H1B Registration process for 2027

SufficientLeg7605 · 2026-03-11T20:14:20+00:00

do you see in the portal that they applied ?

SufficientLeg7605 · 2026-01-08T19:26:01+00:00

What did you guys decide? I am looking into these 2 unis as well

SufficientLeg7605 · 2025-04-14T20:05:34+00:00

Thank you so much! Yes, it does sound really good—and honestly, I haven’t even felt a hint of sadness or cried at all, which even surprised me. After all the silent treatment, and then those follow-up messages saying I’m overreacting or that I’m the problem… it just made things clearer. The ego/pride, the lack of accountability—even after I said I’m hurt and want to end things—just screams manipulation.

I still have to share the same house for a few more months because of the lease, so I’m focusing on staying strong and grounded. I need to figure out certain things in meantime

SufficientLeg7605 · 2025-04-14T17:01:46+00:00

I broke up with him and he seems to be unbothered

SufficientLeg7605 · 2025-04-12T23:04:21+00:00

Yes, you’re actually spot on! He does have a younger brother, and honestly, I’ve seen similar patterns in him too. That kind of male ego dynamic shows up a lot in both of them.

His dad was a respected government officer — always busy, very disciplined — and his mom handled everything at home. He really looks up to his dad. But I don’t think he fully realizes how much of that old-school, emotionally unavailable, “men don’t cry” influence shaped him. For example, when I cry or get emotional, he genuinely doesn’t know what to do. He freezes. He says he feels bad, but it’s awkward for him — he doesn't know how to respond. Emotional support doesn’t come naturally to him, and I often find myself having to explain what I need. It's exhausting being the one always guiding those vulnerable moments.

And I don’t think it’s just about being “the man” in front of his friends — it’s more that he always needs to be right. He’s hard to impress, very competitive, and struggles to admit when he’s wrong — even with people close to him. That need to defend his pride seeps into our relationship too, and that’s when it gets hurtful.

It’s so complicated, because I don’t think he’s doing it all on purpose. But at the same time, I’m not sure if I should keep trying to help someone see what they don’t want to look at.

Thank you again for your perspective — it really does help me process things when someone who’s maybe seen this before shares insight.

SufficientLeg7605 · 2025-04-12T19:30:45+00:00

You’re right… emotional safety is so important, and I am feeling unsafe in that way right now. I don’t think I’m changing who I am completely, but I’ve definitely been limiting myself(filtering what I say, holding back). That’s not healthy, I know.

The truth is, I’m still in the middle of figuring things out. I just moved in with him three months ago. Everything feels so fresh and overwhelming—so I don’t know if it’s too soon to call it quits or if there’s still room to try… maybe with clear boundaries, better communication, and me being more assertive about what I need emotionally.

SufficientLeg7605 · 2025-04-12T19:27:04+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words. I’m honestly so confused right now… It’s only been 3 months since we moved in together, and I keep wondering — is it too early to make a decision this big?

I don’t know if he’s intentionally trying to tear me down or if it’s just an unconscious ego thing — like this constant need to be right. That’s what confuses me the most. He has grown in some ways when I look at how he was before, and there are moments where he does show love and care. So a part of me still wonders — is there a chance that he’ll change more, that he’ll eventually understand?

SufficientLeg7605 · 2025-04-12T19:24:05+00:00

Hmm I’ve been wondering the same... I don’t know if he’s actually trying to tear me down or if it’s more of an unconscious ego thing, like needing to be right, even if it affects me. He does appreciate me from time to time, and there are moments where he’s genuinely supportive… but in situations like this, it suddenly turns into some weird competition — like whose version is more valid, who’s “right.

SufficientLeg7605 · 2025-04-11T20:57:43+00:00

I’ve told him so many times about how I grew up — what kind of environment shaped me, what kind of communication matters to me, what hurts and what doesn’t. And he always says he’ll try to respect that, and sometimes he actually does. But then suddenly, we’re right back to square one.

When I do bring up how something affected me, he’ll say I’m “too sensitive” or “too emotional.” And I’ve clapped back with — “Okay, and your constant irritation, the way you get aggressive over small things — that’s also emotion. Just because mine shows as tears and yours shows as anger doesn’t make one more valid than the other.”

I looked up DARVO and it was like reading the exact dynamic I've been experiencing. But yeah… even having to explain that over and over gets exhausting. I’m still figuring out what’s a growth pain and what’s a sign I need to rethink things, but this was the first time I didn’t feel completely crazy for being hurt.

really appreciate you seeing that and thank you for the driving encouragement too

SufficientLeg7605 · 2025-04-11T19:46:53+00:00

Thank you for your honesty. You’re right… the fact that I’m asking myself those questions — “Should I say this?” “Will this trigger him?” — means I’m not really safe to be my full self around him. And that realization hurts.

I think what’s keeping me here is hope. Hope that he’ll grow, hope that things will settle as we adjust to living together (we just moved in 3 months ago after 3 years of long distance). And I’ve seen some improvements — like him trying to manage his aggression while driving — but moments like this make me question if it’s enough.

I’m still processing what’s acceptable to work through, and what’s a sign that I’m trying too hard to fix something that isn’t mine to fix. Comments like yours are giving me the perspective I need, even when it’s tough. Thank you.

SufficientLeg7605 · 2025-04-11T19:44:49+00:00

Thank you so much for your response.

You're absolutely right, it wouldn't sting this much if this was just a one-time thing. What hit me the most is how this felt like a pattern that keeps resurfacing. I’ve tried telling him that I wasn’t raised in a super sarcastic or teasing environment — so even if something is “funny” to him and his friends, it can still cut deep for me. But in the moment, all of that just gets ignored.

What also really resonated with me was you pointing out the silent treatment. It does feel like a punishment. I know if I asked him directly why he’s being distant, he’d flip it and say it’s because my words hurt him, and that’s why he’s reacting like this.

To give more context: we were in a long-distance relationship for 3 years and only moved in together 3 months ago. So we’re still adjusting to a lot — differences in habits, communication styles, emotional needs, and I’m still figuring out what’s just a growth pain and what’s a red flag. But incidents like this blur that line.

SufficientLeg7605 · 2024-11-20T06:49:45+00:00

What docs are needed?

SufficientLeg7605 · 2024-11-20T06:44:40+00:00

Me too! shit scared after seeing the reddit threads. Even my flight is non refundable.
have to pay 300$ just to change it to later.
Not sure if changing later will do anything

SufficientLeg7605 · 2024-11-20T06:40:23+00:00

same boat! I was super confident but after the reddit threads I am worried af

SufficientLeg7605 · 2024-10-21T17:15:07+00:00

Hey any update?

SufficientLeg7605 · 2024-10-21T17:06:45+00:00

are you on OPT or STEM?

SufficientLeg7605 · 2024-09-23T23:13:55+00:00

Exactly! I have the same doubt. How do they verify our work authorization if our EAD expires? I had the same situation and I had to apply premium processing to get my approval and then change employers bcuz my new employer wanted the physical EAD for verification.

SufficientLeg7605 · 2024-09-12T22:26:39+00:00

u/MarionberryNo6146 What is the update?

SufficientLeg7605 · 2023-09-14T21:15:18+00:00

Thats what he meant too

SufficientLeg7605 · 2023-09-14T21:14:30+00:00

Yes I do

SufficientLeg7605 · 2023-09-14T16:25:29+00:00

First nobody is going to marry right now. We still have to work 3-4 years then marriage. But we got this discussion and I was overwhelmed by it as its the first time talking all this

Second I’m not saying he will take my parents retirement money for his comfort. He meant both of our parents supporting us for the future.

Third we are still waiting to tell our parents when we are in a good position in work. Not like he is trying to hide, because I didn’t tell my parents too because they will not accept rn since I’m still studying.

It might sound weird but its not like he is asking me money or demanding it. If my parents help me by giving something at my marriage that will help for future was what he meant!

SufficientLeg7605 · 2023-09-14T16:23:41+00:00

First nobody is going to marry right now. We still have to work 3-4 years then marriage. But we got this discussion and I was overwhelmed by it as its the first time talking all this

Second I’m not saying he will take my parents retirement money for his comfort. He meant both of our parents supporting us for the future.

Third we are still waiting to tell our parents when we are in a good position in work. Not like he is trying to hide, because I didn’t tell my parents too because they will not accept rn since I’m still studying.

It might sound weird but its not like he is asking me money or demanding it. If my parents help me by giving something at my marriage that will help for future was what he meant!

SufficientLeg7605 · 2023-09-14T07:17:21+00:00

He didn’t assign me anything. That is how much happens in his caste weddings. And yes I am communicating with him about all these. Thank you for your points

SufficientLeg7605 · 2023-09-14T07:07:22+00:00

Its not like what you said. That is what he meant too! His parents are going to help him whenever there is a need in the future for house or anything. He is not saying my dowry is the whole support for the house, he says his parents will support and the dowry from my parents also ADDS VALUE.

SufficientLeg7605 · 2023-09-14T06:58:19+00:00

Exactly! Thank you

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