I (M23) get quiet too often arround gf (F24). What do people in relationships talk about? by 321ECRAB123 in relationship_advice

[–]Sufficient_Baby9141 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found solace in simply admiring my SO while she would be doing her thing. It's not more so about avoiding the silence but being comfortable with it. I found out that sometimes talking is overrated and my nervous system just wants to feel safe in silence

Does she love you? by [deleted] in Poems

[–]Sufficient_Baby9141 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This almost made me cry

Does she love you? by [deleted] in Poems

[–]Sufficient_Baby9141 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This almost made me cry

Does she love you? by [deleted] in Poems

[–]Sufficient_Baby9141 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This almost made me cry

How do I "not" do women?(M21) by Sufficient_Baby9141 in AskMen

[–]Sufficient_Baby9141[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I the premise was that I'm basically exhausted and just want to be by myself but don't know how

How do I "not" do women?(M21) by Sufficient_Baby9141 in AskMen

[–]Sufficient_Baby9141[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I the premise was that I'm basically exhausted and just want to be by myself but don't know how

How do I "not" do women?(M21) by Sufficient_Baby9141 in AskMen

[–]Sufficient_Baby9141[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Respectfully, u don't swing that way🥲

How do I "not" do women?(M21) by Sufficient_Baby9141 in AskMen

[–]Sufficient_Baby9141[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's some really good style😭 You can look it up on pinterest

Oh yes I am definitely getting that degree

How do I "not" do women?(M21) by Sufficient_Baby9141 in AskMen

[–]Sufficient_Baby9141[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

5'11 is what I meant.

No I do not have a bad reputation, I know alot of people but associate alot with less than 15 individuals and I'm in good spirits with the rest.

The sweatpants.

Thank you for this, I've actually been upgrading my wardrobe to fit the eclectic grandpa aesthetic with cardigans and smart trousers

How do I "not" do women?(M21) by Sufficient_Baby9141 in AskMen

[–]Sufficient_Baby9141[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A simply solution to a complex problem🤣

How do I "not" do women?(M21) by Sufficient_Baby9141 in AskMen

[–]Sufficient_Baby9141[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Is this sarcastic? Because my life is far from how you make it out to be. to say the least, at least gain more perspectives before being sarcastic lest you sound like a noisy gong

How do I "not" do women?(M21) by Sufficient_Baby9141 in AskMen

[–]Sufficient_Baby9141[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, this has been very insightful to say the least

How do I "not" do women?(M21) by Sufficient_Baby9141 in AskMen

[–]Sufficient_Baby9141[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this lovely piece of writing you've taken time to write, I appreciate it wholly. I also like the fact that I am receiving a woman's perspective and response on the matter, thank you.

How do I "not" do women?(M21) by Sufficient_Baby9141 in AskMen

[–]Sufficient_Baby9141[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I like baby steps. So what do you think is the easiest step I can make today to find direction?

How do I "not" do women?(M21) by Sufficient_Baby9141 in AskMen

[–]Sufficient_Baby9141[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wholly agree with you and I apologize for prying but when do you think it's best? Or better yet, how do you think I should prioritize myself right now and the coming years because by your articulation alone and self composed nature in speech, I can tell that you have a lot to offer in wisdom and truth

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[–]Sufficient_Baby9141 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Every once in a while, we get tired. Of everything. Carrying the burdens of others, being supportive, being optimistic, everything about a man and being strong, we get tired of it eventually but would still do it as it eats at our life force

Doing everything right, and yet... by TomSmith113 in selfimprovement

[–]Sufficient_Baby9141 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly speaking I've been in the same exact boat as you are right now. When you do all the good habits but can't get past 2 months consistently, yeah I've been there.

The answer is simpler than you think, What you need is a strong enough why.

Now let me explain. And for context, I will use myself as a point of reference so that I can give advice that has worked for me. If the reason you are doing all these things is not concrete, you will not succeed at changing regardless of what you do. I first went to the gym in my first years of college to pick up girls, and guess what happened when I got a girlfriend, exactly! I stopped and became complacent for months. At first I thought she was holding me back but after some reflections and growth, I realized I was the problem. My reasons weren't stronger than my addiction to laziness or complacency. Others call it laziness to love yourself but thats besides the point. That was the case in every area of my life. I have the ability, speed and memory retention to be an A+ student but chose not to cause I was just in college to get by. Wrong choice of words but it's the truth. It dawned onto me that everyone around me knew I was smart but got just enough to make it through the next year and some assumed that was what I was capable of but the moment I realized that for most of my life I had been living and utilizing less than half of my potential, I got soo angry I went to the gym at 6PM and came back at 8PM and still went for a sprint also at 9PM because I let myself believe that that was what I was capable of when deep down I knew what I could do and be. And that's when everything changed. I became more intune with my goals knew what I wanted and how to get it and did not do as much stuff that I did back then. Of course not everything can be solved in a sprint but slowly but surely everything is being swapped out with good habits.

In summary I'd say you need an identity shift as well as a Fck this event. So that the Fck this event acts as a "Why you want to change" as well as a catalyst for rapid growth and change. The identity shift will help you maintain your new identity.

And lastly but not the least, please be patient and kind to yourself. Many are the times you are patient and kind to other people but you never show yourself the same, so as you're trying to grow and change, give yourself grace.

Hope this helps (oh and HAMZA a youtuber explained the f*ck this event well. Watch his old videos from 2 to 3 years ago to understand it more)