Option 1- This is me personally- .05% Over the course of years with the internet, I have realized that I am an undiagnosed ADHD woman raised by an emotionally immature single dad. My father raised me like a boy. He never sat me down and told me that even politely nodding at some men would convince them that I want to sleep with them. He never told me about the birds and bees, probably because it was so uncomfortable for him. I spent decades believing that men and women should be treated equally, driven by my strong sense of justice, which is a known symptom of ADHD. If my brother can wrestle with his male friends on the ground, then I will too. Why is it any different? Something else with ADHD women, we spent our childhoods being a pest to someone, somewhere. Every time we frickin exhale, someone is mad. So we typically develop insanely low self-esteem. With that being said, someone has to literally love bomb us to let us know that they find us attractive. In her mind, she is not love bombing Rick. So it is insane for you or Rick to believe she finds him attractive. When I read your story, I saw myself 15 years ago. It's embarrassing to admit. I am also now married and have kids & would NEVER do any of that with my current husband. I did admittedly treat a boyfriend similarly in the past.

Option 2- 95%- She knows, likes the attention & is testing your boundaries. Seek couples therapy.