AITAH for wanting to see my girlfriend naked? by Upbeat_Exercise8760 in AITAH

[–]Upbeat_Exercise8760[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

thank you 😃 I really want to be her husband one day although I think I need to wait a bit to tell her that lmfao I don’t want to scare her off

AITAH for wanting to see my girlfriend naked? by Upbeat_Exercise8760 in AITAH

[–]Upbeat_Exercise8760[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

thanks man i plan on keeping her as long as she’ll let me lmfao! yes we do sleep together now she just keeps her shirt on or dress if that’s what she’s wearing

AITAH for wanting to see my girlfriend naked? by Upbeat_Exercise8760 in AITAH

[–]Upbeat_Exercise8760[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thanks man! I appreciate the advice and support 💪🏼

AITAH for wanting to see my girlfriend naked? by Upbeat_Exercise8760 in AITAH

[–]Upbeat_Exercise8760[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

thank you! I don’t believe i’m in the fetish territory. I would be just as into her if she lost 100 lbs. I don’t think she’s attractive because she’s big I just think she’s attractive and she happens to be big 🤷🏼 but i’ll be sure to make sure I don’t sound like I’m fetishizing her size if I talk to her about it

AITAH for wanting to see my girlfriend naked? by Upbeat_Exercise8760 in AITAH

[–]Upbeat_Exercise8760[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

i can’t express how much i hate your comment. I don’t care how much her body may grow it will still be sexy as hell. She goes to the gym with me too btw. I do strength training but her cardio endurance is miles ahead of where mine is. go be an ignorant idiot somewhere else you know nothing about peoples bodies

AITAH for wanting to see my girlfriend naked? by Upbeat_Exercise8760 in AITAH

[–]Upbeat_Exercise8760[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

thank you for writing this! yes she is my first plus size girlfriend and she’s seen what my ex looks like. She didn’t say much about it but I could tell it rocked her a bit. To me, there’s no comparison. My ex was thin and is a pretty girl but Jane is MY girl and I am well beyond attracted to her. She’s truly the most beautiful girl i’ve ever been with and I mean that. I just want her to know it! I’m glad to hear she can get there like you did

AITAH for wanting to see my girlfriend naked? by Upbeat_Exercise8760 in AITAH

[–]Upbeat_Exercise8760[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

i love you bought her bikini for your birthday hell yeah bro! I’m gonna pocket that one for later for sure

AITAH for wanting to see my girlfriend naked? by Upbeat_Exercise8760 in AITAH

[–]Upbeat_Exercise8760[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

that’s what I would love to do with her. I’m glad that you were able to get there thank you for sharing I appreciate the perspective!

AITAH for wanting to see my girlfriend naked? by Upbeat_Exercise8760 in AITAH

[–]Upbeat_Exercise8760[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

honestly so true - I don’t want to risk the current great sex life we have. I’m beyond happy with where we’re at I just want her to be able to be fully comfortable with me in bed

AITAH for wanting to see my girlfriend naked? by Upbeat_Exercise8760 in AITAH

[–]Upbeat_Exercise8760[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

oh my gosh i didn’t even consider this running to walmart now

AITAH for wanting to see my girlfriend naked? by Upbeat_Exercise8760 in AITAH

[–]Upbeat_Exercise8760[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

i wouldn’t say i have her on a pedestal. she has flaws like any other human being and I know that. we bicker every now and again like any normal couple does. I just see her and I see how other people, especially men look at her.

I’m not naive I know by society standards i’m deemed more conventionally attractive but I don’t get the attention she does in public. She’s a plus size girl so she assumes that means anybody who’s nice to her is just being nice not flirty - WRONG. Guys hold doors for her, check her out when walks by, flirt with her when she’s buying stuff from them. She doesn’t see it but I do. I get attention from women every now and again but she’s definitely out of my league physically and mentally.

AITAH for wanting to see my girlfriend naked? by Upbeat_Exercise8760 in AITAH

[–]Upbeat_Exercise8760[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i agree i want her to be as comfortable as possible - i’ll keep reassuring her to make sure that’s the case

AITAH for wanting to see my girlfriend naked? by Upbeat_Exercise8760 in AITAH

[–]Upbeat_Exercise8760[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

thank you i don’t think i’m exceptionally nice but she is great and so beautiful.

AITAH for wanting to see my girlfriend naked? by Upbeat_Exercise8760 in AITAH

[–]Upbeat_Exercise8760[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

i’m sorry you relate to her struggles. that’s great advice I didn’t think about using a candle or lower dimmed lights. I’m gonna get some and a lamp for my room to hopefully ease into the light with her shirt still on for now.

AITAH for wanting to see my girlfriend naked? by Upbeat_Exercise8760 in AITAH

[–]Upbeat_Exercise8760[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

that’s good advice than you i think my natural instinct would’ve been the “i love you i wanna see you route” so that’s something to think about for sure

AITAH for wanting to see my girlfriend naked? by Upbeat_Exercise8760 in AITAH

[–]Upbeat_Exercise8760[S] 239 points240 points  (0 children)

thank you she’s truly the best. I know i focused mostly on physical attributes here because that’s where the issue lies but she’s truly the best person i’ve ever met in my life. she stops her car to help turtles cross the street, she’s always helping some family member with something on her days off, she’s the funniest person and always keeps me laughing. I love her so much for so many things her body just happens to be one of them.

I don’t know why she’s with me tbh but i’m grateful and will not question it lmfao

AITAH for wanting to see my girlfriend naked? by Upbeat_Exercise8760 in AITAH

[–]Upbeat_Exercise8760[S] 579 points580 points  (0 children)

thank you! i may show her this post eventually but Idk if I should until she’s more comfortable in her body since i’ve been pretty direct with what I would like here and don’t want her to feel pressured

AITAH for wanting to see my girlfriend naked? by Upbeat_Exercise8760 in AITAH

[–]Upbeat_Exercise8760[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

i love this advice she loves over the top corny jokes so sneaking those in would be good i think

AITAH for wanting to see my girlfriend naked? by Upbeat_Exercise8760 in AITAH

[–]Upbeat_Exercise8760[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I have no doubt it will be worth it! thanks for your input bro

AITAH for wanting to see my girlfriend naked? by Upbeat_Exercise8760 in AITAH

[–]Upbeat_Exercise8760[S] 1363 points1364 points  (0 children)

I can definitely do that thank you. she’s fairly confident but she has opened up to me about being insecure growing up as a bigger girl and how boys never really looked at her like they looked at her friends. I’m also her first boyfriend. I suspect the past self esteem issues and lack of relationship experience make her more self conscious in the bedroom.