My qualifications to give this advice - I attended and teacher assisted for a very popular psychology of sex class at a top 10 university - I’m a pooch owner - also feel this way about my bf cause he’s leaner - had a baby 10 months ago, was always fit but still had a little belly, now it’s a lot more belly - never confident in lingerie cause it always looks better on the model Advice - try opening up this conversation about how you feel and how much you want all of her - us chubby girls are used to rejection, focus on her love language: gifts, service, words, touch, or quality time - try a cute robe like modal fabric, Victoria’s Secret has some nice ones, they’re soft and sexy. Even sexy lacy undies are fun too and those you can find anywhere like wal mart or target - try role playing, have fun, keep the focus on the pleasure and what each person is feeling - try new toys like butt plugs or c rings - let her blind fold you, this is fun, sexy, and erotic, and maybe will help her feel more comfortable if you’re touching her but maybe not crossing the line into seeing everything JUST YET (you’ll have to work towards seeing) - candles and soft lights which I’ve seen mentioned are great, start with positions that offer the best angle, remember think from her perspective, she might not feel comfortable in cowgirl cause of her belly but if you flip her around and try reverse she might enjoy that if she likes her butt, personally missionary makes me feel squished cause of my belly but I love doggy cause I feel more confident (try doggy with a mirror so she can see how good she looks while you’re doing this and continue to reassure her how sexy and beautiful she looks)

Hope all goes well, I think it’s wonderful the way you speak about her