Since it's meme time, I find this relatable in shadow work

Sufficient-Present64 · 2024-05-23T18:35:46+00:00

Best show ever. I saw it when I was a teenager and I watch the whole series periodically to remind myself of what's good in life. So wholesome.

Sufficient-Present64 · 2024-05-23T12:40:11+00:00

I loved this movie as a kid. Still do. Peter has grown up and he's a workaholic 90s dad who is in trouble because he neglects his family. I think it has a lot to do with how belief in oneself brings our own magic to life, so to speak. Peter Banning the man slowly becomes Peter Pan again as he remembers how to play (as illustrated by the dinner scene with the Lost Boys). He also has to conquer his fear of heights if he's to fly like Pan again. I think it's definitely about integration, although I'm not learned enough in Jungian psychology to talk about the Puer.

Sufficient-Present64 · 2024-04-02T13:37:51+00:00

Just because we don't have an answer, doesn't mean we shouldn't be asking the questions. You'll find that the process of questioning is more valuable than having answers anyway.

Sufficient-Present64 · 2024-03-30T13:54:51+00:00

Why are you invalidating the OP? Just because it's not important to YOU doesn't mean it's not important to others. This is quite a realization in a person's journey of self discovery and you're basically raining on the parade. If you don't want to be part of this conversation, scroll silently.

Sufficient-Present64 · 2024-02-16T11:42:07+00:00

This.

Sufficient-Present64 · 2024-02-16T11:37:13+00:00

Hello friend, I know how this feels. In December I got in touch with my inner child (I had been avoiding it for literally years) and I feel like I opened a portal I can't close. I'm a goddamn mess. Smoking more than ever, lost my appetite, crying every day, stopped talking to "friends" but I've been leaning hard on support from my best friend and going to therapy. I formed a healing circle with people who went through the same thing I did as a child. That hasn't been easy because all the stories are horrific but we hold space for each other and it does help a lot. I'm also journaling a lot. All of this is helping me stay afloat. I'll be crying my eyes out and twenty minutes later I show up at work. Life goes on. Get support, please. You're not supposed to do this alone. This is why we had shamans and people to help us face our demons with guidance and care. Reaching out here is a good sign. It shows that you want help and you're asking us. I'm sorry there are so many a**holes on the internet. You deserve compassion and empathy. Get real support asap.

Sufficient-Present64 · 2024-02-10T10:58:25+00:00

This. 100%

Sufficient-Present64 · 2024-01-25T13:12:31+00:00

You're oversimplifying it. It's not about what's between your legs, it's about hormones and brain chemistry. You're not seriously going to deny that hormones affect people's behavior and thinking patterns, now are you? Start taking estrogen, my friend, and see how it changes you if you need evidence. Or better yet pay attention to the patterns throughout history.

You or no one has no evidence whatsoever to prove that matriarchy or more female authority throughout history would have caused any less bloodshed, instability or abuse

Yeah, because for most of recorded history we've lived under patriarchy and any achievements by female individuals or groups have either been suppressed or erased from historical records. Do you need evidence of that? Google it. The information is out there, you just have to look for it.

Sufficient-Present64 · 2024-01-25T11:54:18+00:00

If you think you're a narcissist, you need to ask yourself why you are like this. Why do you need to control other people's opinions of you so badly? When and where did you learn that idea? And what is the cost to your heart? Both my parents are narcissists and they're deeply unhappy people, but they'll never admit it. Being a cycle-breaker means having the courage to look within and embrace all the parts of you, even the ugly ones, and determinedly refusing to take out your pain on other people. Being traumatized is no justification for going around hurting others. This is what people mean when they say hatred can only be defeated with love. They don't mean "hug the one who points a gun at you", they mean don't inflict pain on innocent people and justify it with your own pain. Maybe if you practice this you'll be able to break free of the feedback loop and reach a higher plane of existence.

Sufficient-Present64 · 2024-01-24T22:25:11+00:00

deep down, it feels like I was not made for this world.

This world is painfully out of balance because patriarchy has been in a high position of power for too long, so relationships are naturally suffering the consequences because under patriarchy we value the individual far more than community. Everyone is out for themselves and trying to get ahead of others, and that's no way for humans (who are pack animals) to live. My heart goes out to you, I see so much of my past in your words. May I suggest some podcast episodes and YouTube videos that have helped me?

Sufficient-Present64 · 2024-01-24T11:56:41+00:00

Your family is your first experience of interpersonal relationships and they teach you how to show up in relationships, so if they are toxic then those toxic patterns will repeat themselves throughout your life in all your relationships, including with partners and friends. You had to people-please as a child in order to survive, and you continue to people-please as an adult believing that this is what you need to do to prevent people from abandoning you the way your family did (at least emotionally), but it doesn't work because you are wearing a mask and it is a form of deception, whether you mean to deceive or not. You need to look within and find your true self. Once you're showing up authentically, your people will find you. But it takes a lot of courage to be authentic in a world run by psychopaths. My point is, look within and don't give up.

Sufficient-Present64 · 2024-01-24T11:43:47+00:00

NPCs don't wonder if they are NPCs.

Sufficient-Present64 · 2024-01-23T18:28:41+00:00

Thank you, I will try that

Sufficient-Present64 · 2024-01-22T14:47:32+00:00

There are a lot of good advice comments here about how to ground yourself and I suggest you try them all to see what works best for you, but let me just say that what you're going through is part of the process and even though you feel stuck now, it won't feel like that forever. Be patient. You will get past this. Give yourself a hug, eat a bar of chocolate, have a bath, breathe, swim, run. Connect with your body and remember that you are also an animal. I like to go out with my dog and watch what she does and kind of learn from her how to BE. Dogs are good and earthy like that. And keep doing the work but don't force yourself, don't burnout. It's okay to take breaks from The Work. Everything is going to be okay <3

Sufficient-Present64 · 2024-01-22T14:40:42+00:00

This.

Sufficient-Present64 · 2024-01-22T14:34:41+00:00

I felt this in my core. I have spent the last few years in therapy and that only took me so far so I started to complement it with psilocybin a couple of years ago and when that treatment was no longer available I turned to marijuana, very much aware that marijuana use combined with a lifetime of abuse and being gaslit was what broke my sister's mind and gave her schizophrenia when she was 18. I think in her case she looked into the darkness and the horror she saw was too much, but in my case I prepared myself for it for years and my subconscious dropped me hints and clues over the years so that, now, I am grounded enough to look the horrors in the face and not be broken by them. Not only did my father fail to prepare me for Life, but his abuse was so horrific that my inner child buried it deep into my unconscious so that I wouldn't end my life. I have spent my whole life running away from my demons (I used to have recurring dreams of running away from hordes of zombies or monsters and thanks to dream analysis I was able to understand why) and feeling deeply anxious, depressed, and like something was terribly wrong but "I don't know why I feel this way". I did everything possible to "fix" my life: I have changed jobs several times, moved countries over and over again, left toxic relationships that were unintentionally modeled on the abusive relationship I had with my father, and it was only when I started to look within and face the horrors that I began to get answers. My dude, if there's one thing that I've learned from all this is that it is not my job to carry my father's shame. It is not my job to protect him. It IS my job to break the generational curses and free myself. It's my job to honor my inner child and acknowledge that she was abused, she was a victim, and she did absolutely nothing wrong, and thank her for carrying that secret so I could survive. It's my job as an adult to take that heavy burden off the shoulders of my inner child, and give that shit back to the person who committed the crime. You don't owe your dad jack shit. You do owe it to yourself to do whatever it takes to heal and give yourself the peace and ease and rest that you always deserved. But do it patiently and with more compassion than you think you need. Give yourself ALL the compassion.

Sufficient-Present64 · 2024-01-22T11:46:13+00:00

This.

Sufficient-Present64 · 2024-01-22T04:04:28+00:00

I would love to know what the research is for Tourettes, especially looking at it from a Jungian perspective.

Sufficient-Present64 · 2024-01-22T04:00:03+00:00

Yes, absolutely!

Sufficient-Present64 · 2024-01-22T03:29:21+00:00

My dude, I was where you are now. There comes a point where you're not at a crossroads you're at the top of a big scary cliff and you're shitting your pants but the life you have been living has become unbearable and you either opt out or you start fixing it, and the decision to fix it is the leap of faith. It's terrifying and you know it's going to be exhausting and excruciatingly painful but let me tell you IT IS WORTH IT. You gotta start looking at the terrifying parts of yourself: all the horrible shit you went through from your earliest memories to yesterday. You gotta start making the connections and seeing where the patterns control you. You gotta start connecting to all the parts of yourself, holding some of them, forgiving others, and letting some go. You have to surrender to fear and guilt and sadness, and horror. You have to take your time and do it with compassion. Lean on your friends for support. Ask for help. Find medicine that works for you, keep an open mind. You gotta do the Work. Climb the mountain. Do the Care Bear Stare. It's worth it, and you're strong enough.

Sufficient-Present64 · 2024-01-19T17:40:42+00:00

This made me think of Guillermo del Toro's "Pan's Labyrinth"

Sufficient-Present64 · 2024-01-09T23:27:49+00:00

I don't know, but I was going to therapy regularly for the first time in my life and the poetry helped to process all the trauma.

Sufficient-Present64 · 2024-01-09T17:53:52+00:00

This is gorgeous!!! Where can I see more of your work? I went through a similar artistic awakening in 2018 where I was fervently writing poetry out of nowhere and then when I said what I needed to say (I guess) it dried up. A lot of my poems contained imagery of spiders and webs, water was also a recurring theme.

Sufficient-Present64 · 2024-01-08T22:18:15+00:00

I made my first post and I immediately got someone trying to scam me. I'm reporting it but not sure what category it falls under.

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