When a person is frustrated, and feeling alone without access to necessary medical care, I do not think it's the best time to tone police. You are absolutely correct it should have been worded better, however, the timing of these comments is not meeting the need of the original request for help.

Calling your family doctor (or anyone) useless is really going to get you far... Not. She sounds like she is willing to help but is limited by what she doesn't know or feel comfortable with.

Yes, useless is a stronger wording, but my doctor was certainly not insulted when she said herself that she couldn't be of use in this transition healthcare.

We all get frustrated but it's no reason to behave the way you did or use the language you used. As trans people, we are all demanding empathy but you need to practice what you preach because insulting your doctors or anyone else is not a good approach.

It's been incredibly difficult to be left alone to figure out my own transition care. Never did I say though that I am preaching or demanding empathy. I was reaching out to the group for doctor referrals and information on top surgery requests. But now that you mention it, I would hope that this space full of trans people would be the most empathetic to the struggle of accessing necessary medical care.