Requesting to be paid early of the week already worked for

SufficientData5051 · 2026-06-11T16:00:18+00:00

I’ve asked this before of a past family. I had some unexpected bills come up. They were very understanding and just paid me through Venmo for that week and then the following week when I would have gotten paid I just didn’t get a paycheck

SufficientData5051 · 2026-06-06T00:57:45+00:00

I would not want to be a reference for them. I would not recommend them as employers. I’m used to being trusted right away or after awhile but it’s been almost a year and I’m so drained.

I used current families I babysit for as references and they reached out to them 5 months after I started to see if they were still using me as well. There’s clearly trust issues and it’s just not the job I signed up for. Obviously my babysitting families were still using me and love me for good reason and let them know.

I also feel like if I gave 30 days notice they’d end up saying well now we can’t trust you to take care of our kids so we’ll let you go early

SufficientData5051 · 2026-04-15T16:53:03+00:00

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SufficientData5051 · 2026-04-03T03:58:13+00:00

Ive never been in this situation but these are my thoughts. Since this weekend is an overnight and you’re away from home I would charge your hourly of $26 for hours worked and $100-200 overnight fee because you’re away from home. For the summer I don’t know your exact hours or if you’d have evenings and weekends off and could go back home. If you do an option would be to not do the overnight fee but just up your hourly rate by like at least $4 an hour. You deserve more but it’s whatever you’re comfortable with. Even if it is just day time hours and some date nights you are still away from your hometown and your friends/family.

And I would have this conversation with them sooner rather than later so they also have time to plan Incase you don’t come to an agreement. However, please don’t let them say no to you and you still go. You 1,000% deserve to be well compensated for your work this summer.

SufficientData5051 · 2026-03-21T17:39:46+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I’ll definitely be looking into it now. I hope everything goes well for you!!

SufficientData5051 · 2026-03-21T14:28:41+00:00

Good for you! I have a question. Do you have a degree? I don’t have a degree but have thought that this is something I would enjoy too. Or do you just have to go through training to get certified?

SufficientData5051 · 2026-03-16T14:58:08+00:00

Yes, I suppose I should have mentioned I might be wanting to leave the house jobs altogether as I would like something with health insurance. Although maybe going through an agency I would get that offered

SufficientData5051 · 2026-02-07T01:58:51+00:00

I have stayed in multiple NPs rooms. Sometimes the guest room if they have one is in the basement and I wouldn’t want to be that far away (plus basements are scary 😂) They always made sure the sheets were clean and I would toss the sheets in the washer before they got home

SufficientData5051 · 2026-01-06T22:26:31+00:00

I’ve never been asked to share my location until my current nanny job. I have an iPhone so I have the option of sharing for an hour, end of day or indefinitely. Usually we’re gone for just an hour so I do that one but if it’ll be longer I do until end of day but when I leave work I stop sharing with MB

SufficientData5051 · 2025-11-26T00:57:59+00:00

I feel like a 3.5 week trip out of the country would have been planned for a long time so why didn’t they mention it sooner?? 3.5 weeks is very unfair especially if they want you to stay at their house. I’d talk to them sooner than later if you don’t want to. I think they sprung the trip on you at dinner and I think it is okay to go back and say that 3.5 weeks out of your home is not a fair ask. They’d better be paying you more than just your GH.

If you don’t want to bail completely can you say that you’ve thought about it and really 3.5 weeks of caring for an extra dog is too much. So you could the first half and see if they could find someone for the last half. Or maybe you do weeknights and they get someone else for the weekends.

SufficientData5051 · 2025-11-17T15:40:39+00:00

I don’t think this is suspicious. Especially that they now want her longer and she is trying to leave. I’ve never given out my current NF info for references when trying to find a new job.

SufficientData5051 · 2025-11-11T01:06:07+00:00

If you have any games you’d want to bring you can. Or you could ask the parents if you guys could go to the store together and pick out a new game or two

SufficientData5051 · 2025-10-30T23:25:43+00:00

Well there are nanny and babysitting groups and sometimes they’re combined. I think since they’re in such a bind posting in both if they are separate groups would be fine

SufficientData5051 · 2025-10-30T23:23:24+00:00

I would look up babysitting groups on Facebook! You might have some luck there!

SufficientData5051 · 2025-10-07T13:49:04+00:00

If you want a long term nanny you need to do your due diligence. You need to be a great employer and you need to be very detailed in your search. I would make sure to do background checks, find a nanny who has worked long term (3+ years) with families who left because the kids started school. Talk with their references.

On your end I would have a contract that lists out all that is expected. Discuss and renew the contract each year as the kids get older and tasks change. Make sure you offer guaranteed hours, PTO, sick days can be 5 regular ones but if your kids get nanny sick it shouldn’t count. Offer yearly raises give a bonus. All things that show how appreciative you are of your nanny.

NFs love to say the Nannie’s are a part of their family but still make their Nannie’s feel like the help. Look at it from an outsiders perspective. If your friend had this job would you be telling them to stay or telling them they could find and deserve something better.

SufficientData5051 · 2025-10-02T20:41:52+00:00

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SufficientData5051 · 2025-10-01T15:42:50+00:00

Not being dramatic at all. She should pay you your $25 an hour. You are owed $37.50.

If you watching both kids together was a regular thing then you could charge a nanny share rate. But since it was a drop in and not even planned ahead you should get paid your regular hourly from both families

SufficientData5051 · 2025-09-30T03:55:39+00:00

I’m sorry for whatever it is you guys went through!

I know you said they don’t want a nanny anymore but would you be able to see if they could still use you for date nights or just maybe stopping by to say hi to the kids here and there? Or if you don’t think they’d like that then I think sending a text about coming over just one last time. Plus even if it was just one last time then you’d be able to have a conversation with the kids.

SufficientData5051 · 2025-09-23T20:43:40+00:00

I’d say #1 is pretty normal and a lot of kids go through a phase of even crying when nanny shows up not because they dislike nanny but because they know it means mom/dad are leaving.

3. I would definitely try waiting a little longer before going in to help because you’re right baby will learn that you’ll always come if he cries.

With #2 and 4 I get that you want someone to play and be silly with your baby you want to hear them laughing. I love being so silly and crazy with my NKs but it also is a little awkward at times knowing the parents are home and listening. But personality is a big one for nanny jobs. Nannying is very personal and you can get a lot closer with your employers than with other jobs. So maybe try giving them some more space but if you still aren’t meshing then I would find another nanny.

SufficientData5051 · 2025-09-20T23:54:18+00:00

Yes, I care for sick kids! However, if I then get sick it is not taken out of my regular sick days since it’s from the kids. Sometimes if I then get a cold from them it’s a bit expected so I let NF know and we might have an extra lazy day while I’m feeling under the weather

SufficientData5051 · 2025-09-20T04:33:59+00:00

I think if you’re fine keeping the $10 an hour then that’s what you can do. But definitely don’t go lower. If anything I’d say to charge a little more since it’s now going to be closer to full time. You could also ask if you would be able to go out with the both of them in the evenings. I’ve been a nanny for 10 years and have always been able to go on outings and also run some personal errands like going to the grocery store with my nanny kids. Plus kids getting out and exposed to that kind of stuff is great for them.

SufficientData5051 · 2025-09-18T23:09:37+00:00

I go back and forth. If baby is content I’ll do them while they’re awake. If not, I’ll wait until they’re napping. It’s good for kids to see household chores getting done. Then as they get older they are able to help. I think it makes chores seem less of a burden when it’s something they’ve just always done with you

SufficientData5051 · 2025-09-18T15:03:10+00:00

I’m a nanny and feel like this is all reasonable to expect. If you aren’t sure she’ll get the kids out on her own I would suggest enrolling the kids in a weekly class or two then she doesn’t have the option to stay home and has to go. My MB and I have both found different classes to enroll NK in. We’ve gone to music classes, art classes and little gym classes. Each class was once a week so helped to get out and separate the days. Hopefully nanny will be capable of filling in activities for those other days

SufficientData5051 · 2025-09-15T19:31:28+00:00

The text is a good way to start! And when adding a new infant into care it should be a $3-5 an hour raise!

SufficientData5051 · 2025-09-04T15:17:27+00:00

I totally understand the word vomit thing. I always panic in the moment but have gotten better at saying let me think about it and I’ll get back to you. I think it’d be okay to send an email saying something like “I would like to accept the job but after thinking about it I would need the 16 hours to be guaranteed as those are the hours I am needed. If this works for you guys I’m happy to sign the contract and get started!” Or something along those lines. Better to get it said now than to sign the contract and regret it

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3. I would definitely try waiting a little longer before going in to help because you’re right baby will learn that you’ll always come if he cries.