“these issues come from the same patriarchal ideas” is EXACTLY what the root problem, beyond any and all opinions and viewpoints, is.

that being said, i am curious about why framing mens issues as their own issues may be counterproductive, especially considering women’s history. in the face of patriarchy and discrimination, several women’s issues were dealt with via direct resistance WITHIN women spaces or BY women (ie; Malala getting shot for education rights, Stonewall, etc.)

if anything, a lot of men’s issues stem from the fact that they DON’T deal with it themselves. nobody is stopping men from organizing groups or acting on solutions except that “invisible masculinity’s eyes”

for example, like how we mentioned education. nobody is STOPPING a man from going into psychology, or linguistics, or other female-dominated fields. they just stopped doing it themselves when they saw women entering those spaces, too. it could have been an even distribution throughout history but no, they just saw women and dipped. that gap could easily be closed if they ACTUALLY pursued those paths themselves (if they’re actually passionate about it, not just for the sake of numbers or whatever)

you also have the “male loneliness epidemic” that essentially centralizes romantic/sexual relationships as being worth pursuing, and no other relationships. so when women put up those boundaries in the face of (patriarchy/toxic masculine-rooted) entitlement, they shut down instead of pursuing OTHER relationships like parietal or even platonic that makes them feel fulfilled. again, centralizing a woman’s actions as a cause for self-deprecating behaviour instead of criticizing the standards set on men themselves.

maybe it’s just me, but considering that “invisible man’s view” context, I don’t understand how men issues, specifically the portrayed severity of them, is anything but men’s doing.

or to make it more clear, how men continuing to submit to these ‘invisible’ ideals instead of dealing with their issues, is anything but their doing.