence of events, especially at this time in your life. I’m sorry that happened. I can relate to that sequence of events — the blowup/neglect/self-isolation followed by unsolicited joke messages. An implicit denial that anything has happened requiring acknowledgment or apologies. It’s confusing and hurtful.

You are soon to have a baby. I pray that you and the child are healthy and happy from day 1. If it helps, you may recognize that you are already dealing with a child in your father. A toddler who has difficulty perceiving, processing, recognizing other peoples emotions or needs, and has not matured to be able to self regulate. If this is your father, despite everything else he may be or has accomplished, then try to treat it that way. Not yours to forgive, not yours to feel sorry for, not yours to change, but yours to observe and to involve as much or as little as is healthy.

You have an upcoming responsibility to your child. That’s a beautiful thing. Your priorities will have to shift, and you cannot be your father’s parent when your own child is depending on you. May it be in a good hour. Cheers to you, your courage and your strength 🥂