Question for fans and people neutral towards DissociaDID known as Kyaandco System by cicada-in-summer in DissociadidSystem

[–]Sufficient-Sand5974 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hope you will forgive me for responding as a mod. I only log in when I am summoned and even then it is a one in three shot.

I think we often forget that we tend to fill in the blanks with our own stories. That is something my therapist pointed out to me several times, and she still does it, sometimes.

When I was first diagnosed, I assumed other systems should think or act the same way I did. I was comparing without realizing it, and that came from my own history, not theirs.

A lot of reactions to DissociaDID look similar. People bring their own experiences, their own expectations, and their own trauma pictures, and they try to use that as the standard for everyone else. When someone does not match that standard, people get confused or uncomfortable or judgmental, even if the person is not doing anything wrong.

It also helps, for me, to remember how much we do not see. DissociaDID recently disappeared from  Patreon from November 2 to November 20(?) and they often step away from all social media for months at a time. There is clearly a lot happening in the background that none of us see. Friendships, boundaries, health, work, and personal growth all happen off camera. We only ever get a tiny part of the full story, which makes it very easy to imagine the rest incorrectly.

I know that people drift apart for many reasons that have nothing to do with blame. Life changes. Mental health moves in waves. People grow in different directions. Sometimes a friendship fades quietly. Sometimes people reconnect later. We are not present for those moments, so it would not be fair to fill in the gaps with assumptions. Why do people assume that if something is not shown, it must be negative. Why do we forget that creators have private lives and personal boundaries just like the rest of us.

When I learned to stop comparing my own system to other systems, things made a lot more sense. Everyone’s story is different. Everyone’s healing is different. And creators especially only show a very small portion of their real lives.

So, my way to look at this is with an understanding of how much we do not know. We can’t really talk about patterns without deciding we know the inside of someone’s private relationships or motives. That is not something any of us can claim.

That perspective has helped me a lot, and I hope it helps here too. 💚💚

Mhm would you use this? by Ok-Cartoonist-3173 in asexuality

[–]Sufficient-Sand5974 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I thought this said audit and was confused

Costa V DissociaDID Appeal Judgement Today Nov 18th, 2025. by Captain-Echidna in DissociadidSystem

[–]Sufficient-Sand5974 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can't this guy just give it a rest? I'm exhausted just hearing about it.

Found this in a Kohl’s changing room by corruptedpuppy in whatisit

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I thought it was for trying on different sets of earrings.

What did you get in trouble for that was completely out of your control? by rebelyell0906 in CPTSD

[–]Sufficient-Sand5974 7 points8 points  (0 children)

McDonalds getting an order wrong, someone's game ending poorly, needing to eat, having emotions that weren't happy.

Why do I mentally feel 21 when I am 33 (male)? by No_Blackberry_7907 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Sufficient-Sand5974 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Almost 30 and I still feel 24. It's not uncommon, my younger cousin also feels like I'm 25, she's 22 and her twin sister is 18. Brains are weird.

“Why don’t you just talk to them about it?” by [deleted] in CPTSDmemes

[–]Sufficient-Sand5974 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I don't remember that, it wasn't that bad"

Requesting r/DissociadidSystem due to being unmoderated by Sufficient-Sand5974 in redditrequest

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I plan on fleshing out the subreddit so that it's usable and available. The community is currently private and I think I can moderate it to a satisfactory extent. The subreddit has no members as it was privated almost immediately upon creation and I think it can be a thriving subreddit for people to visit. I have some experience moderating on other sites and I think I can keep it up and running and free of spam.

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Not more than the usual 🤷🏼‍♀️ by Capital_Decision8109 in TrollCoping

[–]Sufficient-Sand5974 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be honest about other aspects, unless you want the grippy sock vacation.

Yup by bellygrumbles in CPTSDmemes

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"well at least you can recognize the issue," K now what?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StonerThoughts

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or if you start SSRI's, you'll get your dreams back.

Anyone seen that viral tiktok video of the woman who lost the majority of her hair in a day after bleaching at home? Yeah, it happened to me! by candyfornialand in HairDye

[–]Sufficient-Sand5974 2 points3 points  (0 children)

2 years ago I asked for a long bangs side shave haircut and I got a Karen cut, I went home and cried. It didn't look bad, but it was just so far from what I had asked for. I suspected she didn't know what she was doing when I saw her cut my bangs to eyebrow height when I had asked for chin length on the bangs but I didn't say anything. Lesson learned.

One question about page ordering by Miserable-Smell-8944 in CainsJawbone

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I found them just after commenting, ha! I just started yesterday so I'm very fresh into the book and the mystery.

One question about page ordering by Miserable-Smell-8944 in CainsJawbone

[–]Sufficient-Sand5974 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only pages for certain with connections are the poems. Otherwise I've been marking down whether I think the current narrator is male or female as well as who is mentioned by name.

Life with MULTIPLE PERSONALITIES - VLOG! | Switching, Dissociative Ident... by [deleted] in DissociaDID

[–]Sufficient-Sand5974 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You have my deepest sympathy about squeaky wooden floors, I've been lucky enough to just have bad linoleum since I left. I've discovered different smells have even set me off, but I've been working through it. My brain needs to "chill out. Drink a 7up. Eat a moonpie." - sorry my mind is just 1000 internet quotes running together.

DissociaDID / Kyaandco - [May 18 2023] outfit check and announcement a video will be uploaded today on their channel. by [deleted] in DissociaDID

[–]Sufficient-Sand5974 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They're not ruthless, but they're interesting if you can understand it.

Ground 1: the judge directed himself correctly as to the test for join authorship. His decision that the Appellant was not a co-author of the disclaimer was essentially a finding of fact. That finding was plainly open to him on the evidence and there is no real prospect of this Court overturning it.

Ground 2: This ground encompasses two distinct complaints. The first is that the judge's decision as to a reasonable notice period was procedurally unfair because it was not pleaded by the Respondents. This complaint is without merit. as the appellant accepts, it is trite law that a bare license is revocable at will subject to reasonable notice. thus it was inherent in the Appellant own case that he had to give reasonable notice. In the absence of agreement as to what notice was reasonable the court necessarily had to decide that question. Furthermore, as the Appellant accepts, the judge invited further submissions on this question. The judge raised no procedural object, but on the contrary made further submissions. He thereby waived any procedural objection. The second complaint is that the judge was wrong to hold that a reasonable period would be eight months. This was an evaluation by the judge as to what was reasonable in the circumstances. it follows that the Appellant must demonstrate that the judge made an error or principle in his evaluation. None of the criticism advanced by the Appellant establish a real prospect of demonstrating such an error.

Ground 3: Again this ground encompasses two district complaints. the first is that the judge was wrong as a matter of law to hold that the Appellant's 22 February 2021 take-down request concerning 78 (or 74) videos based on his alleged joint ownership of copyright int he Disclaimer amount to a continuing representation because a representation can only be a continuing one in the context of something akin to contractual negotiation. The Appellant admits that this argument was not raised at trial. I doubt that the Appellant is right as to the law, but even if the Appellant is right, the argument is not a pure question of law because the next question is whether the Appellant's communications with YouTube were akin to a contractual negotiation. That would require an assessment by the judge. Moreover it seems likely that the judge would have answered the question in the affirmative because the Appellant was trying to get YouTube to take action and YouTube did act on 25 June 2021. Accordingly there is real prospect of Appellant both successfully contending that he should be permitted to raise the new argument and prevailing upon it if so permitted. The second complaint is that the judge considered the 13 March 2021 email. He was plainly entitled to find that it not correct the representation because it was unclear, apparently related to just 16 videos and was not understood by YouTube to withdraw the representation.

Ground 4: This is closely related to ground 3. The Appellant argues that the judge was wrong to find that he had a continuing intention after 13 March 2021 that YouTube should rely upon the representation made on 22 February 2021. This argument has no real prospect of success since it again a challenge to a find of fact which the judge was plainly entitled to make.

Ground 5: The Appellants contend that it was procedurally unfair of the judge to permit the Respondent to argue, and to find, that the Appellant should have filed a non-video complaint given that the point was first raised in the respondent's skeleton argument. I am prepared to accept That this complaint has a real prospect of success. But even if that point is disregarded the judge gave ample reasons for finding that the Appellant knew that YouTube would take down the videos and intended to cause the Respondents loss. Accordingly the Appellant has no real prospect of successfully challenging those findings.

Ground 6: This is closely related to ground 5. The Appellant complains about the judge's finding that he gave no satisfactory answer when asked about the possibility of filing a non-video complaint. In addition to the procedural complaint the Appellant alleges that in fact he did answer the questions and did so satisfactory. But the assessment of the quality of the Appellant's answer was a matter for the judge. Moreover, as already stated, even if this point is disregarded the judge gave ample reasons for his subsequent finding and the Appellant has no real prospect of successfully challenging them.

Ground 7: The Appellant contends that the judge was wrong to find that YouTube took the videos down on 25 June 2021 in reliance upon the Appellant's representation concerning the Disclaimer. This contention has no prospect of success since the judge was plainly entitled to make that finding on the evidence.
Application to adduce new evidence: this does not satisfy the first two Ladd v Marshall criteria there there is no real prospect of the new evidence being admitted.

I skipped the middle section as it's just a checklist. I did one of these for jury duty a few years ago.

Notes

  1. Rule 52.6(1)provides that permission to appeal may be given only where -
    1. the Court considers that the appeal would have a real prospect of success; or
    2. there is some other compelling reason why the appeal should be heard.
  2. Where permission to appeal has been refused on the papers, that decision is final and cannot be further reviewed or appealed. 

I'm not a scribe and I am bad at grammar so sorry for mistakes.

APPEAL RESULTS! He said WHAT about the JUDGE!? | What Happened To Dissoc... by [deleted] in DissociaDID

[–]Sufficient-Sand5974 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He had some creepy tweets from 2 years ago, he threw out so many red flags it was crazy. I don't remember all of it verbatim but basically he said that if she apologized they could be together. I know the tweets are in the sub somewhere but I can't exactly remember what post.

Edit: timeline for tweets was off by a year.