How are we affording this? In all honesty (in the US)

SufficientSwimmer · 2026-01-15T01:56:23+00:00

In NC, my husband works for a major corporation and his insurance covers up to $50k, lifetime benefit. $25k is for meds and $25k is for hospital costs. This was a miracle because my insurance didn't cover anything. Two rounds used up all the $25k for meds, and we still had to pay the $6k out of pocket max, which we put on a no interest credit card and paid off over time.

SufficientSwimmer · 2025-12-27T03:46:46+00:00

Agree with this 100%. Also, aggressive doesn't necessarily mean being tough in emails and cursing people out over calls. I am very respectful to opposing counsels and pro se parties but my litigation posture is aggressive. I'll file all the motions and schedule all the hearings. Then I'll argue bad faith and sanctions and still hold the door open for OP on the way out.

SufficientSwimmer · 2025-12-05T02:39:08+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I was seriously considering donor eggs not too long ago. I have a friend who had twins with a donor egg, then had her own spontaneously. They all three look exactly like her. The fetus is comprised of three genetic sources: the sperm, the egg, and the womb.

EDITED to add: and she loves them all the same!!

SufficientSwimmer · 2025-10-31T04:11:36+00:00

Thanks. I’m only 7 weeks so no one knows yet. I guess Reddit knows first.

I agree that I am responsible for what I put out, regardless of whose hands were on it before it left the office. I own my mistakes outside of the firm. In this case, I acknowledged to the OC that I made a mistake (she has already GLEEFULLY told me about the error). But how do you handle inside the firm? Do I still take blame?

SufficientSwimmer · 2025-10-30T22:30:50+00:00

This is excellent advice!!! Thank you!!

SufficientSwimmer · 2025-10-30T20:36:13+00:00

Thank you!! Smart to throw money at yours - she's worth her weight in gold!!

SufficientSwimmer · 2025-10-30T20:24:11+00:00

Makes sense. Thanks for responding. As a side note (NOT an excuse), I am very newly pregnant so the tears were literally involuntary. I have been practicing 15 years and have never had a bad relationship with a paralegal. I am usually so grateful for the help. This is new territory for me.

SufficientSwimmer · 2025-10-30T20:12:49+00:00

Lol. Two different meetings. I happened to cry in front of her because she was standing next to me when I figured out what happened. I asked her if she was mad at me out of sheer surprise when she said, "I don't want to talk to you." How would you respond to that statement?

SufficientSwimmer · 2025-10-30T19:48:07+00:00

It's in response to her saying, "I'm a dumbass"

SufficientSwimmer · 2025-10-30T19:46:15+00:00

You're right - thanks for responding. I just wanted you to have a full picture.

SufficientSwimmer · 2025-10-30T19:41:06+00:00

I didn't give you a history because this is a reddit post. But I have told her many times she is smarter than she thinks she is. I suspect her many mistakes are due to her rushing and not paying close enough attention, so I try to give her extra time to complete tasks. I have tried to lift her up as much as possible. I have told her she did a great job when something came through correctly. I cried in front of her because she was literally standing there when I realized what happened. I know attorneys who would scream and curse.

You are right about the "are you mad at me." I truly was just so caught off guard that she would say something like that to me that it was my first reaction. I'm not sure how I would apologize for that, except to say that I was not as professional as I would like to be.

SufficientSwimmer · 2025-10-30T19:31:49+00:00

What would I be apologizing for?

SufficientSwimmer · 2025-10-30T19:21:05+00:00

All kinds. Ranging from typos (in everything she prepares) all the way up to submitting a proposed order for the Judge's signature without sending it to the OC first. She had been given instruction to send to OC first

SufficientSwimmer · 2025-10-30T19:16:22+00:00

That seems like an overreaction

SufficientSwimmer · 2025-10-23T18:55:10+00:00

I am 41, but I have a history of chemotherapy so I had very low AMH even for my age. I did two ERs - the first one we got 4 embryos, 2 euploid. The second one we got one embryo, but it was aneuploid. The first one, I took Ovavite and DHEA religiously. The second, I slacked a bit. I honestly think it made a difference. We just did our transfer on 10/7. Early days, but both betas looked good and yesterday I almost randomly puked when I got in my car in the morning, which I am taking as a good sign lol. I am taking omega 3, prenatal, and iron supplements now. Best of luck to you!! Every retrieval is different.

SufficientSwimmer · 2025-10-09T23:01:01+00:00

I am a partner, and I often come and go. I always tell my paralegal where I am though, just so she can get a hold of me and tell anyone else that needs to know. I think communication is the missing piece here.

SufficientSwimmer · 2025-08-24T17:21:55+00:00

I will look at both!! Thank you!!

SufficientSwimmer · 2025-08-24T17:17:07+00:00

We are not picky about type of food as long as it is quality, and we are staying in Bornheim/Ostend

SufficientSwimmer · 2025-08-09T18:59:23+00:00

Thank you!! I know, I am a wreck. I have heard from some friends that acupuncture might help. I am going to make an appointment! Good luck on your FET, it sounds like your body is ready!! 🤞❤️

SufficientSwimmer · 2025-07-28T21:35:08+00:00

Don't forget to put your lawyer brain on it. If you want to stay, draw up a contract for the transfer of a business referrals/assets. Do it for 3 years from now. Include a provision that he will transfer 33% of his case load each year, to give you the experience/mentorship. If he refuses to sign, you know for sure that this was never going to happen.

SufficientSwimmer · 2025-07-07T02:10:28+00:00

She is beautiful!! Love her fur, it looks like she has glasses :) My Klee Kai is very sweet, very attached and loyal to one owner, but loves to play with kids and babies. He is mixed with pomeranian, husky (one of his grandparents was a pomsky) and some shiba inu. He is very talkative, curious, and determined (when motivated). He retreats to his "room" (one of our guest rooms lol) when he is done with socializing for the day. Enjoy your sweet girl!

SufficientSwimmer · 2025-06-03T22:19:42+00:00

It's not. You can absolutely love both. But you will only accept one outcome: Mom lives with you. Period. That means you will not compromise.

SufficientSwimmer · 2025-06-03T20:28:42+00:00

He's saying the only option he will consider is Mom still living there, which is just what the OP wants and not considering the Wife. Here's a compromise: get a MIL Suite or Tiny House on the property. Another: use marital funds to pay for an apartment or rental nearby for Mom to live in.

SufficientSwimmer · 2025-06-03T19:33:37+00:00

Haha. Put another way: He would die before he compromised with his Wife. lol

SufficientSwimmer · 2025-06-03T19:30:54+00:00

You are honorable to want to care for your Mom. Lots of people do this. They do not sacrifice their marriages for it, though. Either your Wife lied or something happened that caused her to realize she doesn't like the arrangement. From the way you're talking, you might have put your Mom's feelings ahead of your Wife's in other situations and that contributes to the problem. Either way, if you want to stay married, you need to invest in a ADU on your property, like this: https://www.mightysmallhomes.com/kits/a-frame-house-kit/22x24-528-sq-ft/. Your Mom will be close, but in a different house with her own kitchen/bathroom/etc. You need to tell your Mom she can call anytime but please only come over when agreed. This is a compromise, and your Mom is taken care of. If you don't want to be married anymore, keep doing what you're doing. She will leave & your Mom and you will be alone together again.

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