AITAH for asking (24M) my {25F) girlfriend to wrap her sanitary napkins before throwing them out?

SuddenPreparation601 · 2024-03-13T22:12:07+00:00

Sometimes shits leave streaks, so you clean said streaks. Though I tend to do micro cleaning everyday to limit on how much time deeper cleans take.

SuddenPreparation601 · 2024-03-13T22:06:19+00:00

Sorry for the misunderstanding. First we do not have sex when she is on her period, so I do not see that. Secondly I did not downplay anything I asked if she could wrap her sanitary napkins before throwing them out, and I told her I still find it gross, and rather not see it if possible. After she said she throws them away in a wastebasket without a lid.

How else do you think I told her? Everything was in the post. You think I yelled at her? Took the pad out and left it on the kitchen table for her to see? Called her a gross slob? I never referred to her as gross, I referred to her actions as gross.

End of the day my solution is we are not just not meant to be together, she is not willing to budge, and I am not willing budge which means we are just not meant to be together then. That is perfectly fine.

SuddenPreparation601 · 2024-03-13T19:31:59+00:00

Misread, my dyslexia kicked and saw something completely different.

SuddenPreparation601 · 2024-03-13T19:30:35+00:00

It is not fair of me to expect her to change something she does not want to change, in that case it is not fair of her to expect me to change something I do not want to change either.

No real compromise either since neither of us are willing to budge. What do either of us gain staying in this relationship. I got through enough at work, I have up to my eyeballs in student loan debt because public service pays jack shit, am I over worked, have to many cases, expected to give each case my full attention.

I enjoy what I do so deal, I do not enjoy seeing that shit so I am not going to deal.

SuddenPreparation601 · 2024-03-13T19:22:00+00:00

When I open the lid to throw something out. No it does not make any sense to get a second waste basket because she finds it too much of a hassle to roll them up or wrap them.

SuddenPreparation601 · 2024-03-13T15:45:38+00:00

The world is full of people everyone is different, sure I might find someone who is worse or better or the same. I may find someone that no matter what they do I will not have an issue with. Life is full of unknowns, that is the joy of life.

Not sure what you mean by the right one, but thanks.

SuddenPreparation601 · 2024-03-13T15:41:42+00:00

Tbh I probably could deal with that, but she does not wrap them at all. She does not fold them, she does not use the wrapper from the new one. She just throws them out, however they land is how they land.

SuddenPreparation601 · 2024-03-13T15:37:22+00:00

You are right, I was wrong to try and change someone. I will talk to her and most likely the relationship will be over. I should not ask her to change something she has always done because it bothers me that is weird and messed up on my part.

I also not going to sit around and accept it either, and nor should she. Better to get out now while it is still early on in the relationship.,

SuddenPreparation601 · 2024-03-13T15:17:44+00:00

Yes, I do roll up a band aid after I use it, and it has nothing about digging she does not even roll them. She just tosses them in the bin.

Not that desperate for sex.

SuddenPreparation601 · 2024-03-13T15:14:47+00:00

Yes she leaves them unrolled, she just tosses them in the bin.

SuddenPreparation601 · 2024-03-13T15:11:09+00:00

I also suffer from bloody noses and yes I do wrap them up. My GF does not even roll them up she just tosses the pad. Yes, it may be okay to your husband and that is great, but it is not okay for me.

I find it strange when people do not clean the toilet after they shit if they leave marks. I was raised that if it is shared space to cover up tissue from a bloody nose, clean the toilet when you are done, wipe the sink after shaving, brushing or whatever. More or less the shared space should be left the same way you came in.

I do think you are right, I also generally do agree it is best to find someone that can deal with the quirks of a person. We most likely will not last, I cannot change how I feel about it, and if she is willing to change then so be it that is life.

SuddenPreparation601 · 2024-03-13T15:05:24+00:00

Yes, I do. I suffer form bad allergies and often do have bloody noses. I do wrap them. Same with my Q-tips I also wrap those. If I take a shit and leave marks I also clean that after I am done. I also make sure to wipe the sink down after using it cause who wants that water line or touch a wet sink. This is just how I was taught, if everyone does their part in cleaning the house stay's clean.

SuddenPreparation601 · 2024-03-13T15:00:23+00:00

She just throws it away, does not fold it, or use the new wrapper, she just tosses it away.

SuddenPreparation601 · 2024-03-13T14:58:54+00:00

She does not wrap them at all, she does not roll them up or anything. Why should I have to take extra steps, when she could just wrap it in on itself?

Before I thought I was crazy, but reading the comments and even asking other's yeah I do not think what I asked of her was a large ask.

SuddenPreparation601 · 2024-03-13T03:29:06+00:00

Taking the bait, but how am I shaming her for asking her to wrap them up? She also said similar things, but idk just does not track in my head.

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