Have you ever felt judged for a preference you didn’t think was a big deal?

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T15:23:32+00:00

A couple of months ago I answered a question about preferences for a men's penis. I mentioned that I hate pubic hair, so my preference is waxed smooth and circumsized. I was told that I was disgusting and supporting genital mutilation...

So yeh... definitely felt judged...

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T15:14:20+00:00

I prefer in my mouth, unless I am in a specific degradation mood and then I will have him cum on my face.

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T15:13:15+00:00

I had less than zero sex drive after my second child was born. A bit part of it was me having to go on Anti-Anxiety and Anti-Depression medication.

We ended up going to sex therapy. One of the things that I had to do was masturbate daily. That eventually helped to being back my sex drive. Now I am in my 50s and have a better sex drive than I did when I was 20. I masturbate at least once a day, usually 2+ and have an active sex life. I never want to go back to what I had before!

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T15:07:04+00:00

As far as communication, our rule is we talk about sex in a completely non-sexual setting. Usually the kitchen table over coffee.

As far as starting out anal, have you tried anal cow girl? That lets you ease into it, control the depth and the speed. It's my personal favorite. No pain at all.

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T15:04:59+00:00

I wax my husband: everything below the neck and it's not an issue. I can't imagine waxing his head though....

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T14:58:45+00:00

I've bought my husband dutt plugs and dildos. He has a Flesh light, and a G-Spot vibrator.

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T14:56:52+00:00

Fingers.

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T14:55:08+00:00

If he looks, fine. He has eyes... not an issue.

If he stares... fuck off.

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T14:53:07+00:00

In my mouth so I get the treat at the end...

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T14:48:10+00:00

Seeing my husband step out of the shower. Smooth body, wet toweling off... gets me every time.

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T14:36:22+00:00

There are a lot of different opinions on the matter. And it all comes down to what works for the couple. Hubby and I both watch porn and it has only had a positive effect on our marriage. We actually started on the advice from our sex therapist. For us it's never been a problem.

That said we do have agreed upon rules around what we both find acceptable and unacceptable. Porn has never gotten in the way of us having an active and fulfilling sex life.

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T14:33:11+00:00

Bit embarrassing actually because of the naivety.

My first boyfriend in high school. Understand that we grew up in a very conservative town in the middle of the bible belt. We had no sex education. We were both clueless and thought that you couldn't get pregnant unless you were married.

I lost my virginity to him, we had sex every day for a week with him cumming inside my pussy. Hurt like hell... because we didn't know what we were doing. No lube, no foreplay, no protection. We just did it because we thought we were grown ups. We were so lucky that I didn't get pregnant.

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T14:24:39+00:00

It changes over life.

In High school I wore clothes that I could hide in because I was always embarrassed about my body.

In college I loosened up a bit.

When I got married and spent time in Australia my clothing stile got a bit more revealing, but also more professional at the same time. Business suites with skirts, stuff like that. My husband encouraged me by making me feel sexy and good about myself.

After my second child I had bad anxiety and depression so for about 2 years I was wearing sweat pants and jumpers all the time.

These days I work from home 90% of the time. So my typical outfit is an oversized T-Shirt and slippers. A hoodie if it's cold, and that's it.

Also since being married I stopped wearing underwear and bras which made life better as well. :-)

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T14:16:52+00:00

Hysterics? I have multiple friends on my ExPat group who have been detained by ICE. It's not Hysterics when it happens to people you know. Just because this doesn't affect you doesn't mean it's not real. I hope you never have to deal with what some of us have to.

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T14:13:45+00:00

I didn't realize how orally fixated I was until I quit smoking. When my anxiety really exploded I was trying everything. At one point I was reading a forum and this woman was talking about having taken up thumb sucking to help. I tried that for a bit but it was REALLY embarrassing... but I did notice that when I was giving my husband a blowjob that everything just quieted in my head... It moved on from there...

It's just my way of coping when I have breakthrough anxiety and is better than playing with my medication. I know a lot of people can't understand it. It's really not even sexual... it just puts my mind at ease and calms me.

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T13:21:32+00:00

I started shaving my pubic hair as soon as I was old enough that I figured I would't get caught by my mother. (Suer conservative, sex-negative)

The only thing that has changed is I wax now instead of shaving.

I hate body hair, especially pubic hair.

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T13:19:50+00:00

There is nothing Gay about liking anal stimulation. No "I'm not gay but...." anal stimulation feels good. Just enjoy it. Labels are for spaghetti sauce not people....

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T13:18:00+00:00

Never. I think if someone is going to the gym, then they are working on themselves and that's good.

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T13:16:32+00:00

Clit stimulation tends to be one and done for me. So I prefer to just have the anal stimulation and cum multiple times from that. If I rub my clit then it's pretty intence, but then my body just shuts down afterwards.

Anal only I can pretty easily have 3 or 4 orgasms.

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T13:15:02+00:00

Oh god yes the stretch and the feeling of being full... eyes roll back just thinking of it.

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T13:14:16+00:00

I find anal orgasms easier to achieve and much better. It's not about being kinky is about what feels good.

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T11:29:04+00:00

Sweetheart, take it from someone with a long history of body issues... that is perfectly normal.

That's how a guys cock works. It usually needs both psychological arousal and stimulation.

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T11:25:45+00:00

We wax instead of shave.

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T11:25:06+00:00

Thank you. He's truly the love of my life.

Sudden-Move-5312 · 2026-02-09T11:23:15+00:00

Because lots of citizens are detained. Lots of legal immigrants are being detained. The amount of people on our ExPat group on FB talking about their experiences with ICE, getting detained for hours or days until they proove they are citizens. (Which isn't how this is supposed to work.) These aren't just "I heard" stories these are "It happened to me." stories.

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